So last night I got together with 2 of my bridesmaids and my parents to knock out all the favors and my bridesmaid brings up this story. Needless to say I was instantly one big stress ball.
So W recently broke up (like a month) with her 2 yr boyfriend. And as most people I've seen who end a long term relationship she is having a lot of fun with her freedom. Well she went to FL over her Christmas break and met her cousins bf's best friend. She tells me that he is going to be her date for the wedding and he is flying from FL to IN just for the wedding. So yeah whatever. She is bringing someone I don't know to the wedding and that kind of sucks but overall not that big of a deal in the grand scheme. She told about how he was just a cute friend and how fun he was.
Flash forward 2 weeks and she is falling head over heels for this dude. She flew down to FL for her 21st birthday and stayed at his house, they hung out and he did all the things a guy typically does to win you over when you first start liking eachother etc. Well now she is blabbering endlessly about him while we're making favors. And first off all the girls were supposed to stay at my parents house with me the night before the wedding because it was my way of making sure I didn't have to worry about anyone being late and hair starts at 6 am. Well she drops the bomb that she might not stay the night because she doesn't have a babysitter for her dog that night. (Her house is 45 mins away from my parents) And then she goes and I don't know what I'm going to do with S. He won't have car and stuff. So she starts insinuating that he could stay at my house with us. And my mom kind of opens her mouth and says she thinks it would be fine if he slept on the couch. I DO NOT find it fine. I wanted a girls night before my wedding. I'm already going to be freaking out and I just wanted to put on my pjs and a spend my time surrounded by my best friends. If he stays at our house she will have to be a good friend and keep him company and such. And after all the stress of the rehersal and entertaining ppl at the rehersal dinner the last thing I want to do is come home and play hostess to some rando dude I've never met until that night. Then he would be there in the morning when we were all getting ready. We'll have to feed him. and I just wanted my time to be a guy free zone except maybe my dad. And like my MOH says you have no clue what this guy is like. What if his personality is really irritating to me?
Then she is like well and I dont' know what I'm going to do with him on Saturday. She was like well he could always chill with us in the hotel room or I could just send him with Chris. UM EXCUSE ME??? He will absoluetly not be in my bridal suite. No way no how. Girls will be getting dressed in there and such and I just don't want some rando person to be hanging around. I wanted to spend my wedding day surrounded by friends and family that I love. Not randos. And I'm sure as a hell not pushing this dude off on my FI to entertain all day. Her rudeness just seriously blows my mind. Then we've got the fact he won't have a car that day and how he should follow us up to Valpo because he won't know where he is going. Give him your car and some mapquest directions. I mean seriously.
I was so frustrated by the time she left that I was almost in tears. And of course my mother procedes to tell me I have really no say in it. And I said I'll be damned if I don't. I don't know who should have more say about who surrounds me on that day!! Luckily my MOH and FI agree that its just crappy. And I can't be mad at my bm becuase where she is from its kind of normal and she is a befriend everyone go with the flow type of girl and I know that she see's nothing wrong with it. And I know that she is trying to be a good Host but this guy agreed to fly in to be a date to someone in the wedding party and that she wouldn't be able to entertain him much on Sat. etc. But he needs to get a hotel room to stay at or she give him her car and he go stay and take care of the dog and drive himself to the wedding. But really this should not be my problem. But now I'm left confronting a good friend who has been so helpful with the wedding and telling her that this won't work and I won't be his babysitter for the day. (in nicer terms of course.)
UGH SERIOUSLY THIS FREAKING STRESSES ME OUT SO MUCH!!!
Thanks for reading. It was a long one but I so needed to speak.