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Wedding date?

CorrieDudeCorrieDude
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Hi everyone.
I'm really only coming on here to vent and maybe find someone who has been in a similar situation and how it worked out for them. I've been engaged since August 29,2010. We were originally planning a summer 2011 wedding, but we've had many issues come up along the way. First it was money problems (for my FILs, my parents and myself), then it was the holidays, with a few family and close friend deaths. Needless to say, it's been pretty difficult to start wedding planning. Things have been calm for a couple months now, and we still don't have a wedding date. Since our parents are the ones paying for the reception hall (which will ultimately determine our wedding date) we can't exactly say, "What is wrong with you?! Can you hurry up and spend thousands of dollars on me, please?!" When it comes to matters dealing with other people's money, I'm very uncomfortable suggesting what they should do with it, even it were my parents.
Is there a way I can subtly suggest that we should get a move on? I really don't want to come out and say it and risk both parties feeling uncomfortable. I just really want to get married! 
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Re: Wedding date?

  • tawillerstawillers member
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    Pay for it yourself and pick whatever date you want.  Decide on a budget and choose a date far enough in advance to allow you to save the money in that time.

    Problem solved.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    the courthouse is open most days.  you may have to take some time off work, but you can get it done in an afternoon.

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  • AnasaraAnasara member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wedding-date-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:90858801-b0c4-430c-9b51-7e1ef8e491b2Post:20d0986a-440c-4845-a8fc-3b94aeb86499">Re: Wedding date?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Pay for it yourself and pick whatever date you want.  Decide on a budget and choose a date far enough in advance to allow you to save the money in that time. Problem solved.
    Posted by tawillers[/QUOTE]
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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    I think it's time to start thinking and getting creative. There is a wide range of ways to get married that fall somewhere between the courthouse, and a reception hall.

    If you and your parents only have $800, then you need to make it happpen. Get married at your church chapel or under a tree, and have a nice brunch afterwards. Problem solved.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
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  • CorrieDudeCorrieDude
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    Thanks for the responses. Unfortunately, I am disabled and not able to work, so the help of our family's is pretty crucial.
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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    Let me tell ya a story.

    About 10 years ago I lived in an apartment. I parked my car, and grabbed my 2 bags of groceries, and started walking to my apartment.

    I see this lady in a white sundress and a guy in a suit standing under the tree by the pool. There was another man in a black suit with a black binder. I stop and think, "I know they aren't getting married."

    Yep, they were.I tried to hurry up and walk passed them, so I wouldn't disturb the vows, but my bags were heavy, you know.

    Anyway, were they married, yes.
    Would it be what I would want to do, no.

    However, they had the wedding that they could afford. End of story.
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  • CorrieDudeCorrieDude
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    That was very nice for them, but I'm not interested in taking that route. I'm sure I'll figure it out. Thanks for your help.
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    My original response still applies here.  If you insist on having the wedding of your dreams, it can be done but it will take some time.  Decide on your budget and work to save money each month.  You and your FI must have some income.

    It's pretty selfish to expect/pressure/burden your parents when they've had a tough time.

    If you really only just want to be married, take hmonkey's advice and go to the courthouse.

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  • CorrieDudeCorrieDude
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    There's a lot more details that goes into this than I've given out, because a lot of it is nobody's business, but it's really not worth trying to justify. Is there a way to just delete this post entirely?
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