The "honeymoon" period....
I'm interested to know your opinions about this.... how long do you think the honeymoon period lasts?? Or how long has it lasted in your experience? I'm sure it's different for everyone....
I don't know what this is, but in my current relationship it still feels like we're in a sort of honeymoon period after 8 months together.... but it's turned into a more permanent state for us. In my past relationships, the phase where everything was rainbows and puppies lasted no more than a couple of months at most.... and then came the part where we started really paying attention to e/o's flaws and trying to decide whether we could live with those flaws or not.
Right now, we are able to see e/o's flaws and imperfectations and we do have arguments (nothing major, though) and disagreements, but we are always able to sort things out rather quickly.... communication has been key!! We have become very comfortable with e/o, but we have still managed to keep that spark, that awesome feeling you get with new relationships, alive. I still feel butterflies when I see him or even when I get a text from him in the middle of the day.... we still hold hands all the time (as cheesy as that sounds).... and we enjoy every single minute we spend together.
I don't know if it's still that honeymoon period, although it had never lasted this long for me before.... but whatever it is, I wish it stays this way for a long time!
I'm just soooo happy, I needed to share it with the world (well, maybe not the world, but at least the portion of the world that visits this board).... sorry if all this sounds super mushy and corny. 
Re: The "honeymoon" period....
Psychologists say that you will know everything about a person after 2 years. So, 1-2 years.
[QUOTE] Psychologists say that you will know everything about a person after 2 years. So, 1-2 years.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]
Really hets? That explains a LOT. HA!
OP - I'm glad you're happy. I'd bet the honeymoon period is winding down though. I also seriously doubt you are happy "every single moment" you are together. At some point, he must scrape the fork across his teeth, drive too fast, or say something that gets under your skin.
File these days away for times when things are little harder. They'll help you get past the teeth scraping or driving too fast. :)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The "honeymoon" period.... : Really hets? That explains a LOT. HA! OP - I'm glad you're happy. I'd bet the honeymoon period is winding down though. I also seriously doubt you are happy "every single moment" you are together. At some point, he must scrape the fork across his teeth, drive too fast, or say something that gets under your skin. File these days away for times when things are little harder. They'll help you get past the teeth scraping or driving too fast. :)
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]
Hahahaa, yeah of course there's times when he does things that annoy me, or I do things that annoy him.... but so far it has only been minor things, nothing that we are not able to get past by just talking it through....
[QUOTE]Going through the holiday season with a SO is always stressful - and you can learn a lot about someone then.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Definitely!! And these will be our first holiday season together.... so I guess we'll see how that goes! xD
We're definitely not in a honeymoon phase anymore, and I really think that's okay.
It's always been my opinion that those things tend to go in cycles. Some days you just feel less connected, and some days you feel more so.
That being said, Elle and other PPs are right. There is something about the 2 year mark that brings out the crazy. My BF and I had our 2-year anniversary this past March, and in April/May we had a HUGE upheaval in our relationship. We were like you guys - the honeymoon phase lasted for a long time. The upheaval also had to do with issues outside the relationship, like his parents' near break-up and the death of a friend.
Clearly, my BF and I got through it. The communication skills we had learned with eachother through the "honeymoon phase" helped us to work through everything. Still, it was very difficult to get through and required a lot of work on both sides. What we have now is even better, because we know what we can withstand together.
It's so comforting knowing that we can have problems and miscommunications and the other person will still be there.
I'd say that in my relationship, the initial honeymoon period lasted about 6 months, and then I had to move three hours away, so that was obviously hard. We also hit a rough patch around 2 years, which is also when I moved in with him, so I think that was obviously an adjustment.
Still, though, I'm happier with him now than I have ever been because I'm pretty sure that I can live with all his little flaws, and I'm fairly confident I've seen most of them.
Our honeymoon butterfly-in-your-tummy phase was when we realized that this-is-it and emotions slowed down. The honeymoon feeling picked back up when we got engaged. Then it died down a little bit with wedding planning stress. And now it's back up because WP stress is slowing and we are enjoying preparing for marriage. Even during times of less-exciting emotions and frustrations, we have always been happy together.
In past relationships, the honeymoon phase died and never came back because one or both of us realized it wasn't meant to be.
[QUOTE]<strong>Have you had to be near him when he vomits?</strong> I definitely think you need to see your SO in every mood.... ill, mad, sad, irritated, stressed, happy, tired, overwhelmed, ect. before committing.
Posted by lunarsongbird[/QUOTE]
BF cannot handle vomit. If I have the stomach flu he will run to the store to get me whatever I need and then pretty much steers clear of me. I think it's important to go through a death, hospitalization, or other really big event before getting married. I learned a lot about my BF while I was in the hospital for a week. I also think going through something that scary made our relationship stronger.
I think there is nothing wrong with being happy and mushy, just be aware that it won't be forever and I think you are good.
Married! May 27th, 2012
[QUOTE]. I am having a rough semester with school on top of work stuff, and FI has been so supportive. I came home one night last week to dinner made, dishes done, laundry done, AND the next day's lunch in the fridge. All because I had a complete mental breakdown over laundry the day before. I'd take that over the honeymoon phase anyday.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Aww! That is so sweet.
[QUOTE]As long as he has money, we're in the honeymoon phase.
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
I <3 you Audgie!
[QUOTE]doubleSS - I LOVE your siggy.
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]
Why thank you ;)
[QUOTE]Oh - and I puked ON bf in the car a few weeks ago. (Yes, I was drunk. What about it?) He had to pull over twice on the way home to stick his head out the window and get some air. Then we got home and I took off my clothes in the driveway. (I had puked on them. Seemed reasonable at the time.) And he WASHED my clothes. At midnight. With puke on them. H*ll I was going to throw them away! Good man.
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]
What an awesome dude! Did the drunk thing my self 2 weeks ago and after yelling at him for not telling me he was going back to the hotel room (he did tell me I just didn't remember 5 mins. later) he held my hair while I puked the shots and my guts out and put me in my pj's and then to bed. Gotta love a man that will hold your hair and wash your clothes! Keepers I tell you
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The "honeymoon" period.... : BF cannot handle vomit. If I have the stomach flu he will run to the store to get me whatever I need and then pretty much steers clear of me.
Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]
I'm with your BF on that one. I actually got mad at FI once for coming over while he was sick (this was before we lived together) and subjecting me to his vomit noises.