I've been dwelling on this for about two weeks and still haven't decided what to do so it's time for some help.
I got engaged almost 2 years ago I asked my sister to be MOH and 3 friends to be BM's. My fiance and I broke off our engagement 7 months later. We got back together 3 months later and engaged again 8 months after that. That being said my story begins.
One of my friends began asking my immediately after becoming engaged if I was going to ask her to stand up with me. I had no idea who I was going to ask at the time with the exception of my sister. I thought about it and, even though i'm not terribly close with her, asked her to be a BM. But then my fiance and I broke up. It's been over a year since the break up now and I'm planning again. Of course she is talking about being in my wedding. I kind of thought of this as a new start since i'm starting everything else over again and had a different plan in mind as to who I was going to ask to stand up with me.
My reasoning behind wanting to ask different people is because the girls, besides my sister, I asked before are not people I talk to much anymore. I lot has changed in a year and all 3 of the other girls and I rarely talk anymore much less hang out. I decided that I want to have 2 cousins and a family friend I've known since I was 5 stand up with me since I know they will alway be there and my friends maybe will not.
I guess my question is how do I deal when she asks me if she's still standing with me (and yes, she is bold enough to do so), or how do I approach her to let her know my decision? I'm planning on asking the other ladies this Saturday because they'll all be at the same place (a birthday party for my sister). Unfortunately she'll be there too, i'm hoping she'll go home early so she won't have to be there when I ask, even if I do let her know my decision I don't want her to feel bad. I just feel bad because we are definitely not close anymore, but I don't want to hurt her feelings.