KPS.

crfische · April 2011

Thank you for sharing your secrets, people. KPS used to be such a good outlet and sparked good discussion, so let's talk about 'em.

A) If the rape one isn't real, that's just not cool.

crfische · April 2011

Also, I think that email proposal is really cute. As long as by TELLING YOU when it would be he wasn't like being all douchey and stuff.

LDYGTR13 · April 2011

The one about the mom with depression makes me think I wrote it myself, but I didn't. Whoever that is, if you want to chat, PM me. I know how that goes.

The rape one is weird...and now I'm wondering who the heck that is.

xyrius · April 2011

I can relate to the mom with depression one too! And I have a daughter and I think that all the time - how I don't want to repeat the same mistakes. I think though that it will make me a better mom.

And the not having friends one, (at least I think that's what it meant) - boy am I ever in the same boat. I wish it wasn't so hard to find meaningful friendships as an adult.

Birdie1483 · April 2011

I feel bad for bringing up the friendship thing in the confessions thread because now someone is obviously unhappy.

crfische · April 2011

Birdie, why would you feel bad about that? I think sometimes people think they are the ONLY ones who feel that, and you made someone out there realize that they aren't the only ones who feel that way, ya know?

Birdie1483 · April 2011

Well they could have been having a pretty happy day and then I brought it up and it reminded them about how they feel... and now they're sad.

LDYGTR13 · April 2011

Don't be sad! We'll be your friend, KPS poster!

annakb8 · April 2011

I think the email proposal sounds like it could be really cute. But I guess it would be kind of weird to get engaged when your FI wasn't actually in the room with you.

And the "rape" thing just sounds kinda effed up.

Birdie1483 · April 2011

It does make me feel better to know that others feel the same as I do. When I'm surrounded by people who have friends that they've known their entire life, it's easy to forget that it's not like that for everyone and I'm not as weird as I think I am.

scottswife1106 · April 2011

I wish I knew how to make a KPS cause I would.

My H's mom suffers from depression and he had a very hard childhood. I wish that he didn't have to go through most of the things that he did. Makes me really sad for him.

crfische · April 2011

Oh birdie. Bless your sensitive little heart. I'm sure if someone is feeling that way, that's just how they feel. Not because anyone brings it up.

xyrius · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:aec7a9a3-6312-4e3d-8a00-e2b343d5e34bPost:018d86f0-4529-426b-957d-958971d752db">Re: KPS.</a>:
[QUOTE]Well they could have been having a pretty happy day and then I brought it up and it reminded them about how they feel... and now they're sad.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

Nope, I agree with Fishy. I feel that way all the time and whenever I see that someone else is going through the same thing, I feel a bit happier because then at least I know I'm not abnormal. Does that make sense?

RobotLegs · April 2011

This makes me feel like I took a time machine to lunch! WOOOOAH.

The rape one? Um, if you enjoy it, is it rape? Because um, doesn't rape equal non-consensual? I don't get it.

crfische · April 2011

Scotts -- you just go to piknik or tinypic.com and just do it to it.

Birdie1483 · April 2011

I couldn't figure out if they put "rape" in quotations because it was more of a role playing swingers type deal or not...

annakb8 · April 2011

Birdie, I agree with everyone else, don't feel bad. One of my favorite things about TK is having discussions like the friendship one earlier and learning you aren't the only one dealing with something.

Birdie1483 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:aec7a9a3-6312-4e3d-8a00-e2b343d5e34bPost:c0237f3c-fdf6-4444-86d4-c8676844a4e7">Re: KPS.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS. : Nope, I agree with Fishy. I feel that way all the time and whenever I see that someone else is going through the same thing, I feel a bit happier because then at least I know I'm not abnormal. Does that make sense?
Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE]

Yes it does!

I think the first time I knew FI was really good for me was when he told me I"m not as weird as I think I am. I know people have told me that before, but when he said it something just made me feel relieved or something.

Anysunrise · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:aec7a9a3-6312-4e3d-8a00-e2b343d5e34bPost:7e89065b-402b-44c4-96b8-90f42a3149fe">Re: KPS.</a>:
[QUOTE]I couldn't figure out if they put "rape" in quotations because it was more of a role playing swingers type deal or not...
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>That's the impression I got out of it. I doubt she'd have enjoyed actually being raped.</div>

xyrius · April 2011

Yeah, I agree with Birdie about the quotation marks. They were probably role-playing.

Birdie1483 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:aec7a9a3-6312-4e3d-8a00-e2b343d5e34bPost:f1a56fa8-d1df-4953-9bf0-ccba5407af20">Re: KPS.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS. : That's the impression I got out of it. I doubt she'd have enjoyed actually being raped.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Yeah and I def wouldn't marry a guy who enjoyed me getting raped. Fo sho

RobotLegs · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:aec7a9a3-6312-4e3d-8a00-e2b343d5e34bPost:7e89065b-402b-44c4-96b8-90f42a3149fe">Re: KPS.</a>:
[QUOTE]I couldn't figure out if they put "rape" in quotations because it was more of a role playing swingers type deal or not...
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

Oh, ok I got it. Like a game. A rape game. FUN!

xyrius · April 2011

I don't want to judge because I know the point of KPS, but I admit the rape one made me feel a bit queazy.

I don't know why - I can't even stand simulated rape on movies - I have to turn it off and I literally start crying.

Birdie1483 · April 2011

There's no judgement from me on the rape one. I wish I could get crazy in the sack*.

ETA: *Meaning the role playing part, not the rape part.

musicalsunlight · April 2011

Yeah the rape one made me feel a little uneasy, even though I know the "rape" wasn't really actual rape. But I think it was the photo of the knife that got to me.

[Deleted User] · April 2011

The rape one kind of pisses me off. Not because they had a threesome (I think?) but because I hate it when people use it like that, in a role-playing sense and actually enjoy it. I'm not sure I can explain it well other than it makes me feel a bit nauseous. Like it's trivialized or something to be found exciting. Or maybe I just take it too seriously.

ETA--I like the email one. It would be sweet to open up an email like that. And totally surprising.

kcscejal · April 2011

I try not to judge, but the rape one made me a uneasy too. Making a fun game out of something so terrible just feels icky.

Birdie1483 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:aec7a9a3-6312-4e3d-8a00-e2b343d5e34bPost:29031ba2-7a23-470e-90e3-01fb502d069e">Re: KPS.</a>:
[QUOTE]The rape one kind of pisses me off. Not because they had a threesome (I think?) but because I hate it when people use it like that, in a role-playing sense and actually enjoy it. I'm not sure I can explain it well other than it makes me feel a bit nauseous. Like it's trivialized or something to be found exciting. Or maybe I just take it too seriously. ETA--I like the email one. It would be sweet to open up an email like that. And totally surprising.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

I agree with all of this. When I said I wished I could get crazy in the sack, I meant more like doing role playing... not so much role playing of being raped.

mica178 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kps-6?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:aec7a9a3-6312-4e3d-8a00-e2b343d5e34bPost:c18acdfa-6ca6-4d16-a861-930dfcd84b2d">Re: KPS.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: KPS. : Yeah and I def wouldn't marry a guy who enjoyed me getting raped. Fo sho
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

Wow, people took the call to post on KPS seriously. I hope this is a good thing.

missy68 · April 2011

I went out with a guy one time who said he would want to arrange meetings with other men for me to sleep with and he'd watch.

Um, that's called a pimp, and I've had my loose days, but I'm no hoar.

The key word in that first sentence is ONE.

kcscejal · April 2011

Yeah I don't think there's anything wrong with role playing at all, but I don't understand role playing rape.

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