My poor son is going to be married in 3 wks to a woman I THOUGHT I knew. Turns out, I was totally wrong and not the unselfish, loving person I thought she was. Now there's nothing I can do but wait out the time til he gets his heart broken when the bloom is off the rose and his eyes are opened, and pray there are NO CHILDREN while that happens.
I had believed we got along well, her and I. Not all the time, but was a relatiohinship worth building on because of how much I believed she loved my son. Well, this past yr. has shown me a side of her that I can't believe. What started out as something so stupid, I forget what it is. Then heightened to where we weren't even on he wedding invites as parents of the groom. To where now SHE IS INSISTING ON SOME KIND OF APOLOGY FROM ME! So to keep my son's life less stressful I actually did reach out to her and wished her a happy birthday which went unanswered. And even went so far as to send her an apology card which ,said I was wrong, and if I inadvertently had done anything to hurt either of them, I am so sorry, and can't we just let the rest of the time be a joyful and happy one. THAT, TOO, WENT UNANSWERED. i Then find out from my husband that they did not accept my apology because of the wording!
My son has decided not to talk to me or see me for the past few mths. and when he came into the house today to see his brother, he didn't acknowledge me at all. I have finally gotten to the point where I am not going to attend. I came to the epiphanyy that I can be heart broken for the next few wks and then spend 4 excrutiating hrs being ignored, hurt, and disrespected at the weddinng or come to the realizationn that whether I go or not, I will be hurt, but I don''t have to purposelly put myself through it at the weddinng. That if I accept I'm not attending now and let it go at that, the pain will subside and I can plan a nice weekend getaway for myself the weekend of the 'fiasco.'
The dear girl just doesn't understand yet (or she's very ignorant) that she may have won the battle and I wno't be attending, she hasn't won the war. And I mean as much to himm as her mom does to her, and how she would feel by her not being there is EXACTLY how he's going to feel. And it may take a while, but he will start to resent the fact that he was pushed into this, and things will unravel.
I wanted so much for my son to have a happy life with a loving woman. I really thought he had found someone who loved him enough to, even if she thought she had a point, would put it aside for his sake. And, frankly, short of killing one of her familymembers, I just can't think of a single thing that would warrant all that has gone one.
In point of fact, her soon to be brotherinllaw just had surgery two days ago and NOT A SINGLE WORD FROM THIS GIRL to him. Any present I've ever bought her has been left here. Any invites for family dinners over the yrs when my son has been away have gone unanswered. She's has it out for his sister and his brother's girlfriend. In fact, I don't think there's a single thing she's done for HIS FAMILY come to think of it.
I wish this day was past and that he didn't show up at the church. But I just think she's manipulated the situation enough to where she's totally right and everyone else is wrong. Ah, love, how truly blind it can really be. I was even fooled for a long time about her, and so was the rest of my famiy But even they are seeing her true colors slowly but surely and are having serious doubts too. I just wish it wasn't this way as he''s my son and I don't wish this on anyone. I really hoped he was marrying soeone who loved him. It's all been so sad and now nothing can change it.