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caitystevensoncaitystevenson
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Is it tacky if I "share" my wedding registry on facebook and other social media sites?
Of course there are plenty of people on there that haven't been invited but amazon and target give me the option to do so...Just wondering what everyone's thoughts are!
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    daveANDkristendaveANDkristen member
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    Yes it would be tacky.  You should never tell people where you are registered unless they ask you directly.
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    amymaysaamymaysa
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    Tacky
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    thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    Tacky to the extreme.

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    Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited January 2013
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:4d29d22b-eed4-4a95-9e21-da86728d6c4f">Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Is it tacky if I "share" my wedding registry on facebook and other social media sites? Of course there are plenty of people on there that haven't been invited but amazon and target give me the option to do so...Just wondering what everyone's thoughts are!
    Posted by caitystevenson[/QUOTE]
    Yes it's tacky. There is no reason for anyone who isn't invited to know where or what you've registered for. It comes off as gift grabby and AWish and I'm sure that's not what you want.

    Just because Target and Amazon gives you the option to share, it still doesn't mean you should do it. I mean, I read a super controversial article this morning on gun control. The news site gave me the option to share the story. I chose not to lol.

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    Jager1219Jager1219 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:cd7576c7-bfd0-4f6d-9e1c-7bb772c5862d">Re: Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Is it tacky if... : Yes it's tacky. There is no reason for anyone who isn't invited to know where or what you've registered for. It comes off as gift grabby and AWish and I'm sure that's not what you want. Just because Target and Amazon gives you the option to share, it still doesn't mean you should do it. I mean, I<strong> read a super controversial article this morning on gun control. The news site gave me the option to share the story. I chose not to</strong> lol. ETA for clarity
    Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]
    Yep - this exactly.  Also - please don't mail out the registry info with your invitation.  Macy's & other stores WILL give you the inserts.  Throw them in the trash.
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    s-aries8990s-aries8990 member
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    Yep, it's tacky. The only time registry info should be sent to guests is for the shower (that you aren't throwing yourself).

    Unless, of course, you're inviting all of your FB friends and their SO's to your wedding....
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    NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    If you have to ask if it's tacky, then ....
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Yes.  You should only mention your registry if and when someone asks you.  That means, among other things, keep it off Facebook and social media sites.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:f9775ecc-5bff-497b-bd09-d46e1459bdf8">Re: Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yep, it's tacky. The only time registry info should be sent to guests is for the shower (that you aren't throwing yourself).<strong> Unless, of course, you're inviting all of your FB friends and their SO's to your wedding....</strong>
    Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

    And even then... don't.

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    CallaLily25CallaLily25 member
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    Tacky and rude.

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    KatWAGKatWAG member
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    <div align="left">In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:3dd51aea-6577-4152-a685-698d8c64cfab">Re: Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you have to ask if it's tacky, then ....
    Posted by NYCMercedes[/QUOTE]

    exactly.</div>
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    bopple321bopple321 member
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    I always thought it was better to wait until someone asked you about your registry ("Hey, are your registered?  I'd like to get you something for your wedding") to provide that info.  I suppose whoever is throwing you the shower (if you're having one) could also give out this information.  I just think that any time you share info on social media you've got to be careful.  People not invited to your wedding might think you're trying to gift-grab (I'm sure you're not).  My friend said "Unless you'd be willing to gather all those people in an auditorium and make a public announcement, don't put it on facebook."  pretty good life advice.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:51b9ac55-dd68-49b1-8da3-5af1b25e0ab1">Re: Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I always thought it was better to wait until someone asked you about your registry ("Hey, are your registered?  I'd like to get you something for your wedding") to provide that info.
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    I believe Etiquette Hell put it best saying that registry information should always be "pulled" from the bride/groom, not "pushed" upon others. a.k.a. It's good etiquette to let people ask for that information, and bad etiquette to shove it in other people's faces...
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    misssunshine17misssunshine17 member
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    Super, super tacky. 
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    WalkersFurMamaWalkersFurMama member
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    Way tacky.

    If I saw that a "friend" had posted that info on FB I would TOTALLY snoop to see what they had registered for, but I'd also side eye it big time while I was doing so. 
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    honeyjade22honeyjade22
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    Well everyone pretty much has it covered, but yep, tacky. 

    Dont tell unless someone askes. Are you inviting your entire FB friends list? If not, its like you're saying "hey I dont really know half of you, but incase you didnt know, Im getting married and heres where you can buy us some stuff"
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    ltaylor713ltaylor713 member
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    In Response to Re:Is it tacky if...:[QUOTE]In Response to Is it tacky if...:I mean, I read a super controversial article this morning on gun control. The news site gave me the option to share the story. I chose not to lol. ETA for clarity Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

    I wish my Facebook friends were as tactful as you...some of the stories they share I think, "Really???" Lol
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:eac6f93d-5ac0-4731-bb13-f7e791501911">Re: Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is it tacky if... : Yep - this exactly.  Also - please don't mail out the registry info with your invitation.  <strong>Macy's & other stores WILL give you the inserts. </strong> Throw them in the trash.
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    <div>So that's what those are for! My registry consultant at Macy's gave me those cards and I was like 'What the heck are these for?'</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:5c32e7a3-8640-43d9-95ba-3877420e3fdc">Re: Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is it tacky if... : So that's what those are for! My registry consultant at Macy's gave me those cards and I was like 'What the heck are these for?'
    Posted by lilphillips14[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Well, that's what they WANT you to use them for, but don't actually do it.

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    emeejeeayenemeejeeayen member
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    Fun story: a girl I'm friends with on FB shared her HOUSEWARMING registry on FB.
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    warpedredpenguinwarpedredpenguin
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    Yeah, I've had friends post their wedding, baby, birthday, and graduation registries on FB. I judge the crap out of them. 
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    Jager1219Jager1219 member
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    I've never heard of registries outside of wedding and babies. Who has a BDAY registry?!
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    TwowarlocksTwowarlocks member
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    What you can do is make a wedding website, and put on there where you're registered. Then tell people to check out your website for up to date wedding info. That's what I've done.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-tacky-if?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:51cd3f80-a4dc-48fb-aad7-53df09b79bfdPost:5cd16a49-1826-42f0-bba0-f1a1f0fad79f">Re: Is it tacky if...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is it tacky if... : Well, that's what they WANT you to use them for, but don't actually do it.
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     Yeah I definitely won't. If they want to know, they'll ask. Or my aunt will tell them...because she's like that.
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    In Response to Re:Is it tacky if...:[QUOTE]Yep, it's tacky. The only time registry info should be sent to guests is for the shower that you aren't throwing yourself. Unless, of course, you're inviting all of your FB friends and their SO's to your wedding.... Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]
    Yes I was wondering about this myself, the places I registered gave me the option and I said no because most of the people on my facebook aren't actually invited to the wedding. I think most have heard it is tacky to send the registry cards with the invite for sure but it is okay for the host of the shower to include them in the shower invites and make a wedding website with a registry page. If people really want to get you something they will look there, ask someone or trust their own taste. Just don't let it look like you are gift hungry lol which I am sure your not.
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