Sexy time Poll

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

Condoms are the debil. I hate those things. Yay for husbands and birth control!

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Another question...Is sex important to you? As in, do you feel that your relationship would be significantly less fulfilling without it?

I think that I value sex a lot, and it definitely adds a very important part of our relationship. If something happened where we weren't able to anymore, I'd be ok, but I think it would take a while to adjust.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Oh yeah, intimacy I would consider separate in category and I would have a hard time being in a relationship without it.

Natrasha · July 2012

I'm with Rach. I could survive without P-in-V intercourse, but physical affection and intimacy would still have to be there. In and out of the bedroom.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

I think unless it is a special case, a lack of sexual activity in a relationship is an indicator that there are issues in the relationship, so yes, sex is very important to me.

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Another question...Is sex important to you? As in, do you feel that your relationship would be significantly less fulfilling without it? I think that I value sex a lot, and it definitely adds a very important part of our relationship. If something happened where we weren't able to anymore, I'd be ok, but I think it would take a while to adjust.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes it is, especially as our relationship is "young." However, I do feel that as our relationship grows with age, it will lose some of its importance.</div>

Cuss10 · July 2012

Is sex important to you? As in, do you feel that your relationship would be significantly less fulfilling without it?
We've done the long distance thing; not being able to reach out and hold his hand, give him a hug, or snuggle into him at night when I'm cold are a lot harder to go without than sex.

And tearing... ick. No thank you.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Is sex important to you? As in, do you feel that your relationship would be significantly less fulfilling without it? We've done the long distance thing; not being able to reach out and hold his hand, give him a hug, or snuggle into him at night when I'm cold are a lot harder to go without than sex. <strong>And tearing... ick. No thank you.
</strong>Posted by Cuss10[/QUOTE]

That was a little insensitive.

ahhhitsshannyn · July 2012

I don't know who usually initiates. I think H initiates but I give the green light if that makes any sense. He can normally sense when I don't want it so he doesn't try and I don't reject him.

Sex is important to us, but I agree that no sex wouldn't kill us, but intimacy and affection I couldn't do without. But of course that would only be for like some sort of medical problem that cannot be cured or if his wang got cut off or something, because I do agree with Muni that if there is no sex that is usually a problem deeper than just sex.

Beanie, that sounds terrible. I really hope you get something figured out soon!

Snippylynn · July 2012

How long would you have to go without sex to consider yourself in a dry spell?

2 weeks

What's the longest dry spell you've had (not while you were single, when you were married/had a SO)?

3 months

What was the reason? Deployment, pg/postpartum, something else?

Partner low sex drive, relationship issues.

- I always initiate with H. I could do a strip tease in front of him and he wouldn't understand I wanted sex.

- I think intimacy is important. I need to feel loved in SOME way.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Don't be sorry Beanie. We all talk about our personal lives a lot, I don't think its TMI really.

ahhhitsshannyn · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Is sex important to you? As in, do you feel that your relationship would be significantly less fulfilling without it? We've done the long distance thing; not being able to reach out and hold his hand, give him a hug, or snuggle into him at night when I'm cold are a lot harder to go without than sex. <strong>And tearing... ick. No thank you</strong>.
Posted by Cuss10[/QUOTE]

Uhhh well it's not like she does it on purpose. WTF.

WildRumpus · July 2012

How long would you have to go without sex to consider yourself in a dry spell?
2+ weeks

What's the longest dry spell you've had ?
In it right now

2 weeks

What was the reason?
Dr impossed.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I don't know who usually initiates. I think H initiates but I give the green light if that makes any sense. He can normally sense when I don't want it so he doesn't try and I don't reject him. Sex is important to us, but I agree that no sex wouldn't kill us, but intimacy and affection I couldn't do without. But of course that would only be for like some sort of medical problem that cannot be cured or i<strong>f his wang got cut off or something,</strong> because I do agree with Muni that if there is no sex that is usually a problem deeper than just sex. Beanie, that sounds terrible. I really hope you get something figured out soon!
Posted by ahhhitsshannyn[/QUOTE]

This made me chuckle out loud and it probably shouldn't have.

melb2013 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : I think our relationship would be less fulfilling without sex. If the sex significantly dropped off/went away, II think it would be an indicator of larger issues in our marriage. If something were to happen to one of us that actually prevented us from having sex, I'd like to think we'd be fine and just make it work.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div><div>
</div><div>I don't use hormal birth control and after all this talk about it affecting sex drives, makes me happy I don't. I'm an old fashioned girl who uses a diaphram- it's always worked for me!</div>

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Another question...Is sex important to you? As in, do you feel that your relationship would be significantly less fulfilling without it? I think that I value sex a lot, and it definitely adds a very important part of our relationship. If something happened where we weren't able to anymore, I'd be ok, but I think it would take a while to adjust.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Physical relationship is important to me. Not just the act itself, but the affection outside the bedroom aswell. Even when he wasn't feeling well we still cuddled and were physically affectionate.

On duty sex - I did cry because he would turn me down every time and he felt bad, so he'd participate, but he wasn't ever into it. He swore he was 'stressed' and it wasn't a good time for us. I spent a lot of time worrying if there was something wrong with me (am I fat? Ugly? It's been 4 years, is this the new norm) or with us, if he was sick, cheating, what was going on. I made a doctors appt with our GP for both of us and we talked to him about what was going on and found DHs medical issues.

I wouldn't say I guilted him into it, but he felt like he needed to give it to me to keep me happy.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

*hugs* Jill!

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Yeah Shan, I'm hardcore side-eyeing Cuss right now.

Cuss10 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : That was a little insensitive.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

It's another case of internet commication issues. It's my standard response to everything. If you had been sitting next to me when I read it you would have seen the way I cringed, how I felt lucky that I haven't had to go through anything like that, how horrible I feel that she does have to go through it and how lucky I think she is for having a guy to be there with her and to understand.

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Steff - are you talking about your H with the obligated sex? Cuss - not cool, dude.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

Yes, I was responding to a PP but too lazy to quote.

To those getting Mirena, my sex drive didn't change on it vs the pill.It is easy.

WildRumpus · July 2012

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[QUOTE]*hugs* Jill!
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

Seriously dudes. H usually initiates. But being told that I flat out CAN'T has got my hormones dialed into "12 year old boy who just discovered what that thing can do" territory.

gurrlballa10 · July 2012

How long would you have to go without sex to consider yourself in a dry spell?
Well we are currently in a dry spell, so....
What's the longest dry spell you've had (not while you were single, when you were married/had a SO)?
a couple of months
What was the reason? Deployment, pg/postpartum, something else?
I have absolutely no sex drive because of my thyroid. My doctor and I are currently trying to figure out a solution and H knows that, so he is being very patient about it.

H always initiates it.

Before my situation came up, I would have said sex is crucial in a relationship, but now that I am going through this, I think it's important, but not the end all, be all. Would I want this to continue for the rest of our lives? Heck no, but we've been dealing with this for about a year now, so I feel like once we get the solution, it will have only made us stronger for it.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

Think before you type, Cuss. Because, clearly everyone else is thinking "oooh, tearing! yay!"

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

TBH, sex isn't important to me. I guess that's weird. I mean, sex is great, yes, but not having it wouldn't bother me, I don't think. I've never had those crazy hormones though that told me I needed to bone.

As long as H and I still cuddle and enjoy each other and what not, if one of us was permanently not allowed, I'd be okay. He probably wouldn't agree lol.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

That makes sense Jill -- being told you cant always makes you more tempted.

Cuss -- That may be true but that was a pretty poor reflection of what you were really "thinking" then.

jennamarie10 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]TBH, sex isn't important to me. I guess that's weird. I mean, sex is great, yes, but not having it wouldn't bother me, I don't think. I've never had those crazy hormones though that told me I needed to bone. As long as H and I still cuddle and enjoy each other and what not, if one of us was permanently not allowed, I'd be okay. He probably wouldn't agree lol.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

this is me, for the most part. I would rather cuddle all the live long day.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

I don't know anyone like this, but I know there are people who truly believe that sex is only appropriate for procreation. I mean, good for them for having those beliefs but my god I would hate that.

ahhhitsshannyn · July 2012

Guys come on, I always say "Ick" when I feel bad for someone.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

"Sex is for procreation, not recreation."

The baptist church has a rhyme for everything.

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]"Sex is for procreation, not recreation." The baptist church has a rhyme for everything.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
Sadly one of them is not "Give a cheer for an ice cold beer!"

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