Strippers......

Denise91980 · January 2011

DH went to a booby bar! I didn't really care. You only have one bachelor party (hopefully..lol). I actually picked him and his friend up from the strip club, that's how much I was against it...lol

akcrrr · January 2011

The whole bachelor party thing is a nightmare because I feel that even if the guy didn't want to go to a strip club he would feel that he has to because that is "what you do".

My fiance and I are pretty open about this kind of stuff and he has gone to strip clubs in the past and I could care less about how many boobs and butts he looks at (I like the comment about throwing his computer out if I cared about that).

The only problem I have with strip clubs in general is that there is ALWAYS a lot more available than just looking. I know that my Fiance would never pay or seek out something other than that, but that doesn't mean one of his idiot friends won't pay for "something" for him.

USER876 · January 2011

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[QUOTE]Just speaking for myself here, but going to a strip club seems relatively harmless in that they're only looking, not touching (you might know something I don't here, but don't strip clubs disallow touching?) and it's just sort of a guy thing to do for a bachelor party? I'm pretty sure that if I was concerned about him looking at naked girls that aren't me, I'd have to throw his computer out a window. As I already said, I would kill him if they hired strippers to come to a private party. Haha, I presume "mileage" refers to the amount of nudity? That's an awesome euphemism.
Posted by ellev[/QUOTE]

Mileage refers to the amount of contact/privacy that can be obtained. Montreal has a high reputation for that, same with vegas, florida, texas,etc.

NJ is a bit more strict. If there is alcohal, there is no nudity allowed. These are called bikini bars, and only flashing is allowed. The lapdance room is another story......

Juice bars, don't serve alcohal, but are fully nude. In other locations (and most other states), such as Montreal, you can find fully nude establishments that serve alcohal.

Lap Dances (even in NJ) involve contact. I don't think people would pay for them if it was just "watching"

Pharo47 · January 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Strippers...... : Mileage refers to the amount of contact/privacy that can be obtained. Montreal has a high reputation for that, same with vegas, florida, texas,etc. NJ is a bit more strict. If there is alcohal, there is no nudity allowed. These are called bikini bars, and only flashing is allowed. The lapdance room is another story...... Juice bars, don't serve alcohal, but are fully nude. In other locations (and most other states), such as Montreal, you can find fully nude establishments that serve alcohal. Lap Dances (even in NJ) involve contact. I don't think people would pay for them if it was just "watching"
Posted by USER876[/QUOTE]

There is actually a few strip clubs that I've been to in Jersey that are full nudity and do allow alcohol (in fact you can bring your own). However, it's only beer and no hard booze. Personally, I think a lap dance is a waste of time and money. Watching and socializing with my friends is good enough for me. Majority of guys that really push the lap dances are probably investing a little extra. I don't get anything out of a lap dance since the girl pretty much hates men anyway and is only doing the dance to squeeze you out of more money.

USER876 · January 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Strippers...... : There is actually a few strip clubs that I've been to in Jersey that are full nudity and do allow alcohol (in fact you can bring your own). However, it's only beer and no hard booze. Personally, I think a lap dance is a waste of time and money. Watching and socializing with my friends is good enough for me. Majority of guys that really push the lap dances are probably investing a little extra. I don't get anything out of a lap dance since the girl pretty much hates men anyway and is only doing the dance to squeeze you out of more money.
Posted by Pharo47[/QUOTE]

Funny....yes some juice bars allow you to bring your own cooler and get around NJ law. However, they can't "serve" it or supply it.

Yup, 99.999% of the time the girl is just trying to get more money out of you, however, guys are suckers and like the attention. You wouldn't believe some of the stories some of these dancers would tell me. Some of their "regular clients" would come in, buy them dinner every night, bring them gifts, even hand them 1000 dollars cash.

HobokensFury · January 2011

FI really doesn't want them but I'm sure his friends will drag him to the strip club. I'm totally ok if he goes to a club (because they have rules) but I'd be uncomfortable if they hired one to come to someone's house.

USER876 · January 2011

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[QUOTE]FI really doesn't want them but I'm sure his friends will drag him to the strip club. I'm totally ok if he goes to a club (because they have rules) but I'd be uncomfortable if they hired one to come to someone's house.
Posted by HobokenBride2012[/QUOTE]

Just curious what you think these rules are?

justad0reme · January 2011

Would I have one in my bachelorette? nope. Would I get mad if he was to go to a strip club? Probably not, I know him well enough to know that it wouldn't be his idea and more his buddies. I probably wouldnt get mad at them either if that's what they want to do. I know my fi well enough to know that he would be a a little gross out if he was to be given a lap dance even tho I'm sure he would enjoy it after all he is a guy. But I'm also confident enough to know (and trust him) that a lap dance wouldnt break off or harm our relationship...as long as its just that.

uppereastgirl · January 2011

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[QUOTE]It surprises me at the number of people here that are totally ok with the whole strip club thing. Unless the rest are just lurking and afraid to post. I don't know, going to a strip club is one thing, but going all the way to montreal just because the strippers are better? Don't you find that kind of insulting?
Posted by USER876[/QUOTE]

<div>My husband did just that. I didn't care. We live in NYC so going out in NYC isn't exciting to us, and he and his friends had been to Vegas enough times that they didn't feel like going again, so Montreal seemed like a good "new" destination for a boys' weekend. I don't think it was because NY strippers aren't good enough, but rather because it isn't all that exciting to go to DelFrisco's/Flashdancers when both are three blocks from your office. I wasn't insulted. It wasn't like any of them were going to be buying sex from these girls. And I went to Miami for my bachelorette party, so who am I to complain? :)</div><div>
</div><div>I've been to strip clubs probably more often than my husband (I lived with a guy friend for two years and his friends really liked strip clubs, so that was a typical end to our evenings out). I've gotten lap dances. I've never seen anything go down at a strip club that I wasn't okay with. I absolutely trust my husband. I would have been a bit more nervous if it was a stripper in a hotel room deal because I know of a lot of people who have paid for things there, but I know my husband wouldn't do anything stupid, and even his friends who would in theory maybe MAYBE do something stupid are too cheap and lame to do anything stupid. And even so, as long as it isn't my husband doing something stupid, I don't care if he's around stupidity.</div><div>
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altimat873 · January 2011

My FI has gone to stripclubs for manyyy bachelor parties so Im ok with my fiance going for his should they choose to do that HOWEVER I recently objected to a bachelor party he was invited to where the LIMO COMPANY PROVIDED STRIPPERS WHO GOT TOTALLY NAKED IN THE LIMO! Im sorry but to me thats a hooker LOL

KristenZero · January 2011

He doesn't want them. I know it sounds crazy but strippers and strip clubs gross him out. I think he is going to play golf and get an excellent meal or play paintball. If he wanted to go though I wouldn't care. We've been to a strip club before for a Jack and Jill and I think I enjoyed it more than he did. Some of those girls really know how to work the pole. Climbing all the way to the top and than slowly sliding down, upside down. Seriously impressive.

I am hoping to go to a Drag Burlesque show.

JerseyML · January 2011

He is either going to Vegas or Amsterdam. I am aok with most things. Keep your pants on..play on.

On a side note..Male strippers are gross. If I am going to have strippers they have to be women or no go.

TripleJTobe · January 2011

That would be a Hell-to the-NO on strippers for either of us.haha
We're both comepletely grossed out by them- he actually more so then me- I'm marrying a little germ-a-phobe hehehe That's not to say that I have issues with what other couples choose to do. I think it can absolutely be harmless fun, but things can easily cross the line and after hearing a few stories- I'll pass thanks- blech!

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