So my MOH has a super crazy schedule. I am in Detroit and she lives in MN. She JUST got married (this last Saturday!!) and she's in another wedding next month, then she has mine in November. Flights are SUPER expensive, so they usually make the 10+ hour drive to Detroit for these events, including their own wedding.
I have tried to tell her that the only thing I need from her is to stand up next to me at my wedding, and not to worry about making the trip out for my bach party or shower, but she keeps insisting on coming out. My one BM has kind of started to plan the BP for Halloween weekend, so if she came, she'd be making the trip twice in two weeks. I think that is insane, and I've tried to tell her that it's really okay, she doesn't have to come but she won't listen. I know I can't make her NOT come, and usually people have the opposite of this problem, but I feel so bad! I know she's just such an awesome friend that she's trying to participate as much as possible, but I feel horrible! Do you guys think I should just drop it and let her come even though it makes me feel bad? I just hate seeing her spend all this time and money when it's just one night out at the bar...it seems completely unnecessary.