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elannis
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Because I'm bored/how to get Dad and BF alone for the talk!
I am messing around online instead of working. And we were going to go see the Golden Dragon Acrobats tonight, but heard they were running out of tickets so I called and got them. So now we're definitely going. I've never seen them, but the youtube video looks pretty cool. Has anyone else seen them before?
Also, I think I'm responsible for getting BF some alone time with my dad this weekend. He has (not so subtly) expressed his desire to have that chat but doesn't know how to do it without me helping to get them alone together, lol. I'm not sure how easy this is going to be at a zoo where everyone is together, because I'm sure he's going to need some time to get the courage, and to make sure he has enough time before everyone comes back. Maybe I can drag my mom and my bro's GF to the bathroom or something. I don't know, but it's kind of exciting. I know it doesn't mean it'll happen soon, but it's progress, lol.
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Also, I think I'm responsible for getting BF some alone time with my dad this weekend. He has (not so subtly) expressed his desire to have that chat but doesn't know how to do it without me helping to get them alone together, lol. I'm not sure how easy this is going to be at a zoo where everyone is together, because I'm sure he's going to need some time to get the courage, and to make sure he has enough time before everyone comes back. Maybe I can drag my mom and my bro's GF to the bathroom or something. I don't know, but it's kind of exciting. I know it doesn't mean it'll happen soon, but it's progress, lol.
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Re: Because I'm bored/how to get Dad and BF alone for the talk!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=r1jGinWpKow
That would be sooo annoying, but so cute too, lol.
Still here and still fabulous!
I can tell BF is so nervous too and I told him he shouldn't be; I know my dad and I know he's going to get really serious and it's going to mean so much to him (he LOVES BF), and then he'll act like it never happened so that nobody knows. I can see how it would be nervewracking though, lol. But if I can have a chat with his mom about her hurting my feelings (she is the most intimidating woman ever), then he can ask my dad for his blessing. Either way, starting the conversation is the hardest thing ever (or so I'd imagine, lol).
I'm starting to realize that I use () a lot in my posts ...
[QUOTE]I avoided this issue by telling FI he wasn't allowed to ask my dad.
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]
Ditto! I thought I was the only one (other than Leia, I think) who put her foot down about that.
[QUOTE]I have no good advice because FI and my dad play golf together all the time, so if he had wanted to he would have had the opportunity. But he didn't talk to him beforehand. When we called to tell my parents what happened my dad was like "What about what I say?"<strong> He was just joking, but I do think that deep down he was a bit hurt/miffed/whatever that FI didn't ask him. I felt bad</strong> =(
Posted by swhite2012[/QUOTE]
This is why I gave in. It's really not all that important to me and BFwill be asking for their blessing, not permission, so if it's important to my dad (I'm his only daughter) to do this traditionally, then I don't see why it can't happen. I think I've made it clear to him how important it is for everything to stay a secret though. I know BF asking doesn't set a timeline, but my mom has annoyed me plenty by asking me every other time she sees me when I am going to get engage ... I think I can pay her back by keeping her in the dark for a while, lol.
I think she's more BSC than I am most of the time, but I also believe this is due to her intense desire for me to give her a grandchild, lol. A lot of the ladies she works with are having their daughters get married and have kids and I think she feels left out, lol.
BF has told me he has no intention of asking anyone beforehand. He said it is a decision between us, and has nothing to do with anyone else's opinions, which is true. I don't think my parents will care at all, but I did tell BF that if he decides to talk to them at all, to make sure to include my mom. My sister's FI didn't ask her, because he thought she would give it away, and her feelings were a little hurt that my dad was asked and not her, which makes complete sense.
I had an incident a few years back with an ex where my cousin made some comment about us possibly getting married soon. Well my great aunt twisted her words and it ended up the entire family thought I was engaged and my mom thought she was the last to find out and she called me to yell at me because I hadn't told her, lol. I was so confused because I was the last to find out about it. That's not gonna happen again, lol.
But yeah, I think she's ok with it because she'll know first when it happens.
nothing will be a suprise to me except when he actually does it ... i hope..lol ...