Hey Girls
This is kind of a all around theme, but regardless I NEED HELP!
Been engaged for 5 months, together for almost 4 years now. 3 things: we are both from divorced parents, thus we have a large extended family, 2. I am from the east coast but we live in colorado, where my fiance is from. 3. We're both quite shy, my fiance more, but I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of both my parents in the same room since it hasn't happened since my graduations.
So, with all wedding talks (planned for june2011) the only thing we really want is SMALL. 35 people. His mom is the only provider in this event so we do have to sway with her. But now things are out of control. People from his family have claimed they're coming whether they're invited or not! People are assuming that they're invited all over the place. This does not result in small. I have a feeling many feelings are going to be hurt. Not only does this interfere with the namely small budget, but it just does not sound like it would be FOR US. At the start we just wanted close friends and parents, but the rest of the family does not compute this info. We say 35 people then they don't understand? It is making me very irritated and am starting to threaten NO WEDDING. just us, go away, get married ourselves. the other thing is my dad has been out of work for almost a year and I can't expect him to fly down and stay a family of 3 to a destination. Not to mention an intimate gathering wouldn't be too great with my single mom. I do find it incredibly important that my dad walk medown the aisle. I don't want to bail on a wedding and regret never having one. We've looked at venues but it really depends on the head count. HELP! I was so excited to get engaged, I love my man, How can it just be what WE want???