This will be my second wedding and his first. He is in his 40's, I'm in my 30's. We have 2 children from my previous marriage. We are planning a simple beach ceremony at sunset with just us and the kids and are excited and today I'm going with my daughter to the dress shop to get dresses for us both.
I'm finding myself a big mixture of emotions. I love this man so dearly. We have been together 3 years now and he is the only father my children have really known. He came into my life when I needed him the most and he's always been there for me and the kids. I know he is the one I want to grow old with. I also worry that what we're planning isn't enough for him, that after waiting so long to marry that this simple ceremony isn't all that he deserves, even though he assures me he's excited for it. I worry I won't be everything I wish I could give him.
When I think about it, though...for my first marriage, I had the long train, the veil, the flowers...everything you're "supposed" to have and do. The wedding itself was beautiful and the pictures perfect. The marriage, though, wasn't. Now, I have the relationship I have always wanted...why not have a relaxed, comfortable, enjoyable wedding, barefoot in the sand?
Has anyone else gone through this? I read the post "It's normal..." and that really helped.
I have found that family has reacted kind of...apathetic to the whole thing. One relative even said, "Well, it's just a piece of paper." It's more than that to us. It's cementing the family we've built together and beginning our lives together anew...and it's so special that we don't want to share it with anyone else.
