New Here! Intro! Advice needed!

BelleBaby17 · March 2012

So I'm an air force fiancée (I have bumper stickers all over my car!!) and my fiance is currently deployed. I'm majoring in philosophy at Auburn University! My FI has been gone for a little over 4 months and it's just been so hard on me!! I cry all the time, and I worry a lot that he's cheating on me. I think that because I was so worried about him cheating that I just got caught up and I found myself sleeping with my TA. I can't tell my FI because I mean.. my parents have already put a lot of money down for our wedding, so obviously I want to get married, but I'm having a hard time breaking things off with the TA. I mean if my fiance chose to leave me to go play around for 9 months, why shouldn't I have fun too!?

I can't wait to be a military spouse!! We've already decided (well.. I decided!) that I'm going to be a stay-at-home wife and he doesn't want kids any time soon, but I'm not on any kind of BC so fingers crossed ladies!! I'm really wanting a full military wedding with an Arch and everything!! I'm getting married in a Ball Gown outside on a lawn of this big ole southern mansion!! I'm mostly super glad that my fiance has a job that will support me because I love to shop but I've never actually had a real job! haha (that's what daddy's are for! )Any advice or tips on incorporating our service into my wedding?!

shan87 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:d192dba5-e230-4a79-919a-6f114dbd0714">New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]So I'm an air force fiancée (I have bumper stickers all over my car!!) and my fiance is currently deployed. I'm majoring in philosophy at Auburn University! My FI has been gone for a little over 4 months and it's just been so hard on me!! I cry all the time, and I worry a lot that he's cheating on me. I think that because I was so worried about him cheating that I just got caught up and I found myself sleeping with my TA. I can't tell my FI because I mean.. my parents have already put a lot of money down for our wedding, so obviously I want to get married, but I'm having a hard time breaking things off with the TA. I mean if my fiance chose to leave me to go play around for 9 months, why shouldn't I have fun too!? I can't wait to be a military spouse!! We've already decided (well.. I decided!) that I'm going to be a stay-at-home wife and he doesn't want kids any time soon, but I'm not on any kind of BC so fingers crossed ladies!! I'm really wanting a full military wedding with an Arch and everything!! I'm getting married in a Ball Gown outside on a lawn of this big ole southern mansion!! I'm mostly super glad that my fiance has a job that will support me because I love to shop but I've never actually had a real job! haha (that's what daddy's are for! )Any advice or tips on incorporating our service into my wedding?!
Posted by BelleBaby17[/QUOTE]

Are you for reals!? I really hope you are real because I could have a lot of fun with you.

Your husband 'left' you to fulfill his duty to the United States/ USAF. He did not go to play around for 9 months. The fact that you are willing to use him for his 'secure job', his sperm, and money while your sleeping with your TA (hell even if you weren't a cheater) makes me want to vomit.

It doesn't surprise me that 'you' are wanting to go through with your PPD. You're a crappy person regardless if you are real or not. Sadly I kinda hope he is cheating because maybe then you'll see how crappy you really are.

Sammy0709 · March 2012

This post just reeks of troll. If you're not a troll you disgust me. Sorry to be blunt I have no other words.

shan87 · March 2012

Ohh I'm also pretty sure there are laws against you as a student sleeping with a TA. But I doubt you care about that either.

CAB1217 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:d192dba5-e230-4a79-919a-6f114dbd0714">New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]So I'm an air force fiancée (I have bumper stickers all over my car!!) and my fiance is currently deployed. I'm majoring in philosophy at Auburn University! My FI has been gone for a little over 4 months and it's just been so hard on me!! I cry all the time, and I worry a lot that he's cheating on me. I think that because I was so worried about him cheating that I just got caught up and I found myself sleeping with my TA. I can't tell my FI because I mean.. my parents have already put a lot of money down for our wedding, so obviously I want to get married, but I'm having a hard time breaking things off with the TA. I mean if my fiance chose to leave me to go play around for 9 months, why shouldn't I have fun too!? I can't wait to be a military spouse!! We've already decided (well.. I decided!) that I'm going to be a stay-at-home wife and he doesn't want kids any time soon, but I'm not on any kind of BC so fingers crossed ladies!! I'm really wanting a full military wedding with an Arch and everything!! I'm getting married in a Ball Gown outside on a lawn of this big ole southern mansion!! I'm mostly super glad that my fiance has a job that will support me because I love to shop but I've never actually had a real job! haha (that's what daddy's are for! )Any advice or tips on incorporating our service into my wedding?!
Posted by BelleBaby17[/QUOTE]

Locking it down, JIC.

SOOOO, because you're afraid he's cheating on you, you've cheated on HIM, and can't stop.
This next statement may be flameful... but whatever. I think that if something happens early in a relationship in regards to cheating, OK, whatever. But, you're engaged to be married, and you decide to cheat? Makes no sense at all to me. You're committing to be with each other for the rest of your lives!!! Why would you think this is ok? Do you know if he's cheated? It's not tit for tat, you know. If he wrongs you, you either work through it, or move on. NOT do the same. Anyway, I don't think you're going into this marriage with the thought of "I'm marrying the love of my life", but rather "ZOMG, PRETTY PRINCESS DAY." Save yourself the trouble of a divorce later, and just have a fancy party.
Do you even plan on stopping when you get married? Do you plan on telling him? DO YOU EVEN LOVE THE GUY??

I feel like we're being punked.

shan87 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:6613a702-b683-45c0-b239-7fa120bfe4bc">Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]This post just reeks of troll. If you're not a troll you disgust me. Sorry to be blunt I have no other words.
Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]

Trolls anger me just as much. Who the heck has time to make all this crap up, get a life.

Sammy0709 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:82a3cfcb-6009-4cb4-aaf1-6a00493993df">Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed! : Trolls anger me just as much. Who the heck has time to make all this crap up, get a life.
Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]

It's like whoever it is lurked the board and put everything we're all against in one post minus a JOP.

CAB1217 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed! : It's like whoever it is lurked the board and put everything we're all against in one post<strong> minus a JOP</strong>.
Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]

Wait for it....

Sammy0709 · March 2012

By JOP I mean the JOP/lie to guests/"real" wedding thing.

JLAyen8861 · March 2012

this girl really makes me sad and angry if she is real

Zimsgirl · March 2012

I call MUD.

Btw I'm in class right now and almost busted up laughing when she bragged about bumper stickers all over her car haha

kara811 · March 2012

Eh whether she's real or not, I HATE cheaters. This also gives so many SOs such a bad name, although there are ones IRL who do exactly this. It angers me.

CAB1217 · March 2012

The more I read it, the more certain I know this is totally MUD. At least spread the drama out in more than one post, troll. Lead up to the drama, don't just give it all to us in one shot! Now it's just boring.

Zimsgirl · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:e545472a-2d1f-4692-a2d6-d22f921db6b3">Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]Eh whether she's real or not, I HATE cheaters. This also gives so many SOs such a bad name, although there are ones IRL who do exactly this. It angers me.
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]
I agree. Kind of backwards but when FI was in basic I was in high school (not engaged yet) and worked at a pizza place. The male cooks kept saying oh aren't you afraid he's gonna cheat on you or you know he's gonna cheat on you. 1) he never would 2) he was infantry and at Benning so definitely knew it wasn't gonna happen lol

shan87 · March 2012

let me be clear I am about 105% certain its MUD. But it's still annoying.

Pot Stirers bug the crap out of me. People who have nothing better to do then to make up stories and lies also irritate the crap out of me.

Zimsgirl · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:51e7873f-f99d-45a6-ad9b-a931027e6961">Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]let me be clear I am about 105% certain its MUD. But it's still annoying. Pot Stirers bug the crap out of me. People who have nothing better to do then to make up stories and lies also irritate the crap out of me.
Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]
She's still posting on the lurker thread. Oh boy... lol

CAB1217 · March 2012

IF she's real, she's pretty much the crappiest person I've ever seen on the boards. Even worse than the pro-troll (YOU know who.)

ggirl2001 · March 2012

Ehh mud doesn't bother me if gets people going. The board has been dead lately. Speaking of which, I was just talking to a friend about cheating. He was deployed and this girl was stringing him along, but was also stringing someone else along. He didn't really find out until he got back. As for op, um I have no words. Except at least you're getting an education! Go you! Because that's about all you got going for you

AmandaSC1988 · March 2012

Huh… just for fun, I am going to pretend you are real…..for a second

Just so you know, you won’t be rolling in the dough working with the military. You can live… but I’m pretty sure no one unless they are a high ranking officer, has money to throw around for you to go shopping all the time. Military pay grades are all over the internet. Trust me… it isn’t a lot.

calindi · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Ohh I'm also pretty sure there are laws against you as a student sleeping with a TA. But I doubt you care about that either.
Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]

School policies, maybe, but unless it counts as statutory rape, I doubt it would actually have any legal ramifications.

Either way, this feels like a troll. Just so over-the-top and every single stereotype. If it's for real, I don't even have any words that could possibly help this poor pathetic soul.

Sammy0709 · March 2012

At least she can spell, use proper grammar and punctuation, and knows what a paragraph is...

BelleBaby17 · March 2012

Funny you mention a JOP!! We actually were going to do this!! Mostly for the benefits but I didn't want to lie to my parent's guests.

Also, I can't be the only one here who's cheated!!! Don't come at me with some holier than thou attitude!! I bet half of you are cheaters! Maybe you're not as up front about it, but it's not like I'll ever meet any of you bitches in the real world any way!

ggirl2001 · March 2012

Troll brings up a good point. I wonder how many Lurkers do cheat. And why does my phone capitalize Lurkers.

CAB1217 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Funny you mention a JOP!! We actually were going to do this!! Mostly for the benefits but I didn't want to lie to my parent's guests. Also, I can't be the only one here who's cheated!!! Don't come at me with some holier than thou attitude!! I bet half of you are cheaters! Maybe you're not as up front about it, but it's not like I'll ever meet any of you bitches in the real world any way!
Posted by BelleBaby17[/QUOTE]

Awesome. Have fun with this one, ladies. I usually like drama TBH, but this one is over the top. I'm not feeding it anymore.

ggirl2001 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:23d3dc35-0a96-4730-8fe2-fa81a07802d1">Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed! : Awesome. Have fun with this one, ladies. I usually like drama TBH, but this one is over the top. I'm not feeding it anymore.
Posted by CAB1217[/QUOTE]

Let's discuss why my phone capitalizes Lurkers.

Zimsgirl · March 2012

Seriously?! Half of us are cheaters?! You know us so well lurker

kara811 · March 2012

Geeg, my phone and kindle do too!!

CAB1217 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_new-here-intro-advice-needed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:c7d9902d-5e5c-40ec-800c-3641a79773afPost:2c3c2b7f-662b-44fb-9c39-4fcedf280c9c">Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: New Here! Intro! Advice needed! : Let's discuss why my phone capitalizes Lurkers.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

Yes, lets. You must have written Lurkers as THE begining OF A sentence once, and it saved it that way. I shall check my phone to see if it does the same, just in case.

ETA: Corrected my poor grammar.

CozyHeart13 · March 2012

Divorce sucks and I really don't like wishing it on any innocent person like your FI - but when he leaves (and he will) and you are left with no job, no usefull experience, no friends, no home and no one who trusts you... well, you can't say you weren't warned. (PS: This is that warning, because it will happen.)

BinxRose · March 2012

Ok well obviously you are MUD cuz this is so over the top but A) you won't get rich in the military. FI and I make just enough to cover our bills and save for the wedding.

I have never cheated on FI. Or anyone else I have ever dated, for that matter. So screw you.

ggirl2001 · March 2012

I cheat on my husband, but only with Irish so it doesn't count

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