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Wedding Etiquette Forum
Save The Dates-Not inviting children
I am sending out my save the dates with my Christmas cards this year (very soon) and I normally would address the cards to So and So and Family if they have children or include the child's name if they have one child. However for my wedding, I do not plan on inviting most children. Does this make a difference with how I address the Christmas Cards/Save the Dates? Should I exclude children from these if I do not plan on inviting them formally? 
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Re: Save The Dates-Not inviting children
That having been said, if you do not plan on inviting the children, you must change the way you address your cards. You cqan not include their names on the STDs (or the envelopes they come in) if you don't plan on inviting them.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Anyway, I addressed the envelopes to the parents only. Then on the inside of the cards I wrote something like, "Dear Ross and Rachel, Happy holidays to you and your beautiful family, etc. etc."
My website clearly says that we are having an adult cocktail reception and to let me know if they need help arranging for childcare, so I think it should be okay. Plus my family/most friends already know we are not having kids PLUS the real invites will only be addressed to the parents.
Hope this helps!
July 10, 2010
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Really, though - mail them separately in January.
Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
And be careful with how much you rely on the wedding website getting important info to the guests; most people won't visit the website, and if they do they might not get the information you want them to get from it.
Edit: Clare, I don't mean to say that you necessaily broke any etiquette on STDs, just that in general it can't be said that there are few rules governing that sort of correspondence.
[QUOTE]There is not much etiquette on Save the Dates.
Posted by Clare13[/QUOTE]
WRONG! There's a good deal of etiquette surrounding most things in life, and STDs are no exception.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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[QUOTE] So do what you want. Remember its your wedding. There is not much etiquette on Save the Dates.
Posted by Clare13[/QUOTE]
That's incorrect. There is absolutely proper etiquette with how to handle STDs just as there is with any other wedding related items.
And yes, remember that it may be your wedding however that means it's up to you to make the proper impression upon your guests.