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BYOB

lindseyw930lindseyw930
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I plan on having just a signature cocktail to save money because my budget is so small. I plan on also giving each guest a single glass of sparkling wine or cider for the toasts. Is this rude? Can I suggest that if people want beer they bring it themselves. I am on a really tight budget and will just make it if I do things this way. I am not trying to exclude beer or wine drinkers in any way.
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    No.  Just...no.

    BYOB is for backyard BBQs and college house parties.

    Have you priced out hosting beer and wine vs hosting a signature cocktail and doing a toast?  Because at my venue, hosting beer and wine was significantly cheaper than what you're doing.

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  • egm900egm900 member
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    What you're planning is fine, do not even suggest to people that they should bring their own alcohol.
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  • Girlie1030Girlie1030 member
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    Not only is requesting BYOB incredibly rude, but it's likely not even allowed if you're using a standard venue.
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  • pokepoke27pokepoke27 member
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    Do not tell people to BYOB.

    Consider hosting beer and/or wine only and letting your guests toast with whatever they've got in their hand at the time.

    What you are suggesting (minus the BYOB part) is fine etiquette wise. The rule of thumb is that your guests do not open their wallets - and you are hosting drinks. I just think a better option would be beer and wine instead of the signature cocktail. 

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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    They came to entertain me on my sick day, Eagsies.

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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    Is it because the world revolves around me?  Because I'm pretty sure it does.  Dance, monkey!

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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    You just ruined my life.

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  • JessAndTravJessAndTrav member
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    If I was invited to a wedding and was told "BYOB" I'd probably not go, because to me, that would denote that it's going to be a scary event.

    Like a J said, BYOB is for like, BBQs, college parties, and of course, my baby shower. ;)
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  • LittleMissCutiePieLittleMissCutiePie
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    Sure, if you want to have a klassy wedding.
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  • tlal1026tlal1026
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    Our reception is at a B&B, we are having everything catered and supplying water, soda, lemonade, ice tea and coffee. As far as alchohol I have told people if they choose to drink to bring their own, they have all been fine with that. 
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