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Tacky registry?

KittyW11KittyW11 member
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I have an ettiquette/registry question, ladies!

My FI sells Cutco, if you don't know, it's super high quality knives (kind of like Wuschtoff, sp?) except we think it's better, but maybe we're biased. Anyway, can only be purchased through sales rep, not sold in stores. Blah blah, long story that's really a sales pitch. Anyway! I REALLY REALLY want to register with them, b/c their pots and pans, and also the knife sets, are absolutely incredible, and even the flatware! I will just die if I have to get different dinner knives or serving flatware! (Okay, I won't die. But I'll be disappointed that I'll have to dish out the cash myself, cuz it's really pricey stuff.)

Here's the issue: As the sales rep, he would basically get credit (and therefore paid) for everyone's purchases of our bridal registry. I feel that's extremely tacky and taboo, he doesn't see a problem with it. There's really no way around it, so what do we do? Who's right? Do I have to live without my gorgeous skillet and serving spoons? Cry
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Honestly, while I think it's great that you want that stuff, if your FI needs to sell people the stuff off your registry, it is walking a VERY thin line into the rude.

    Instead, I'd just not register for those items and then you can buy them on your own.

    And it's great that you love the products, but you may want to look into places like Americas Test Kitchen and how they rate certain items/products.  There are many items out there that are extremely well-rated and easily purchased.

    Remember, the items are for you but the registry is created with ease of your guests in mind.  There is nothing all that easy about buying stuff for the bride and groom FROM the groom.  In fact, it kind of smacks of a bit of a scheme.





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  • SarahPLizSarahPLiz member
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    I think it is rude. Basically he is charging them a markup for buying him a gift.

    I day just register for other things, and then you can use whatever cash gifts you get to buy them on his employee discount.. assuming there is one of course.
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  • sarabear23sarabear23
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    Couldnt you have someone else as your rep? Maybe someone he works with??
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  • AKG_JGJAKG_JGJ
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    If you're still going to do the online registry, you should really have someone else's name as the rep. I'm assuming that he'll still get paid if he's listed as the rep for the online purchases (although I don't know this for sure), which is why it's tacky in the first place. You're having your guests pay for your gifts and your FI's paycheck. This is rude, not just a tacky faux-pas. 
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  • AmoroAgainAmoroAgain member
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    No, I'm sorry, but either way you work this, it's going to be rude.  Anytime someone in your family or whatever sells a product that you register for, it seems just odd.  I would honestly think, "Why are they having us buy this-- don't they get a discount?" even if you don't, people don't know that and would find it strange.
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  • Galaxy8227Galaxy8227
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    I think if you did it as an online registry it would be fine, but don't have FI's name as the rep, then I would find it really tacky since you'd be making money off of it
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  • WGachesWGaches member
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    Why don't just not register for those items at all? If you get some anyway, return them, and use the cash to buy them yourselves? It's really not that big of a deal. But don't register for them if FH is the only rep.
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  • Jennifer2008Jennifer2008
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    I normally am not fussy about registry stuff, but I would definitely NOT buy something for you from this, and would think it is tacky. My brother sells cutco and I too love the products. But I would never consider registering with him as a rep, and he is my brother, not my groom. The online registry is no help, in my opinion. Just register for other things -- sheets, bedding, towels, china, whatever you want -- and buy the pots, pans and knives yourself. Plus, you guys do get a crazy discount as stuff really is marked up a lot, so it makes no sense to have other people buy it for you. If close friends ask what you really want, I think it is ok to tell them you are saving up for a set of cutco pots and pans or something, and hope they'll take the subtle hint and give you cash. 
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  • golf*bridegolf*bride member
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    Some guests will give cash - so plan on using the cash to buy the knives/pans that you want and registory for other items.  

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  • Karen's MOHKaren's MOH member
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    Yup, I agree to spread the word subtly that you are saving up for a Cutco set and people will get the hint (only if they ask of course). And don't register for other pots and knives and whatever. I am not familiar with the brand or pricing, but is there any chance, someone would want to give them to you, like your parents or bridal party or something, and then they would basically give you the cash but that it is intended for the Cutco? The way sometimes someone will offer to pay for the photographer or whatever.
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  • Tatum88Tatum88
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    You could use the website I'm using for my registry, myregistry.com, to make a "cookware fund" or "knife fund" or whatever you want to call it. Thay way people can just contribute money to the fund and then you can purchase whatever you want from your husband so he gets credit, you get the cutco stuff, and guests won't feel awkward about having to buy from the groom.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_tacky-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:0ee71a84-fe50-456a-907f-eae49a4dc524Post:0fb24753-c999-4fbb-a68c-4681ebdc77bf">Re: Tacky registry?</a>:
    [QUOTE]You could use the website I'm using for my registry, myregistry.com, to make a "cookware fund" or "knife fund" or whatever you want to call it. Thay way people can just contribute money to the fund and then you can purchase whatever you want from your husband so he gets credit, you get the cutco stuff, and guests won't feel awkward about having to buy from the groom.
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    Don't do this.  Registering for money would be much tackier than registering for his knives.

    I agree w/PPs.  Just use cash gifts and buy a set.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I think most of us are well aware of what Cutco is.

    We're also very much aware that there are some much better products out there.

    Plus, we're giving advice based on proper etiquette. 
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  • Katie829Katie829 member
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    If he is a rep, does he get any deal/discount? You can always purchase them with gift money.
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