IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES?

zitiqueen · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : from google it's 'I am going to'
Posted by hellerc1[/QUOTE]

OP, if you ever come back, please use your big-girl words here.

futurepivko · May 2011

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[QUOTE]WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YRS IN SEPTEMBER AND I WAS WONDERING SHOULD I GET UPSET WHEN HE LEAVES WITH HIS FRIEND WITH A LITTLE BIT?? AND I KINDA HAVE AN ATTITUDE ISSUE GOING ON AND IM REALLY TRYING TO GET BETTER CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ANY TIPS ON LOSSING UP A LITTLE BIT!?
Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

i didnt read the entire thread. i dont want a headache.

im just reading this post, and answering.

first of all, the fact that you have been together for 2 years shows a lot. you seem young, and he has seemed to stick around.

no, i dont believe you should be upset when he goes with his friends. sometimes you 2 need to be apart. sometimes it is nice to have some alone time :) watch some tv (with the risk of boyfriend stealing the remote <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" /> ) read a magazine, go on a walk....do something for yourself.

just know that when he spends time with his friend, he is not leaving you...he is taking time for himself and that is very healthy.

M&R7111 · May 2011

This situation reminds me of a poem I love that is being read at our ceremony:

Kahlil Gibran once wrote:
"Love one another, but not make a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup, but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread, but not eat from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together,
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."

You've got to be your own person, too. I agree with PP, go do your own hobbies. Tell your BF "I'm going out!" one night and leave him behind.

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : That's what it is. OP, both you and your boyfriend need to have separate lives in addition to your life together. It's very hard to be enough people for the other person and you both need to have time with your friends and to do the things you like to do. I've been with FI for almost 6 years and we've been LDR for 4 years. If one of us got mad everytime I left to go back to school, our relationship never would've survived. You have to trust each other and enjoy not only your time together, but your time apart.
Posted by Beazilla[/QUOTE]
Thank you!! im really needing this advice!! about this post at least!!

CassieeK · May 2011

You can't expect to be together all the time. Don't you ever go anywhere with your friends?

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : What is 'ima'?
Posted by LucyHC[/QUOTE]
Are you trying to say that as if im stupid?

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]OP, why do you want to get married now?
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]
well im not getin married not its goin to be a year or 2 but i just wanted to see what my problem was and a couple of stratgies to stop getting mad you know all the help is needed but all the negativity is getting me upset!

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : OP, if you ever come back, please use your big-girl words here.
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]
No need to be rude and if that all im going to get from ya'll then theres no need to even keep answering my forum! And AGAIN im sorry if i upset somebody!

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]You can't expect to be together all the time. Don't you ever go anywhere with your friends?
Posted by CassieeK[/QUOTE]
its kinda hard because if i havent mentioned before i do have a 3 yr old son so that kinda make it hard and most of my friend are not really my real friends! Icant trust them! And maybe i was thinking i could find at least a couple of good girlfriends to chat with in here but obviously they like to just be rude or what not!

CassieeK · May 2011

I'm sorry you don't like your friends, but having a son does not mean you need to be together all the time. And I wasn't rude. There are plenty of people you'll find to chat with here, but that doesn't mean they will all agree with everything you say. Not everyone is going to tell you what you want to hear all of the time.

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry you don't like your friends, but having a son does not mean you need to be together all the time. And I wasn't rude. There are plenty of people you'll find to chat with here, but that doesn't mean they will all agree with everything you say. Not everyone is going to tell you what you want to hear all of the time.
Posted by CassieeK[/QUOTE]
yea your right about that an im sorry i wasnt meaning you were rude to im sorry i just meant some other ladies.. but yea i understand that

Queen Jane · May 2011

Be careful, it is really easy to become resentful if your FI gets to go out and you are always the one to stay in and watch your son. Maybe you could talk to him about taking turns being able to get out, or find a good sitter. I have found that it's important for FI and I to have a date night every few weeks when our schedules allow. We will usually go for dinner and meet up with friends later for drinks/to be social. We live in FI's hometown and I don't have a boatload of friends here. For that reason, he does tend to go out a bit more than I would, but we make sure there are times for me to go out and have some of my own time also.

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Be careful, it is really easy to become resentful if your FI gets to go out and you are always the one to stay in and watch your son. Maybe you could talk to him about taking turns being able to get out, or find a good sitter. I have found that it's important for FI and I to have a date night every few weeks when our schedules allow. We will usually go for dinner and meet up with friends later for drinks/to be social. We live in FI's hometown and I don't have a boatload of friends here. For that reason, he does tend to go out a bit more than I would, but we make sure there are times for me to go out and have some of my own time also.
Posted by Queen Jane[/QUOTE]
Thank you!

SKP82 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YRS IN SEPTEMBER AND I WAS WONDERING SHOULD I GET UPSET WHEN HE LEAVES WITH HIS FRIEND WITH A LITTLE BIT?? AND I KINDA HAVE AN ATTITUDE ISSUE GOING ON AND IM REALLY TRYING TO GET BETTER CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ANY TIPS ON LOSSING UP A LITTLE BIT!?
Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

Yes it is extremely <u>immature</u>. Try spell check.

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : Yes it is extremely immature . Try spell check.
Posted by SKP82[/QUOTE]
thank you:)

crash2729 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : Are you trying to say that as if im stupid?
Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

<div>No, I don't believe that's what she was saying. I believe that she really didn't know what Ima means. A lot of ladies on here are older than you, and just don't know what slang is in right now.</div><div>
</div><div>You should just hedge your bets and use regular talk. You'll find it's easier to communicate. </div><div>
</div><div>But to answer your OP, My FI goes out when he wants with his friend to play catch or whatever. And I either go out or stay home and watch TV or a movie. Over the 3 years we've been together, there has been some jealousy over the amount of time he spent with his BFF (At one point they were living together, and it was like overkill). But, since we've both grown up some it's not that big of a deal. You should definitely set up some ground rules about it, if it really concerns you that much.</div>

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : No, I don't believe that's what she was saying. I believe that she really didn't know what Ima means. A lot of ladies on here are older than you, and just don't know what slang is in right now. You should just hedge your bets and use regular talk. You'll find it's easier to communicate. But to answer your OP, My FI goes out when he wants with his friend to play catch or whatever. And I either go out or stay home and watch TV or a movie. Over the 3 years we've been together, there has been some jealousy over the amount of time he spent with his BFF (At one point they were living together, and it was like overkill). But, since we've both grown up some it's not that big of a deal. You should definitely set up some ground rules about it, if it really concerns you that much.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]
thank you

NcsuPsych · May 2011

Before DH and I got married, we went through marriage counseling, which I highly recommend for anyone considering marriage.

While we already felt this way prior to getting engaged and talking about marriage, we found it to be even more important once we were married. The preacher also promoted it to. . .

In a relationship, you have 3 'lives'. You have YOURS, then there is your signifcant others life and lastly, you have your life TOGETHER. While the life together is extremely important, it's also important to have a life on your own to (having your friends, hobbies, things you like to do). You can't completely drop your own life. It's unhealthy and will probably lead to more issues.

If you're seriously getting mad at your BF for going out with his friends, even though you'ver already admitted that he spends most of his time with you to being with. Yes, you've got an issue and it needs to be addressed. It could possibly be some form of insecurity that you're not fully aware of. However I would talk to your BF and let him know how you feel. When you do this though, don't make him feel bad for having friends and a life outside of the relationship.

I would recommend trying to make new friends (since you said your other ones can't be trusted) and have girls night or just pick up a new hobby. Let yourself grow some, outside of your relationship. You're young. You need to figure out who you are.

zitiqueen · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : its kinda hard because if i havent mentioned before i do have a 3 yr old son so that kinda make it hard and most of my friend are not really my real friends! Icant trust them! And maybe i was thinking i could find at least a couple of good girlfriends to chat with in here but obviously they like to just be rude or what not!
Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

You're still in high school, you have a 3-year-old son, you're jealous if your BF tries to leave the house without you, and you're engaged to be married.

This has 'success' written all over it.

iloveguero09 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : You're still in high school, you have a 3-year-old son, you're jealous if your BF tries to leave the house without you, and you're engaged to be married. This has 'success' written all over it.
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]
no need to respond to this one cause you dont know me good bye!

bluegrassbride11 · May 2011

@iloveguero

First of all, I'm sorry for all the rude comments and remarks that have been made. Some have good points, but alot of this is unnecessary.

I agree, try to use good punctuation, it will help everyone talk to you better on here!
It doesn't matter if English if your first language or not, you are still a girl who is planning to get married and you have every right to post on here, just try to keep your keyboard off caps

I really do understand your want to be with your FI. It does not matter if you have a 3 yr old son or not. Every girl makes mistakes in her life. Don't let some of these women get you down. You are still a precious individual who wants what's best for herself and future family.

As some suggested, you may want to take up a hobby or find something new to do. If you have full custody of your son, maybe you could take him to church. That would get your mind off things, and it's something you both could do together. Go to the park, take walks, watch tv together.

Many people on here have an opposite outlook on life as I do, and that's perfectly fine. I will be travelling the country with my husband, full time. We will be together 7 days a week. I'm sure we will have our spats, but we both are looking forward to the special time we get to spend with each other. Before our kids come (whom we will homeschool), we want to enjoy our time together, and cherish the moments. We are very family oriented, and I encourage you to just hang in there, and try your best to not be jealous. I know it's hard! Praying for you!

NcsuPsych · May 2011

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[QUOTE]@iloveguero First of all, I'm sorry for all the rude comments and remarks that have been made. Some have good points, but alot of this is unnecessary. I agree, try to use good punctuation, it will help everyone talk to you better on here! It doesn't matter if English if your first language or not, you are still a girl who is planning to get married and you have every right to post on here, just try to keep your keyboard off caps :) I really do understand your want to be with your FI. It does not matter if you have a 3 yr old son or not. Every girl makes mistakes in her life. Don't let some of these women get you down. You are still a precious individual who wants what's best for herself and future family. As some suggested, you may want to take up a hobby or find something new to do. If you have full custody of your son, maybe you could take him to church. That would get your mind off things, and it's something you both could do together. Go to the park, take walks, watch tv together. Many people on here have an opposite outlook on life as I do, and that's perfectly fine. I will be travelling the country with my husband, full time. We will be together 7 days a week. I'm sure we will have our spats, but we both are looking forward to the special time we get to spend with each other. Before our kids come (whom we will homeschool), we want to enjoy our time together, and cherish the moments. We are very family oriented, and I encourage you to just hang in there, and try your best to not be jealous. I know it's hard! Praying for you!
Posted by bluegrassbride11[/QUOTE]

Seriously? Are you guys like BFF's? No one has been rude or snarky.

misslizz · May 2011

[QUOTE]It does not matter if you have a 3 yr old son or not. Every girl makes mistakes in her life. [/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>When you become a mother, you lose the "right" to knowingly make mistakes.</div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>OP, I think you should take a step back and examine your own life and what you expect out of marriage. It's not normal or healthy to spend 100% of your time with your significant other. And it's not normal or healthy to be angry when they go out with their friends.</div><div>
</div><div>I wish you luck in whatever choice you make.

</div>

stacie+luciano · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Before DH and I got married, we went through marriage counseling, which I highly recommend for anyone considering marriage. While we already felt this way prior to getting engaged and talking about marriage, we found it to be even more important once we were married. The preacher also promoted it to. . . In a relationship, you have 3 'lives'. You have YOURS, then there is your signifcant others life and lastly, you have your life TOGETHER. While the life together is extremely important, it's also important to have a life on your own to (having your friends, hobbies, things you like to do). You can't completely drop your own life. It's unhealthy and will probably lead to more issues. If you're seriously getting mad at your BF for going out with his friends, even though you'ver already admitted that he spends most of his time with you to being with. Yes, you've got an issue and it needs to be addressed. It could possibly be some form of insecurity that you're not fully aware of. However I would talk to your BF and let him know how you feel. When you do this though, don't make him feel bad for having friends and a life outside of the relationship. I would recommend trying to make new friends (since you said your other ones can't be trusted) and have girls night or just pick up a new hobby. Let yourself grow some, outside of your relationship. You're young. You need to figure out who you are.
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]

<div>This. 100%.</div><div>
</div><div>My FI and I have totally different schedules and lives. I'm in school part time right now, and working almost 40 hours a week, and he works about 60-70 hours a week. I have developed hobbies. I like to read, watch TV, play with my furbaby, RELAX, get a pedicure every so often (or do it myself). You need to explore all your options. </div><div>
</div><div>And like cmgr said, you will fall in love many times. I did. And I'm glad I didn't marry the first guy I fell for.</div><div>
Is your son your BFs? If so, is that what is pressuring you to marry him (and I use pressure very lightly here)? If so, you don't need to marry him just because he's your baby's daddy. You may love him now, but will you love him in 5 years? That's what you need to ask yourself.</div><div>
</div><div>You're young and need to experience life (I know this. I'm only 22 but I know I am mature, stable and ready to say I do), and have FUN. Being young is about having fun (yes you can have tons of fun if you're older too :) ). Right now you need to live and let live. Seriously.</div><div>
</div><div>If you need him to be by your side 24/7, you need to seek a counselor or someone to help with this issue. And yes, it is an issue.</div>

JanoBean75 · May 2011

OP, my husband and I have been married just since September, but we have been together more than six years. There have been times where we seemed like we were together 24/7 in the beginning. But we did establish what we call "me time."

Right now we're both home, but we're in the middle of a 2-hour "me time." I'm in the office on the Knot and playing a computer game, H is in the living room playing Xbox 360 and listening to WWE. Once the two hours are up, we'll join together for a late dinner and a movie.

We both love being with each other more than anything, but without "me time" we'd go stir crazy. It's healthy to maintain outside interests and friendships.

I agree with all the people mentioning finding a hobby. I love scrapbooking, cardmaking, reading, etc. Maybe take an online class. Go to meetup.com and look for a group to join.

I don't think anyone was trying to imply you were stupid. It's just that message boards aren't chat rooms. For the most part, people spell things out and write in complete sentences. Text speak is best left for texting. I usually find text speak difficult to read and end up not reading a post because of it. I would hate for you to not get great advice because someone couldn't read your posts.

tesskerr · May 2011

Imagine if he got angry at you every time you went out with your friends? I wish my FI would go out with his friends more, but he can't, because they ALL have girlfriends/FI who don't let them go out. Not even on a sunday to watch a game. One of them even things I want to sleep with her boyfriend (he is missing teeth...) because I laughed at his jokes.

Crazy obsessive girlfriends/FI not only ruin (maybe an exaggeration) their partners lives, but they also effect the partners friends, and in turn their girlfriends. You want your partner to have friends right? You want him to be happy right?

And the more amazing and happy you are, the more you prove to be the coolest FI ever, who lets your FI go out with his mates, and play xbox with them till 2 in the morning and whatever else he wants to do, 2 things will happen. 1- he will appreciate you EVEN more and 2- he will stop doing all that so much, because he can do it when ever he wants. Like reverse psychology.

If he takes advantage of being able to do whatever he wants (like going out every night) then that's not really the sort of person you want to be with, anyway.

I know it's hard, when I was your age I was a little like that. Just keep telling yourself "I'm the cool girlfriend, I'm the cool girlfriend" take a deep breath, smile, and say "hope you have a good time babe, see when you get home!" and then please don't txt him 50 times a night. Once or twice is ok, or if it gets to like 5am and he's not home, but otherwise you should be happy that the person you love is having a nice time.

crash2729 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_imature-mad-boyfriend-leaves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:adc6551b-8cb9-4eb4-b92b-f563a4337f8dPost:785370c3-bc33-4802-8c55-bd451eb366bc">Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES?</a>:
[QUOTE]@iloveguero <strong>First of all, I'm sorry for all the rude comments and remarks that have been made. </strong>Some have good points, but alot of this is unnecessary. I agree, try to use good punctuation, it will help everyone talk to you better on here! It doesn't matter if English if your first language or not, you are still a girl who is planning to get married and you have every right to post on here, just try to keep your keyboard off caps :) I really do understand your want to be with your FI. It does not matter if you have a 3 yr old son or not. <strong>Every girl makes mistakes in her life. </strong>Don't let some of these women get you down. You are still a precious individual who wants what's best for herself and future family. As some suggested, you may want to take up a hobby or find something new to do. If you have full custody of your son, maybe you could take him to church. That would get your mind off things, and it's something you both could do together. Go to the park, take walks, watch tv together. Many people on here have an opposite outlook on life as I do, and that's perfectly fine. I will be travelling the country with my husband, full time. We will be together 7 days a week. I'm sure we will have our spats, but we both are looking forward to the special time we get to spend with each other. Before our kids come (whom we will homeschool), we want to enjoy our time together, and cherish the moments. We are very family oriented, and I encourage you to just hang in there, and try your best to not be jealous. I know it's hard! Praying for you!
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<div>Seriously? Are you done playing captain save-a-newb? No one has been rude to her. One or two people maybe. But she's not getting "kicked off the boards". We offered her advice on how to come across better on here and she continued to do the exact opposite of that. </div><div>
</div><div>But I wouldn't go calling her kid a mistake just because she had him at 15. </div><div>
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iloveguero09 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_imature-mad-boyfriend-leaves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:adc6551b-8cb9-4eb4-b92b-f563a4337f8dPost:9842f143-c9cd-493e-a13e-93abf632487b">Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT IMATURE IF I GET MAD AT MY BOYFRIEND WHEN HE LEAVES? : Seriously? Are you done playing captain save-a-newb? No one has been rude to her. One or two people maybe. But she's not getting "kicked off the boards". We offered her advice on how to come across better on here and she continued to do the exact opposite of that. But I wouldn't go calling her kid a mistake just because she had him at 15.
Posted by crash2729[/QUOTE]
Well im truly sorry if i was being rude and i didnt even n0otice it im sorry and i will try to be more cooperative thank you all oh so much...

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