In the few weeks I've been around here, I've seen a lot of posts about making your guests comfortable and doing things so that it is convenient and fun for guests - which I agree with - but a destination wedding would not be convenient for anyone.
My FI and I are about 95% sure we want a destination wedding in western Montana. We are probably going to be having it at a hotel (and if not, we'll have a bus or something to get everyone to and from the hotel) and are planning on doing a welcome dinner or brunch the next day or something. We're hoping to spend more time with our guests than just at the wedding and will probably incorporate something tourist-y into the wedding itself (if it's in the national park - a bus tour, or if it's on the lake a boat tour during the hors d'oeurves and cocktail hour while we're taking pictures) and we'll do everything we can to make it fun and easy for everyone who comes.
I don't know if you care, but let me give you a little background. My FI and I are planning to move to Montana after we get married. We love everything about it. We want to start our marriage and life together in the place where we'll be living it.
I have pretty significant anxiety and self-esteem issues and the thought of 200 people staring at me all day is terrifying. I studder when I'm nervous and I'm already awake at night sometimes worried that I'll studder through my vows. I don't even like the idea of a head table where everyone would be watching me eat. I think a DW would feel more casual and laid back and comfortable for me.
We would have a party at home when we get back, but obviously wouldn't do the first dance or cake cutting or any of that crap.
What do you guys think? If/when you get a DW invite are you upset if you won't be able to make it and wishing they'd do it at home?
Sorry this is long...I'm starting to worry. A lot.
Thanks!!