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FebDallasBride · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : That is weird. But seemingly common because something similar happened to us.
Posted by juliebug1997[/QUOTE]

You make a valid point.

professorscience · February 2012

Kristan, my ILs did that as well. I got a lot of, "Well, we were invited to their kid's wedding..." We invited a lot of the parents, but not the kids to whose weddings they'd actually been invited.

And Wendi, we've gotten several gifts from people who we didn't invite... and I mean people who my ILs never even considered inviting. I was at the little boutique where we registered for our china, and talking to the owner about my MIL, and this lady goes, "Are you MILFirstName MILLASTNAME's daughter-in-law?! Andrew is old enough to be MARRIED?"

And then we got a gift from her.

aeliza06 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:87672f25-21aa-4e75-96c8-073f3973e511">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Kristan, my ILs did that as well. I got a lot of, "<strong>Well, we were invited to their kid's wedding..." We invited a lot of the parents, but not the kids to whose weddings they'd actually been invited.</strong> And Wendi, we've gotten several gifts from people who we didn't invite... and I mean people who my ILs never even considered inviting. I was at the little boutique where we registered for our china, and talking to the owner about my MIL, and this lady goes, "Are you MILFirstName MILLASTNAME's daughter-in-law?! Andrew is old enough to be MARRIED?" <strong>And then we got a gift from her. </strong>
Posted by professorscience[/QUOTE]
That's <em>this </em>list! Children of parents. I suppose this isn't my first list of people I have never met but it is my first list after I gave the cut off. If I have extra invites, I will send, but I am leaning towards no. If my parents were paying, it would be different, but they aren't and I already invited their close friends and extended family.

I suppose the gifts are one thing I look forward to, but I have honestly never met these people and absolutely do not expect gifts from them. I did not send gifts to their wedding. I know it isn't reciprocity, but I feel like the rule should apply.

I had an instance yesterday with my former boss (who works on my floor) asking about my wedding and wedding shower (she isn't invited). I insisted that we are having a very small and intimate wedding. The problem is that my current boss (of less than 7 months) is invited. I wish people wouldn't get so hurt and take things so personally.

FebDallasBride · February 2012

We are chatty today. I love it.

juliebug1997 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:21aa3973-cb95-4d91-b644-3c93fcab641e">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : That's this list! <strong>Children of parents.</strong> I suppose this isn't my first list of people I have never met but it is my first list after I gave the cut off. If I have extra invites, I will send, but I am leaning towards no. If my parents were paying, it would be different, but they aren't and I already invited their close friends and extended family. I suppose the gifts are one thing I look forward to, but I have honestly never met these people and absolutely do not expect gifts from them. I did not send gifts to their wedding. I know it isn't reciprocity, but I feel like the rule should apply. I had an instance yesterday with my former boss (who works on my floor) asking about my wedding and wedding shower (she isn't invited). I insisted that we are having a very small and intimate wedding. The problem is that my current boss (of less than 7 months) is invited. I wish people wouldn't get so hurt and take things so personally.
Posted by aeliza06[/QUOTE]

I asked Bill who he wanted to invite from Baton Rouge. He told me two couples. ILs threw a fit and said we had to invite this other couple. Bill thought he might have had one class with one of the kids but that was it. He couldn't even tell me their first names and how to spell their last names. However, we did get a gift from a friend of theirs whom they didn't even consider inviting. I felt bad.

kristan1022 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:fe67291b-48ef-40fe-b7d7-5e81efac9392">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I asked Bill who he wanted to invite from Baton Rouge. He told me two couples. ILs threw a fit and said we had to invite this other couple. Bill thought he might have had one class with one of the kids but that was it. He couldn't even tell me their first names and how to spell their last names. However, <strong>we did get a gift from a friend of theirs whom they didn't even consider inviting</strong>. I felt bad.
Posted by juliebug1997[/QUOTE]

<div>Because there is no possible way to invite all of the people FI and his family know (they've all lived in the same area for 50+ years), I expect this to happen. I fully intend to send them thank you cards, and I figure if they aren't invited and they send us a gift, that's their decision so all I can do is thank them... and hopefully meet them one day ;-P</div>

angelsong21 · February 2012

crash -- YAAAY on closing today! I understand the vomit feeling to a degree. We're not nearly that far along in the process, but I had one of those moments yesterday looking at our first house. Crunching the numbers, reading inspection reports, and thinking about how big of a decision of this is makes me so.nervous. I know you guys have thoroughly thought everything through and I'm sending good vibes your way for your closing!

RE: Josh Hamilton -- it's a little irritating that people decided this needed to be all over the media and I do feel badly for him. Dale Hansen essentially said he should be fired and if not, he certainly shouldn't be paid what he's worth anymore since he may have to go back to rehab "at any given moment." Ridiculous. I am so fortunate that along my journey, my treatment team made sure I understood that one misstep does NOT equal a relapse. If it was, I would be "relapsing" 5x a week when I don't have time to grab a lunch. A true relapse is when you start repeating that negative behavior and falling back into your negative lifestyle and habits. People are not perfect. To qualify one episode of drinking (as far as we know) as a relapse is absurd and he's getting raked over the coals for it. :::steps off soapbox::: Had to get that off my chest, sorry guys!

jenbob2012 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:db1893ab-e820-4de4-9bc5-79fc66b21c27">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame my bridesmaid who told ME to 'get on it' in regards to planning my wedding shower and bachelorette party because SHE has a busy April & May. Sweet Lord keep me sane. My future MIL and SILs are planning my shower for late April. I'm not about to prod them for any reason. They don't even have to plan a shower for me, no one does. It would be beyond rude to push. And as for my bachelorette party, isn't that something the bridesmaids put together??? Uhgg. At least it's the weekend. Hooray!!!
Posted by KHollyTX[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm with you on this one. However I am in the process of learning that apparently bridesmaids DO NOT plan bachelorette parties or bridal showers. Apparently its the friends you DIDNT ask to be in the bridal party that do such things. ?????!!!!!!</div>

AshJohnson30 · February 2012

I flame our HR for allowing someone to walk around in a hat all day.

Dressdown day = sports team + sneakers

KHollyTX · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:677cc28a-11e0-4d08-9f6f-226d073c5d7a">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I'm with you on this one. However I am in the process of learning that apparently bridesmaids DO NOT plan bachelorette parties or bridal showers. Apparently its the friends you DIDNT ask to be in the bridal party that do such things. ?????!!!!!!
Posted by jenbob2012[/QUOTE]

Oh they're totally supposed to....but I know what you're saying. I'm questioning some of my choices. One of my NON bridesmaids and her husband have been so helpful, and they threw our engagment party.

cwaggoner07 · February 2012

Regarding random IL invitees... YES I am having this problem. We are paying for a portion of the wedding ourselves, and his Dad is paying for RD only (still grateful, don't get me wrong), but FFIL is a general practitioner who delivered practically every baby in this small town in Arkansas, and thinks everyone in his upper class circle should be invited.
We showed him the guest list and were like, my parents got X number of their grown-up friends invited, and you are also allowed X he flipped out. Mind you, the FMIL isn't getting a single person on the list because her and her husband refuse to contribute to the wedding because we are inviting FI's ex-step mom (confused yet?).

Anyways, it's been pretty messy, and awkward as I grew up pretty poor and my parent's friends that are invited are all in AA working in the oil field and FFIL's friends are doctors, lawyers, and Rotary Club lifers.

FebDallasBride · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:47ddc846-d62e-4d5c-95c7-45c91bc189b4">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Regarding random IL invitees... YES I am having this problem. We are paying for a portion of the wedding ourselves, and his Dad is paying for RD only (still grateful, don't get me wrong), but FFIL is a general practitioner who delivered practically every baby in this small town in Arkansas, and thinks everyone in his upper class circle should be invited. We showed him the guest list and were like, my parents got X number of their grown-up friends invited, and you are also allowed X he flipped out. Mind you, the FMIL isn't getting a single person on the list because her and her husband refuse to contribute to the wedding because we are inviting FI's ex-step mom (confused yet?). Anyways, it's been pretty messy, and awkward as I grew up pretty poor and my parent's friends that are invited are all in AA working in the oil field and FFIL's friends are doctors, lawyers, and Rotary Club lifers.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

Yeah, my problem has been my SM, whom I finally had to tell my dad to put her in her place last week. They have not contributed anything specifically to the wedding (they gave me money for my birthday and Christmas which was more than usualy, but didn't say specifically to put it towards the wedding.) Last week they were trying to add on. Uh no, not two weeks away and DEFINITELY not for anyone that she wants. I also had trouble with her telling old church friends (a family of 10) to save the date last year. I hope she looked like the biggest a-hole when they didn't get anything.

cwaggoner07 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:92fbde3c-fd55-43e3-99e3-9c7a4f2978b7">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yeah, my problem has been my SM, whom I finally had to tell my dad to put her in her place last week. They have not contributed anything specifically to the wedding (they gave me money for my birthday and Christmas which was more than usualy, but didn't say specifically to put it towards the wedding.) Last week they were trying to add on. Uh no, not two weeks away and DEFINITELY not for anyone that she wants. I also had trouble with her telling old church friends (a family of 10) to save the date last year.<strong> I hope she looked like the biggest a-hole when they didn't get anything.</strong>
Posted by FebDallasBride[/QUOTE]

Yeah I'm hoping this on a couple of people as well (including NWR while we're at it).

courtski2004 · February 2012

This will be a P&R, sadly

I flame our new 'internet lockdown'. People who get no internet access around here are just jerky jerks who are jealous of all the supervisors and managers who DO have access. Get over it. Be better at your job and get promoted like I did then you can have the same 'freedoms'. Just don't run to the director and complain that ALL WE DO ALL DAY is read E! Online and watch You Tube.

FebDallasBride · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:6025f15a-46ad-4582-a4f8-23ecf157d385">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]This will be a P&R, sadly :(
Posted by courtski2004[/QUOTE]

Boo! Come back.

nikki083 · February 2012

Love that you have a HLB, I also have one too.

FebDallasBride · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Love that you have a HLB, I also have one too.
Posted by nikki083[/QUOTE]

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jenbob2012 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:64570161-b6df-465c-8a74-aa9bdd7af777">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Oh they're totally supposed to....but I know what you're saying. I'm questioning some of my choices. One of my NON bridesmaids and her husband have been so helpful, and they threw our engagment party.
Posted by KHollyTX[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm definately questioning my choices. Right now it looks like neither my MOH nor one of my other bridesmaids will be attending my bachelorette party. Neither have bought their dresses and neither have responded to any requests to help with planning the bridal shower or BP. Lucikily I am fortunate to have other friends that have really gone above and beyond and have taken over. I feel like a B complaining about this stuff because I know they don't *have* to do these things but I have so many other friends asking me when the shower is and how they can help etc... and I didn't have an answer for them because nothing had been planned!</div>

ktwed1 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:db1893ab-e820-4de4-9bc5-79fc66b21c27">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame my bridesmaid who told ME to 'get on it' in regards to planning my wedding shower and bachelorette party because SHE has a busy April & May. Sweet Lord keep me sane. My future MIL and SILs are planning my shower for late April. I'm not about to prod them for any reason. They don't even have to plan a shower for me, no one does. It would be beyond rude to push. And as for my bachelorette party, isn't that something the bridesmaids put together??? Uhgg. At least it's the weekend. Hooray!!!
Posted by KHollyTX[/QUOTE]

Uhhh..Yea she's supposed to help plan the bachelorrete party. Tell her she needs to get on that..Geez!

ktwed1 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:47ddc846-d62e-4d5c-95c7-45c91bc189b4">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]Regarding random IL invitees... YES I am having this problem. We are paying for a portion of the wedding ourselves, and his Dad is paying for RD only (still grateful, don't get me wrong), but FFIL is a general practitioner who delivered practically every baby in this small town in Arkansas, and thinks everyone in his upper class circle should be invited. We showed him the guest list and were like, my parents got X number of their grown-up friends invited, and you are also allowed X he flipped out. Mind you, the FMIL isn't getting a single person on the list because her and her husband refuse to contribute to the wedding because we are inviting FI's ex-step mom (confused yet?). Anyways, it's been pretty messy, and awkward as I grew up pretty poor and my parent's friends that are invited are all in AA working in the oil field and FFIL's friends are doctors, lawyers, and Rotary Club lifers.
Posted by cwaggoner07[/QUOTE]

We are paying for our own wedding and all of our family are out of state and most of our friends too. Sooo I'm hoping we will not have this problem.

jenbob2012 · February 2012

BWAAH! Just booked my appt with Becky Fowler- how friggen cute is she????? **love**

crash2729 · February 2012

All things signed!

Re Josh Hamilton: I haven't heard much of the story but are we talking one drink or are we talking fall down drunk? I think there is a difference as far as the relapse goes. Also? I don't think he needs to be fired. Every one makes mistakes and also? If they fire him they should probably fire Wash for testing positive for cocaine.

MarieSD · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-92?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:a3037423-e3b0-426b-97b6-1787a4830305Post:fe5dffe2-7bf2-4fb9-b04d-30f5473347d4">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : We are paying for our own wedding and all of our family are out of state and most of our friends too. Sooo I'm hoping we will not have this problem.
Posted by ktwed1[/QUOTE]

H and I actually had this happen, even though we paid for our own wedding and had it here (both our families and most of our friends live out of state -- we just moved here when we got engaged). We were still given over 200 family members that had to be invited. (We'd been thinking a small wedding of 50 people, max!)

It can still happen, but the great thing is ... if you're paying, you ultimately get to decide. I'm so happy we didn't give in to the huge wedding we didn't want (and couldn't afford). But it was still really hard.

professorscience · February 2012

I flame my network for being totally broken today and keeping me off TK.

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