I'm conflicted. Here's the background:
J and I are getting married in Las Vegas in April. We each have three attendants and we have informally extended an invitation for them to have a "plus one". J's best man has become a best friend to me as well, the three of us are very close. Best man's girlfriend rarely hangs out with us and has always been a pain. We had a get together with our wedding party and he brought her and she sat in the corner and didn't talk to anyone the entire time. She also made him sit with her so he was out of the mix as well.
It has always been the assumption that she would be best man's plus one, but now I am thinking about telling him he is no longer able to have a plus one. Here's the biggest reason.
This past weekend we all went to our best man's brother's wedding. Best man's gf complained the ENTIRE time about how it should be her and best man's wedding, not his brother. She talked to EVERYONE on both sides about it and then started a HUGE fight with best man about it right in the middle of the reception. He was so upset and embarrassed that he couldn't hold back the tears...or the urge to fight back. They fought with each other the whole night, in the middle of the reception and all of the guests had to avoid them the entire time or we'd get roped into their drama. Then they left early. Best man is an amazing guy and so much fun...when his gf is not around. She had the nerve to say to me, "I hate this night, it should be me...this sucks...etc." In my head I'm thinking, Is this what this b*&% is going to be talking about at MY wedding, since we're getting married before her too?
If any of this makes sense, my question now is, can I tell best man that he no longer has the luxury of a plus one? I don't want his gf to ruin my wedding too. She is all everyone could talk about and focus on at the reception because they made such a scene. There will be a total of 23 people at my wedding and they all love us and want to be there to celebrate...except for her. I had a very bad feeling she is going to act the same way in Vegas and ruin our time, best man's time...everyone's time.
I don't want to tell him she can't come. I honestly think that he doesn't want her to come either...their relationship is pretty complicated. I don't have the power to break them up...that's not my place. But this is our wedding and neither me or J want her to there if she's going to cause drama. So I have the power to not extend a plus one??
They haven't bought their plane tickets yet so there is still time to tell him that he is the only person invited.
But I don't know if it's appropriate to tell him he isn't allowed to bring anyone. Is it?