I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..

ksmith67 · June 2010

because afterall, I have less than 100 posts- and *gasp* I'm planning a wedding, and have a dress-- but have no ring!

but I just thought on the off chance I ever wanted to actually have any input here that I should quickly introduce myself.

I'm Kay and I'm 22. I'm a Child Development student graduating(hopefully) in May 2012. I don't really have a lot of drama around my wedding, so I'm mostly here just looking for people to bounce ideas off of, etc. My boyfriend/fiance/whatever you want to call him and I have a potential date set for December 2011. I've been lurking here on and off for a few months now, only recently started posting some.

Anything else, feel free to ask, I'm usually a pretty nice person.

MidniteRae · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:d2d2d264-a914-4aa8-a93e-c4af23124f16">I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]because afterall, I have less than 100 posts- and *gasp* I'm planning a wedding, and have a dress-- but have no ring! but I just thought on the off chance I ever wanted to actually have any input here that I should quickly introduce myself. I'm Kay and I'm 22. I'm a Child Development student graduating(hopefully) in May 2012. I don't really have a lot of drama around my wedding, so I'm mostly here just looking for people to bounce ideas off of, etc. My boyfriend/fiance/whatever you want to call him and I have a potential date set for December 2011. I've been lurking here on and off for a few months now, only recently started posting some. Anything else, feel free to ask, I'm usually a pretty nice person.
Posted by ksmith67[/QUOTE]

You can be engaged without a ring.
Are you engaged or not?
How long have you been together?
What's your talent?

noelle24 · June 2010

1) You can be engaged without a ring. If you are planning a wedding and have a dress, then I certainly hope this is the case.

2) I couldn't care less about your post count, I only care if you are yet another BSC newb.

ksmith67 · June 2010

We aren't considering it engaged because he wants to be able to do the traditional "we're engaged" announcing without having to explain that we are waiting to get a ring until his finances are stable(hence the year and a half engagement as well).
We've been together for around a year and a half, met online through a dating service and hit it off almost immediately. We've been living semi-together(each have a bedroom in a 4 bedroom apartment with another couple) for about 6 months now.

And, um. Well, I guess my talent would be putting children to sleep. I'm quite an expert at it. Its not a really useful talent, but its a talent just the same.

ETA: I also forgot to say that I'm not planning a wedding behind his back or anything like is always complained about here, he is fully aware I am doing preliminary stuff and he is helping with it, also we have talked to both his parents and mine to discuss our plans. The reason I have a dress so soon is because I had it custom made by a family friend when I was 19. I was engaged at the time and he called it off; and since I had spent a good deal on the dress already and both my boyfriend and I were comfortable with me using it, we have chosen to keep it as my dress rather than searching for a new one when I will most likely never have the same "this is my dress" feeling with another dress.

tafft1 · June 2010

Post counts don't count for cool points , sorry you missed the memo.

Planning a wedding without being engaged ( ring or not , who cares as long as the two people involved have decided to be commited to one another - only you two can determine this) - is more than BSC - it's stupid. You don't have to like what I or anyone else says , but that's the truth of it.

I knew I wanted to settle down and get married since i was 22 - I am 31 now - and the first time i even started looking at wedding stuff was after my FI and I started looking at rings so I will never get the whole planning thing way before. But i'm not your typical pretty pretty princess all about me hoar either.

Cart meet horse - don't get the roles reversed.

Narwhal · June 2010

Okay I'm going to throw this out there.

Here's a big WTF mate about you wearing a dress you were going to wear for another wedding.. to another dude.. when you were 19.. two years ago.

katanne9 · June 2010

katanne9 · June 2010

Stopping robbing yourselves of the experience. Stop planning. You have a year and a half. Stop and wait until you can plan this wedding with your FIANCE.

PaigeMcC · June 2010

I can't comment. It's too early. I'll be back after I'm awake.

jeanacorina · June 2010

I can understand the dress thing, but I don't necessarily agree with the choice.

Kat, I just want to say I like your whole "robbing yourself of the experience" argument. Almost as much as I like my "planning a wedding sucks, why rush it?"

*thumbs up* We got everybody covered!

PandaBurr · June 2010

Hm. So you've been dating this guy for a year and a half. You're 22. So you were 20 when you met, and you broke off your engagement sometime when you were 19. This might not be true at all, but it sounds to me you're very eager to get married, and you're thinking any guy is ZOMGTHEONE.

I say this because my BFF (not really) has been engaged three times, and married and divorced once all before she was 21; to be honest, this sounds a lot like her mannerisms. I think you need to really take a step back and look at why you're so anxious to get married. Is it for the wedding? (which it sounds like) Or is it because you want to prove to people (perhaps your ex) that "omg we're like so in love"? In my opinion, it sounds like you're one of those people who constantly Twitter or Facebook update about how much you're in love, because you're trying to hide something. But hey, that's just my opinion. I may be completely off-base.

katanne9 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:e05e7c46-e796-4941-a206-ff98329e5e46">Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]I can understand the dress thing, but I don't necessarily agree with the choice. Kat, I just want to say I like your whole "robbing yourself of the experience" argument. Almost as much as I like my "planning a wedding sucks, why rush it?" *thumbs up* We got everybody covered!
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

I don't understand it! Brian and I have had the BEST time planning our wedding together. All the details of our wedding will mean so much because it's so US. I would have never picked cheesecake if he didn't battle me for it. He's looked over every DIY project I've done giving me his opinion on fonts and colors. It's been such a celebration to do this... TOGETHER because we are marrying each other!

I will always remember how much fun we've had and I don't think these newbs understand they are taking that away.

Jeana, I also TOTALLY agree with your point. Planning a wedding IS crazy and it is stressful too! Smoosh it into as short a time period as you can. 8 months was perfect for me. If I had to wait another few months I'd go mad.

oceana919 · June 2010

If it's cool to wear a dress that was intended for another wedding, is it cool to use your e-ring from your previous engagement?

**Mutley** · June 2010

Why couldn't you have posted this last night so that I could have included you in my all-inclusive post?

ksmith67 · June 2010

I started to respond to everyone, but nevermind. Its obvious 100x over that no one new is ever welcome into your wedding fantasy world here, and that you guys are rather bitter and cruel, I'm pretty sure an introduction is no invitation for attacks from every angle. Especially since it came from everyone, including the moderator. I get the point-- NEW PEOPLE KEEP OUT. Thanks.

**Mutley** · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:435eab2d-2f84-4d8c-b9e4-80cefa73548d">Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]I started to respond to everyone, but nevermind. Its obvious 100x over that no one new is ever welcome into your <u>wedding fantasy world</u> here, and that you guys are rather bitter and cruel, I'm pretty sure an introduction is no invitation for attacks from every angle. Especially since it came from everyone, including the moderator. I get the point-- NEW PEOPLE KEEP OUT. Thanks.
Posted by ksmith67[/QUOTE]

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**Mutley** · June 2010

And when you start your intro with "I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..." what do you expect?

Also, the moderator was NOT mean to you. You just have very delicate panties and wanted everyone to tell you that you are right in what you are doing. Guess what, welcome to the REAL world. When you are doing something stupid, people tell you.

oceana919 · June 2010

I thought I was asking a pretty reasonable question...?

PandaBurr · June 2010

I don't think I was being mean or attacking you. I just told you my opinion. You being so defensive just makes my point all the more valid. I'm sorry you didn't get the responses you wanted.

Edit: Oh, and the wedding ticker helps too.

PaigeMcC · June 2010

Well I'm awake now and I was going to say hi and agree with Kat's robbing yourself of the experience thing..but since you got your panties all twisted I'll offer this:

Local boards are always nicer. Sometimes they're so nice I gag a little...but that's beside the point...you might find a local board more your thang. If you think you'd like to stick around here with us bitter old hags then please do so but know we will give honest and blunt advice. A thick skin is required.

ekathleen684 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:435eab2d-2f84-4d8c-b9e4-80cefa73548d">Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]I started to respond to everyone, but nevermind. Its obvious 100x over that no one new is ever welcome into your wedding fantasy world here, and that you guys are rather bitter and cruel, I'm pretty sure an introduction is no invitation for attacks from every angle. Especially since it came from everyone, <strong>including the moderator</strong>. I get the point-- NEW PEOPLE KEEP OUT. Thanks.
Posted by ksmith67[/QUOTE]

I don't think disagreeing with your choice on wearing a previous dress would be considered an attack. She could have said MUCH MUCH worse and it still wouldn't have been an attack or even mean.

There is a big difference between an attack and giving a genuine opinion and advice on a situation. I'm sorry you cannot tell the difference.

Sidenote- There are too many posts today, I can barely keep up!

sapphirebaby926 · June 2010

FFS new people are accepted on this board all the time. Your problem is that you are being crazy - you're planning a wedding before being engaged and that doesn't sit well with me and the majority of the posters on this board.

If you had a girlfriend that you knew wasn't engaged and who came up to you one day and said she had been planning her wedding and already had a dress would you honestly think she wasn't crazy?

oceana919 · June 2010

BTW, if you thought the mod was being mean to you, you definitely need thicker skin.

hetshup · June 2010

Ok lady, you have two options

1) You can go running away b\c we are all mean hateful bitches who are really giving you our true opinion. We don't know you, this is how it is. BTW pretty much everyone gets flamed, your acceptance is based on how you take it.

2) You can say "self, these people that don't know me are telling me what everyone that I know in real life will say, maybe I should take that to heart"

You are not a special butterfly that we want to pick on, if any one of us came with a major issue, we will take them down a peg. That includes Mutley, Kat, Jeana, Narwhal, Ocean etc etc. Or as you might think of us, those bitter hags who are bad in bed.

PaigeMcC · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:434af783-517e-46e3-9461-d8dadd18b1e8">Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok lady, you have two options 1) You can go running away b\c we are all mean hateful bitches who are really giving you our true opinion. We don't know you, this is how it is. BTW pretty much everyone gets flamed, your acceptance is based on how you take it. 2) You can say "self, these people that don't know me are telling me what everyone that I know in real life will say, maybe I should take that to heart" You are not a special butterfly that we want to pick on, if any one of us came with a major issue, we will take them down a peg. That includes Mutley, Kat, Jeana, Narwhal, Ocean etc etc. Or as you might think of us, those bitter hags who are bad in bed.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

<div>This post made me happy. I think I love you.</div>

oceana919 · June 2010

If you take me down a peg without justification, I might have to re-punch you in the anus.

Kroliczku · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:3db3dba7-48ac-4b22-8a2d-9504e6e89133">Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]Why couldn't you have posted this last night so that I could have included you in my all-inclusive post?
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]
Than made me giggle....I was wondering why it didn't make the cut.<div>
</div><div>Kay...congrats on....planning? Im not sure...but congrats.</div><div>My only real question (as a new member too, and not being engaged) is..........how in the world can you wear a dress that was meant for a different wedding???? If I were engaged....and had a dress....and a ring....and got dumped- you can sure as heck believe that BOTH of those items would be up on Craigslist. I'd rather take a hit financially than keep either of them around. Consider it...........</div>

hetshup · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:3cd92fd3-36e7-4681-9f79-2d3f75e53c13">Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]If you take me down a peg without justification, I might have to re-punch you in the anus.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

Maybe I like it!

Of course there would be justification, but I think you've gotten all your crazy out.

PandaBurr · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_im-sure-ill-flamed-like-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1939283b-d321-472b-a801-053e69991778Post:5bd01c10-cbd6-4cc5-842d-ae72fd78af12">Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy..</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm sure I'll be flamed like crazy.. : Than made me giggle...<strong>.I was wondering why it didn't make the cut.</strong> Kay...congrats on....planning? Im not sure...but congrats. My only real question (as a new member too, and not being engaged) is..........how in the world can you wear a dress that was meant for a different wedding???? If I were engaged....and had a dress....and a ring....and got dumped- you can sure as heck believe that BOTH of those items would be up on Craigslist. I'd rather take a hit financially than keep either of them around. Consider it...........
Posted by Kroliczku[/QUOTE]

A couple of tip: please stop with the "omg I didn't get flamed"- it makes it sound like you're trying too hard to fit in. Also, commas are your friend. Try not to abuse punctuation marks so much. They have feelings too.

Kroliczku · June 2010

Ill consider your tip(s) in my next posts.

PandaBurr · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Ill consider your tip(s) in my next posts.
Posted by Kroliczku[/QUOTE]

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