We first got engaged in December of 2008 and started planning a wedding right away. I asked several close friends to be bridesmaids thinking we would be married within a year.
Well we ended up purchasing a home and he went back to school so our wedding was pushed back. No big deal, what's one more years?
One of the girls I asked was a neighbor that I had gotten close to and considered a good friend. Now that we have moved, we don't see each other nearly as often as we live very separate lifestyles. She's a night owl, I have a 9-5. However, she seems to be spiraling out of control with her drinking and maybe even using? I still consider her a friend, but I would not consider us close at all anymore as I have distanced myself.
Now I look back and really regret it. She's very very flakey, which is fine, but she certainly won't be helpful for the wedding as I don't feel like she is reliant in any way. Also, I cringe imagining her with my family, telling inappropriate stories and boozing it up at rehearsal dinners.
I think I need to disinvite her, but still would like to invite her to the wedding! What do you think would be the best way to do this? She's super emo, and I am worried about her having a blowup..... anyone been through this? Thanks in advance.