Question for the Marrieds...

shortee426 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Life is pretty much the same. I was hoping that H would suddenly be inspired to pick up his socks, and I think he was hoping I would become a domestic goddess. <strong>Strangely, our marriage license did not come with any wishes from a genie :)</strong>
Posted by NillaWafer10[/QUOTE]

<div>We're actually going to have it put in our Ketubah that J put is laundry IN the laundry basket, not on the floor next to it.</div><div>
</div><div>OK, maybe we're not. But it would be nice if we could.</div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2010

I think there's a subtle shift. It's permanant now, officially, and therefore I want to give this thing my all. I'm a wife, and I want to be a good one. That's not to say that we don't get lazy about putting away our shoes or decide to order take out if we're tired, just like we did when we were single. But I feel like maybe other people have a big expectation of our relationship and/or are in awe of the fact that we're married. And honestly, I'm in awe of it too!

We've haven't quite merged finances yet, but we're getting there. I didn't change my name, either, and we're not even TTC.

pizzanfries4me · November 2010

Nothing has changed for us (other than my last name) We dn't argue as much (I'd say all the stress of wedding planning was a huge part of that) But now thats it is over everything is good. Health insurance is changed and I can say 'my husband'

NillaWafer10 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question for the Marrieds... : We're actually going to have it put in our Ketubah that J put is laundry IN the laundry basket, not on the floor next to it. OK, maybe we're not. But it would be nice if we could.
Posted by shortee426[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha wouldn't that be great!</div>

saschaduran · November 2010

Just that beautiful feeling of stability and security. I am so much more relaxed and positive feeling like I have a permanent "partner" in life. I used to run from feeling content, as I viewed it as boring. Now I know it is the best feeling in the world.

And I cooked a lot more before the wedding. I feel like I may have tricked him.

saisongbird · November 2010

It's not all that different. It's nice to have the same last name and to have more support, legally. For example, I got a flat tire last night at 10:15 coming out of rehearsal, and DH had the day off today, so he offered to stay with the car, but he doesn't have AAA, and I do. I was able to argue with AAA to let him stay because he's my husband, and so they caved, whereas had he been my BF or FI, they probably wouldn't have because they don't have a legal standing.

I do find that now that we're married, he's more willing to bend over backwards to help me out. Not that he wasn't before, but now there's not even a discussion about it - he just does what needs to be done, even in very extreme circumstances. Which is really comforting.

brookelynpaisley · November 2010

Honestly, the only thing that changed is that now we have a full set of matching plates

Really, not that much changed. There's a little something special that was added by being married, but I don't think we're much different than before. Although I think in the year since we've been married we've had to make some adult decisions, so we've had chances to really work as a team.

thesequel · November 2010

It basically felt the same. We were LDR for the first 5 months of our marriage, so nothing changed as I fly back to get married.

There was no name change and we merged our accounts once we were in the same household again (he moved out to the West coast for my dream job). It just felt more permanent.

It just felt different....hard to describe. It was a nice feeling to say "my husband" when I introduced him to people.

i3rooke · November 2010

I am so glad this question was asked! I have been living with my FI for over a year now and we still have another 9 months till we are married. I hoped we would be able to carry on how we do now, and am glad to hear we probably will. I am also excited to feel "settled" and to not have to think about planning anymore! =]

2dBride · November 2010

I think that the differences have less to do with your relationship with each other, and more to do with the relationship between the two of you and the outside world. That can mean everything from your being treated more like part of the family by your in-laws to your being the one who gets called if your husband is sick or injured.

shortee426 · November 2010

You all gave some really interesting insight. Thank you so much!

thesuninherhead · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Hi ladies, I have posted a couple questions here before, and now I have one more... For those of you who lived with your H before the wedding, how did your relationship change after you got married? J and I have lived together for almost 3 years now. I picture our life together as a married couple being very different than our life together now (hot dinner ready and waiting when he gets home sort of thing). Realistically, other than a shared last name/bank account, I really am not sure how things will be different. Thoughts everyone?...
<p>Posted by shortee426[/QUOTE]</p><p>I'm super late to this, but for us, absolutely nothing changed- aside from the fact that we talked a lot about how awesome our wedding was afterwards, haha. </p>

beamer84 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]No difference except the name. Yeah it's cool, I get to call him my husband now. But other than that, nothing changed. For us anyway.
Posted by FutureMrsFezz[/QUOTE]

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