I am getting ready to send out invites within the next week or so. Last week, one of my friends found out that he and wife were approved to adopt a daughter. The adoption isn't finalized but should be by the time of the wedding. I want to make sure that the family knows their daughter is welcome (they currently do not have children), so I was going to include "and family" on the invite. Should I do this even though the adoption isn't finalized?
Re: Adoption Issue
Wedding stuff.
Also, keep in mind if they are adopting from another state, they might be stuck there for a couple of weeks before they can leave and then get permission to re-enter their own state.
But that's really happy news!
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I have known people who have adopted and the process can often take longer than anticipated, so you just never know.
A similar thing happened with the first adoption, except they were in AZ for a longer period of time, and it only took a day to be permitted to reenter their state.
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OP - do they have physical custody and are just waiting for the adoption to be finalized in the courts, or are they waiting to get the child?
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[QUOTE]I think "and family" is perfectly acceptable. Or, like the PP said you can include a special note inside the invite that lets the couple know how thrilled you are for them and that their daughter is more then welcome to attend.
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My thoughts exactly. Go for it! This will show that you are super-supportive of their growing family, even though it might happen around the time of your wedding.
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[QUOTE]They don't even have physical custody yet. The child is a 16 year old girl (in the same state). She was removed from an abusive home and her bio parents' rights were terminated. She will come live with them in late May (a couple of weeks before the wedding). My biggest concern was that somehow the adoption wouldn't happen at all and then is the invite just a cruel reminder.
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That's what I was wondering about. My brother and SIL had this happen to them twice with infants and it was incredibly painful. I'm now on the fence here.
If that is the case, you might want to mention it by word of mouth instead. That shows you're supportive of what they are doing (which is incredible, bringing a teen into their home - I applaud them), and are welcoming the girl as part of the family.
Count them as 3 when their RSVP comes back
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