Limited Guest List!

shakeupsnow13 · March 2010

We are having a reception for 75-100 people. After family is invited we barely have enough room for all of the friends we really want to be there. Now I am stressing about work people! There are about 4-5 that I would love to be there but that is pushing it as far as our limit. Do I have to invite the boss, president, etc? We are a pretty close knit company and I have been here over 10 years. Could I somehow let them know they can come to the ceremony but the reception is for family and close friends w/out sounding rude?

Help!!

shellydiane820 · March 2010

You can't do that without being rude.

If you can't fit them in, don't invite them.

amagwire · March 2010

I don't think inviting someone to the ceremony but not the reception is a good idea. It's like saying, you're good enough to see me get married, but not good enough for me to pay for your meal. In this case, I would invite the 4-5 people you really want to be there or none at all.

squirrly · March 2010

No, you can't invite them to just the ceremony and not the reception. That's terribly rude.

Are these people you would go to dinner with? If yes and you have room - invite away. If not - don't.

tidetravel · March 2010

1) do not invite someone to the ceremony only. If you can't afford to feed them, they can't come

2) You don't HAVE to invite anyone. However, if you do invite work people, they should be people that you are close enough with that you have a personal relationship with outside of work. Send the invites to their house, not to the office, and keep wedding related talk to a minimum.

3) if your coworkers have SOs, they need to be invited as a couple.

ac_in_dc · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-guest-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2d133572-420f-4176-b3c7-7227e51635efPost:4bb1e8eb-534b-414a-a6c7-0856dbc7cbef">Limited Guest List!</a>:
[QUOTE] Could I somehow let them know they can come to the ceremony but the reception is for family and close friends w/out sounding rude?
Posted by shakeupsnow13[/QUOTE]

Nope, this isn't going to work. Guests need to be invited to both.

If you invite no one from work it's probably OK, just don't talk about the wedding in the office. And let them know it's an extremely small, family-only wedding if anyone asks (and IMO you can even tell a white lie about the # of guests you're having and say it's going to be 50 or something). They'll probably want to have a happy hour or something for you either way, though, which is totally OK.

If you really would like to celebrate with some of your co-workers, though, maybe rethink the family invites? I feel like folks you have spent every day with for the past 10 years may warrant more consideration than a second cousin you've seen maybe once in that time period.

Mrs.B6302007 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-guest-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2d133572-420f-4176-b3c7-7227e51635efPost:4bb1e8eb-534b-414a-a6c7-0856dbc7cbef">Limited Guest List!</a>:
[QUOTE]We are having a reception for 75-100 people. After family is invited we barely have enough room for all of the friends we really want to be there. Now I am stressing about work people! There are about 4-5 that I would love to be there but that is pushing it as far as our limit. Do I have to invite the boss, president, etc? We are a pretty close knit company and I have been here over 10 years. Could I somehow let them know they can come to the ceremony but the reception is for family and close friends w/out sounding rude? Help!!
Posted by shakeupsnow13[/QUOTE]

never okay to exclude a ceremony guest from the reception

luckyme502 · March 2010

Don't invite any of them? Our guest list is 68. It is almost entirely family. We are leaving off close friends. We just tell people that we are limited by the space at the venue and we wanted to keep it small and intimate with family only.

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