I'm not sure if everyone remembers, but I was having a BM who basically asked me to kick her out of the wedding. I told her I wasn't going to kick her out but if it was something that she didn't want to do anymore she could back out, no harm no foul. Just let me know, so I can cancel the flowers and such.
She waits about a week, then answers with "I must have just blown everything out of proportion. I want to be there for you and stand up with you"
Okay. Great.
So, Thursday some of the girls were coming over to help me put together the invitations.
She came and at first everything was fine. But then she started putting in snide comments on the side.
For example: One BM who was writing envelopes showed me one and goes "Um...These are going to your fake friends right? I don't need to redo it?" The girl (we'll call her J from now on) replies: "She doesn't have room for fake friends on her guest list. She had to cut her real friends like T&B". T&B are her friends. I haven't spoken to them since J's baby shower...last Feb.
So, we go on and they are discussing B-parties. One BM goes "Well, K is a heavy drinker so we know she'll be wasted." J replies: "Not the K I knew."
She made about 3 or 4 comments throughout the night about the "K she knew."
It was obvious not only to me, but to the other two that she didn't want to be there and she didn't really want to be a BM. I didn't force her to come, she offered.
I don't think that we will be friends after the wedding but I'm really starting to regret not kicking her out. If she's going to be like this the day of it's just going to make everyone miserable.
I don't know how to talk to her now because I feel like it she will try to "bait" me into either blowing my lid or kicking her out. So that she can get out of it and I'm the bad person.
ETA:WWYD?