In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:ebd88978-ca63-4b1a-910a-b7d81ec2d579">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : He also whined about our judgment thread. Who does that? Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]
Looks to me that my complaint about the judgement thread was identical to Cew's motivation for starting this thread; i.e., tired of seeing the same thread over and over again. For her it is evidently the ask me anything thread that comes every few days, for me it was the judgement thread that gets started every few days or so. I try to start new threads when I can but frankly I don't have that many wedding-related things to talk about so I don't that often.
I agree about the knottie polls - plus no one ever thinks of me. Like helloooo I would be fun to have sex with in a spaceship with a banana!!! Bitches. :-)
Also I agree that it's gotten too nice. I went into that bridesmaidzilla post the other day expecting fire and was sorely disappointed. I like the niceness when it comes to real things that are talked about but I miss the calling out of crazy brides.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:f44135a1-4e54-4369-9d4d-6b3953e964c1">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]Nothing about looks of course. But also, don't callout someone for a different lifestyle choice or personal preference. Ex: Soandso, I can't believe you voted for Obama. Boo, you suck. Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
But, what would we call out then? I mean most of the stuff (drama) that happens on here is based on personal preference/beliefs. I don't mean saying something like "you voted for obama? you're stupid". But I don't see a problem with the situation you mentioned.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:f44135a1-4e54-4369-9d4d-6b3953e964c1">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]Nothing about looks of course. But also, don't callout someone for a different lifestyle choice or personal preference. Ex: Soandso, I can't believe you voted for Obama. Boo, you suck. Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
I mean, when you put it that way yeah - but I have no problem with people challenging why some one thinks Obama sucks. What you mentioned above reflects more poorly on the person saying it because they can't make a coherant arguement rather than as a knock on the person who voted for Obama.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:85c83891-3e31-4fe0-9ef8-1b4260e0804b">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : Misunderstanding on my part, believe me, I will debate something if it is something I have an opinion on and feel someone else is wrong. Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
I truly hope so. I look forward to hearing more of your opinions.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:1006e7d7-d27f-4f63-8c47-592e4c26cec9">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]I love wedding related posts. For realsies. Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
I gotta say it- I think everyone is trying too hard here. Either trying too hard to be nice, trying too hard to start controversy, or trying to hard to make the board busier.
When I started hanging out here (only a few months ago), the reason I liked the board so much was because it was just so... 'whatever.' Maybe it's the ridiculous E vs SB stuff (which I still don't know the whole story, nor do I want to know.) or maybe it's the mood and carefulness to not be mean, thanks to the stupid callout site.
Just stop talking about we should try to post about, or not post about, and just go back to talking about whatever (WR or NWR.)
Just my two cents. Which might not count for much since I'm not on very often lately...
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:456ed1a3-630c-4233-a343-1bb5ddb14a6a">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]Just stop talking about we should try to post about, or not post about, and just go back to talking about whatever (WR or NWR.) Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]
But see that's the thing. If we don't talk about it, before you know it, there will be a AMA thread every night because that will be the new board 'culture'. If that's the way things go, that's fine, but that doesn't interest me and the board will be less entertaining to me. Why shouldn't we be able to talk about what does and doesn't entertain us about the board?
We actually did a shitton of that when we first started posting here and I liked being a part of creating the board that we wanted. This is just a recalibration of sorts. Am I thinking too hard? Probably.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:6d5f09eb-9f97-44f5-b50f-46265b069929">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : Sorry for trying to add some lighthearted entertainment to the board; I'm sure your ten thousand posts have all been 100% on topic, useful and relevant. Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
I don't think this was the point. But since you bring up post counts... This is my POV on why you might bug some people. You're relatively new, and you seem to have gotten a lot of street cred because you're a dude, and not necessarily from being a part of this community. People with 10,000 posts and a lot of us have "paid our dues" by getting to know the board, making relationships, putting in time, being there for each other's wedding planning, trying to be helpful, etc. for years. It doesn't mean you can't be liked or don't deserve it, but I can understand why some people might be like, "I don't get it" about you.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:70f50cd8-0e99-4884-b214-9634779979f6">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]And while we're at it, NS, you know that I love you, but sometimes I can't tell if you really do have that much trouble making decisions or if you are just starting threads to talk. If you just want to talk, I say go for it. At least that way, people won't think less of you for not knowing how to handle some fairly simple situations. Posted by cew515[/QUOTE] Definitely just chatting related, except maybe H's ridiculous umbrella qualifications. I had no idea where to buy such an umbrella and ultimately, I don't think they exist.
I'd prefer less threads if it means the ones that are created are more intriguing, i.e. controversial, evoke strong opinions, wedding related or problem solving. But all I have to contribute is a penis so don't make any decisions based on my opinion.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:80ca45d7-dd7a-4daa-aef3-0e7d7c1a92cf">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : I don't think this was the point. But since you bring up post counts... This is my POV on why you might bug some people. You're relatively new, and you seem to have gotten a lot of street cred because you're a dude, and not necessarily from being a part of this community. People with 10,000 posts and a lot of us have "paid our dues" by getting to know the board, making relationships, putting in time, being there for each other's wedding planning, trying to be helpful, etc. for years. It doesn't mean you can't be liked or don't deserve it, but I can understand why some people might be like, "I don't get it" about you. Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
This this THIS is why I love you to the moon and back. You take words out of my head, scramble them up until they make sense and don't sound quite so bitchy, and then put them out there so damn diplomatically that you can't help but be like I AGREE WITH THIS!
Thanks J&K, I didn't want to sound like a douchey reg.
Vegas, I don't think anyone said that's all you have to contribute. Missy said that you've been quite helpful and enjoyable, and clearly there's something some people like about you to keep engaging with you here. If those are the types of threads you're going for, please feel free to start some.
ETA: I have to run to an appointment, so I'm not bailing on this thread. Have fun guys!
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:6c096ec8-2325-4c80-a8a7-ae9abc68e256">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]<strong>Thanks J&K, I didn't want to sound like a douchey reg.</strong> ;) Vegas, I don't think anyone said that's all you have to contribute. Missy said that you've been quite helpful and enjoyable, and clearly there's something some people like about you to keep engaging with you here. If those are the types of threads you're going for, please feel free to start some. Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
I guarantee most of the newer posters here are thinking this is exactly what we all sound like. You know what? Too bad.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:80ca45d7-dd7a-4daa-aef3-0e7d7c1a92cf">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : I don't think this was the point. But since you bring up post counts... This is my POV on why you might bug some people. You're relatively new, and you seem to have gotten a lot of street cred because you're a dude, and not necessarily from being a part of this community. People with 10,000 posts and a lot of us have "paid our dues" by getting to know the board, making relationships, putting in time, being there for each other's wedding planning, trying to be helpful, etc. for years. It doesn't mean you can't be liked or don't deserve it, but I can understand why some people might be like, "I don't get it" about you. Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
I'm not here to make people happy or to try and be 'accepted' by the in crowd, I'm here because I'm planning a wedding, then I found that I agreed with a lot of the people who post on SB so I began posting too. I enjoyed the time I started spending here so I continue to come back and post daily, and I've been posting here daily for five months now, so if that's not up to your standard as being part of the community, well I guess we'll have to agree to disagree and you can ignore me going forward.
Vegas, but posting daily for 5 months is about 150 days, so you post less than 10 times per day averaged out, which is fine, but lowish. However, how many threads have you started? Probably not that many. Most of the regs post more than that and/or have been around longer and/or have relationship off knot.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:1e930138-f71a-43ec-a525-35b76c26faf6">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : What we are saying is that it is not 'our' standard but the way things have been for some time now and they work well that way. You can't comment on that because you have not been here long enough. I have never had a problem with you, but judging by the the whiney/defensiveness I am reading from you here, I am pretty damn glad your standard is different than mine. Don't expect people to ignore that kind of lame though. Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
I'm being defensive because, for the most part, I try to get along with everyone here and not get involved with drama filled threads unless I have an equally strong opinion on the subject matter, and if I do get involved in a thread like that, I try to make logical arguments, not emotional ones that serve no purpose. I try to contribute to the forum in a useful way and I try to help people out when there's a thread I know something useful about.
The tone of this thread suggests that someone who participates daily is held in less regard until they've been here for years for that reason alone, whether or not their posts are equally relevent or irrelevant, and frankly that's bs. If that were how people were treated in real life, no one would ever make new friends.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:92f3f9e2-ce2f-4f82-b8b0-b05ea96f680b">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]I think kpwedkk is a great knottie, but her avatar looks like burns and/or raw meat because it's so small. I know it's henna, but every time I look at it I think about burns and raw meat. This makes me like her less because I can't shake the mental association. Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]
Avatars should be bigger... It's time for a change anyways... What do you think of my new avatar?
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:d222135f-4501-4bad-b648-2e6e511f5db5">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : I am here daily and read most threads if they dont involve periods or other female body function questions, with the notable exception of women poooping rainbows that smell like roses ; the reason my post count is lower is becuase I rarely post "ditto", "+1" or "giggle" replies. If I posted in all the threads I've read but didn't comment in, I'd have 15,000 posts. Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE] Well hell, you should post giggle as responses like the rest of us do, after all we are silly flightly women with nothing to say but onomatopoeias of laughter.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:2d22c061-e4a2-45d5-a283-2a3c5abed35e">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]Is this thread still going? And it's really just VG defending himself? Dude, get over it. You're an adult. You should know by now not everyone has to like you and no amount of defending yourself will make someone who isn't a fan like you. Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking. If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:781e6f6c-d8c1-4199-ae43-67e732746652">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it :<strong> No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking.</strong> If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave. Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE] Oh so you're pulling one of those newbie finger wagging type deals. Way to go. Thats' always worked in the past.
kd.joseph's wish is my command
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
my read shelf:
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:781e6f6c-d8c1-4199-ae43-67e732746652">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking. If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave. Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
You are not getting it. Most of us WERE ripped new assholes when we first started to post and continue to be ripped ones on the regular through out our time here. It is really about finding your groove and finding like minded people. I can spew off countless posters on this board who did stupid shiit, moved on and no one cares any more.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_gotta-say?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3931f7da-a1c8-4515-befb-4180a6cf395cPost:781e6f6c-d8c1-4199-ae43-67e732746652">Re: I gotta say it</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking. If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave. Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
Leave or lurk? Or Lurk to leave?
I know I've been ripped to shreds - by T-REXs on other boards (e.g. Wedding Woes), but Snarky is different!
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
Re: I gotta say it
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : He also whined about our judgment thread. Who does that?
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]
Looks to me that my complaint about the judgement thread was identical to Cew's motivation for starting this thread; i.e., tired of seeing the same thread over and over again. For her it is evidently the ask me anything thread that comes every few days, for me it was the judgement thread that gets started every few days or so. I try to start new threads when I can but frankly I don't have that many wedding-related things to talk about so I don't that often.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
Also I agree that it's gotten too nice. I went into that bridesmaidzilla post the other day expecting fire and was sorely disappointed. I like the niceness when it comes to real things that are talked about but I miss the calling out of crazy brides.
[QUOTE]Nothing about looks of course. But also, don't callout someone for a different lifestyle choice or personal preference. Ex: Soandso, I can't believe you voted for Obama. Boo, you suck.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
But, what would we call out then? I mean most of the stuff (drama) that happens on here is based on personal preference/beliefs. I don't mean saying something like "you voted for obama? you're stupid". But I don't see a problem with the situation you mentioned.
[QUOTE]Nothing about looks of course. But also, don't callout someone for a different lifestyle choice or personal preference. Ex: Soandso, I can't believe you voted for Obama. Boo, you suck.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]
I mean, when you put it that way yeah - but I have no problem with people challenging why some one thinks Obama sucks. What you mentioned above reflects more poorly on the person saying it because they can't make a coherant arguement rather than as a knock on the person who voted for Obama.
RAWR!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : Misunderstanding on my part, believe me, I will debate something if it is something I have an opinion on and feel someone else is wrong.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
I truly hope so. I look forward to hearing more of your opinions.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
RAWR!
[QUOTE]I love wedding related posts. For realsies.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
Then we're going to be besties in a few months ;)
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
When I started hanging out here (only a few months ago), the reason I liked the board so much was because it was just so... 'whatever.' Maybe it's the ridiculous E vs SB stuff (which I still don't know the whole story, nor do I want to know.) or maybe it's the mood and carefulness to not be mean, thanks to the stupid callout site.
Just stop talking about we should try to post about, or not post about, and just go back to talking about whatever (WR or NWR.)
Just my two cents. Which might not count for much since I'm not on very often lately...
Eat.Drink.BeMarried. Blog.
[QUOTE]Just stop talking about we should try to post about, or not post about, and just go back to talking about whatever (WR or NWR.)
Posted by Steph0871[/QUOTE]
But see that's the thing. If we don't talk about it, before you know it, there will be a AMA thread every night because that will be the new board 'culture'. If that's the way things go, that's fine, but that doesn't interest me and the board will be less entertaining to me. Why shouldn't we be able to talk about what does and doesn't entertain us about the board?
We actually did a shitton of that when we first started posting here and I liked being a part of creating the board that we wanted. This is just a recalibration of sorts. Am I thinking too hard? Probably.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : Sorry for trying to add some lighthearted entertainment to the board; I'm sure your ten thousand posts have all been 100% on topic, useful and relevant.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
I don't think this was the point. But since you bring up post counts... This is my POV on why you might bug some people. You're relatively new, and you seem to have gotten a lot of street cred because you're a dude, and not necessarily from being a part of this community. People with 10,000 posts and a lot of us have "paid our dues" by getting to know the board, making relationships, putting in time, being there for each other's wedding planning, trying to be helpful, etc. for years. It doesn't mean you can't be liked or don't deserve it, but I can understand why some people might be like, "I don't get it" about you.
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
[QUOTE]And while we're at it, NS, you know that I love you, but sometimes I can't tell if you really do have that much trouble making decisions or if you are just starting threads to talk. If you just want to talk, I say go for it. At least that way, people won't think less of you for not knowing how to handle some fairly simple situations.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
Definitely just chatting related, except maybe H's ridiculous umbrella qualifications. I had no idea where to buy such an umbrella and ultimately, I don't think they exist.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : I don't think this was the point. But since you bring up post counts... This is my POV on why you might bug some people. You're relatively new, and you seem to have gotten a lot of street cred because you're a dude, and not necessarily from being a part of this community. People with 10,000 posts and a lot of us have "paid our dues" by getting to know the board, making relationships, putting in time, being there for each other's wedding planning, trying to be helpful, etc. for years. It doesn't mean you can't be liked or don't deserve it, but I can understand why some people might be like, "I don't get it" about you.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
This this THIS is why I love you to the moon and back. You take words out of my head, scramble them up until they make sense and don't sound quite so bitchy, and then put them out there so damn diplomatically that you can't help but be like I AGREE WITH THIS!
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
Vegas, I don't think anyone said that's all you have to contribute. Missy said that you've been quite helpful and enjoyable, and clearly there's something some people like about you to keep engaging with you here. If those are the types of threads you're going for, please feel free to start some.
ETA: I have to run to an appointment, so I'm not bailing on this thread. Have fun guys!
Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
"cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
[QUOTE]<strong>Thanks J&K, I didn't want to sound like a douchey reg.</strong> ;) Vegas, I don't think anyone said that's all you have to contribute. Missy said that you've been quite helpful and enjoyable, and clearly there's something some people like about you to keep engaging with you here. If those are the types of threads you're going for, please feel free to start some.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
I guarantee most of the newer posters here are thinking this is exactly what we all sound like. You know what? Too bad.
RAWR!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : I don't think this was the point. But since you bring up post counts... This is my POV on why you might bug some people. You're relatively new, and you seem to have gotten a lot of street cred because you're a dude, and not necessarily from being a part of this community. People with 10,000 posts and a lot of us have "paid our dues" by getting to know the board, making relationships, putting in time, being there for each other's wedding planning, trying to be helpful, etc. for years. It doesn't mean you can't be liked or don't deserve it, but I can understand why some people might be like, "I don't get it" about you.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
I'm not here to make people happy or to try and be 'accepted' by the in crowd, I'm here because I'm planning a wedding, then I found that I agreed with a lot of the people who post on SB so I began posting too. I enjoyed the time I started spending here so I continue to come back and post daily, and I've been posting here daily for five months now, so if that's not up to your standard as being part of the community, well I guess we'll have to agree to disagree and you can ignore me going forward.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : What we are saying is that it is not 'our' standard but the way things have been for some time now and they work well that way. You can't comment on that because you have not been here long enough. I have never had a problem with you, but judging by the the whiney/defensiveness I am reading from you here, I am pretty damn glad your standard is different than mine. Don't expect people to ignore that kind of lame though.
Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
I'm being defensive because, for the most part, I try to get along with everyone here and not get involved with drama filled threads unless I have an equally strong opinion on the subject matter, and if I do get involved in a thread like that, I try to make logical arguments, not emotional ones that serve no purpose. I try to contribute to the forum in a useful way and I try to help people out when there's a thread I know something useful about.
The tone of this thread suggests that someone who participates daily is held in less regard until they've been here for years for that reason alone, whether or not their posts are equally relevent or irrelevant, and frankly that's bs. If that were how people were treated in real life, no one would ever make new friends.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
[QUOTE]I think kpwedkk is a great knottie, but her avatar looks like burns and/or raw meat because it's so small. I know it's henna, but every time I look at it I think about burns and raw meat. This makes me like her less because I can't shake the mental association.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]
Avatars should be bigger... It's time for a change anyways... What do you think of my new avatar?
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : I am here daily and read most threads if they dont involve periods or other female body function questions, with the notable exception of women poooping rainbows that smell like roses ; the reason my post count is lower is becuase I rarely post "ditto", "+1" or "giggle" replies. If I posted in all the threads I've read but didn't comment in, I'd have 15,000 posts.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
Well hell, you should post giggle as responses like the rest of us do, after all we are silly flightly women with nothing to say but onomatopoeias of laughter.
[QUOTE]Is this thread still going? And it's really just VG defending himself? Dude, get over it. You're an adult. You should know by now not everyone has to like you and no amount of defending yourself will make someone who isn't a fan like you.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking. If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it :<strong> No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking.</strong> If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
Oh so you're pulling one of those newbie finger wagging type deals. Way to go. Thats' always worked in the past.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking. If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
You are not getting it. Most of us WERE ripped new assholes when we first started to post and continue to be ripped ones on the regular through out our time here. It is really about finding your groove and finding like minded people. I can spew off countless posters on this board who did stupid shiit, moved on and no one cares any more.
RAWR!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I gotta say it : No, at this point I'm hoping my continued arguing about the subject will make some people realize that being asses to new people on the board is what makes a forum quickly devolve into sucking. If new people aren't joining because they get ripped a new asshole in their first five posts, you end up with every post being the same core group regurgitating the same threads; you need new people for new ideas, and if new people are treated as second class members, they're going to leave.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
Leave or lurk? Or Lurk to leave?
I know I've been ripped to shreds - by T-REXs on other boards (e.g. Wedding Woes), but Snarky is different!
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
RAWR!
Married in Vegas - June 2011