In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_boudoir-photos-classy-trashy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:377be6be-1252-41d2-8ee5-ef21785f99d3Post:a979f57d-adb2-46cf-a325-592d8cbe3614">Re: Boudoir Photos - Classy or Trashy?</a>: [QUOTE]I don't think it's fair to judge someone's boudoir photos as classy or trashy. Because, personally, I wouldn't consider my own "classy", but then again, classy is something I want to be when I'm at a fundraiser or a guest at a wedding. In the privacy of my own bedroom, I prefer other adjectives to describe me. And that's the point. These aren't MEANT for random people on the interwebz. They are meant for the lover of the person who took them. Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
<div>Well said! Whatever you and your FI are comfortable with is what you go with. </div>
I have wanted to do the pictures just for myself for a long time so now that I'm engaged and have that special someone that would appreciate them even more than myself I'm going to have them done. I haven't decided if they are going to be a wedding gift for him or for our 1 year anniversary. One of my bridesmaids is going with me and she is getting them done for her husband as well. I work for a professional photography lab (not studio) and see these pictures every week. Some are good and some are really bad. Take the time to find a photographer you are comfortable with and view their work in person, NOT only from their webiste! It should be a wonderful experience that you will always remember even when you have had 3 kids and gained weight! You can look back at them and maybe give you the motivation to get back to that again! I do not plan to share these pictures with anyone other than my fiance. And it's up to you how classy or trashy you want. You can do lingera, a sporty jersey with boy cut panties underneath, wrapped in a sheet or completely nude, you can ever show as much nude as you want! You just have to be comfortable with it and the person shooting it. I would suggest not using a student or an ametuer for this at all if you want them to be great. The woman doing mine use to own a glamour shots and now she has her own studio. She provides hair, makeup and knows just how to pose you to make you look your best. Plus with the help of retouching/photoshop all those bags, sags, stretch marks and so much more are gone!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_boudoir-photos-classy-trashy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:377be6be-1252-41d2-8ee5-ef21785f99d3Post:d7aa652f-b208-4f5d-aa92-76eb8ebe2042">Re: Boudoir Photos - Classy or Trashy?</a>: [QUOTE]I'm not a fan. When I think boudoir photos, I think "klassy". I always wonder how I would feel if my kids found them. EWWW. Every person to his/her own though. If it makes you feel, well, beautiful, then go for it. Having said that, I've not seen alot of boudoir photography. Posted by deepcovejackie[/QUOTE]
EXACTLY. I think if my mom had done it and I had found the pics, I would have been traumatized, lol. I would be very embarassed at the least if my future children found pictures of me wearing nothing but a sheet.
I would never do them but thats b/c i'd never take a naked pic or even dolled up in pretty lingerie. But if your the kind of person that would let your FH take a naked pic w/ his phone after having some playtime then why not have some professional fancy ones taken. But if you'd never let him take one of you before then i wouldn't just because your getting married. It's not a wedding tradition and it probable never will be.
Personally....it's not something I would do. You have to have a real sense of who you are and confidence to pull photos like that off. I am not one of those people..lol. With the poster who said she was a fat ass...you are not alone. I would not even go there even though my FH thinks I am beautiful and sexy. This isn't my first marriage and I have 2 kids so needless to say...boudoir photos...NO WAY! lol
Actually this is a fun option: I'm very confident in my body so when my fh and I went on a cruise 2 months ago as sort of a breather, reconnection vacation I allowed him to take his own pics of me in cute little out fits. he was surprised more an more by every outfit.
I think they are not appropriate. Like so many things in this day and time no matter how private you think the material is eventually it will show up somewhere. Look at all the photos, etc that appear on facebook, phones and all other type of media. For every action there is a reaction and some of these photos might cost you a job or a promotion one day when they are used by the wrong individual. Not to mention would your parents, family members or your children be insulted or even embarrased when they saw them?
I too have seen the (slightly embarassing) "boudoir" photos. Except the ones I saw had both the bride and groom in them which made them somehow much much more inappropriate.
I personally think that if you stick to the, as you said, cutesy end of things it could probably be a really great idea.
In any event, I just always think "what would I do if one day I have children and they see this". If the answer is "freak out and sign them up for therapy" then you probably shouldn't do it...
unfortunately, i have seen more trashy than classy...i think its a fine line between being sexy and, well trashy....a few issues I have 1) photographers shouldnt be displaying boudoir photos on their websites...PERIOD. 2) If these are supposed to be special intimate pictures for your MAN, why do some women feel the need to show it to EVERYONE?????
**disclaimer, I am not conservative by ANY means, but I think with such a sensitive thing (your body) you need to have class and tact.
I am thinking (since my FI loves taking pictures and has a really great eye for the camera) that once we get our super duper cool expensive professional camera in a year or two, I will let him take some sexy photos of me! I think that will be a fun, intimate experience for the both of us!
I think it's an interesting idea and I haven't found any of the boudoir photos I've seen to be trashy at all. I do prefer the retro pin-up look over any others, but I really feel like its a 'to each his own' thing.
Personally, I feel it's a bit frivolous- in my case, anyway. There isn't much money to be had for our wedding as it is and I certainly don't need the extra expense. Not to be crass, but if my husband-to-be wanted to see me in my underwear, he could just ask and have it IRL. That's the only hang up I really have with boudoir photos- cute, but what's the purpose here really?
I'm pretty sure that my true love would appreciate tasteful photos of me in sexy poses/outfits taken by our talented photographer. However, we want to spend our money and our photographer's time on us as a couple.
I'm amazed at how distracting all of the wedding hoopla can be. There are so many aspects of modern weddings that aren't about making a loving commitment to each other. My fiance and I struggle to keep focused on a meaningful ceremony and a great celebration afterward.
The wedding industry is very good trying to find ways to get us to spend our money on them. Hopefully, financial focus will help us pay a bigger down payment on a house. And he can pose me however he likes in our own new home.
Whatever you choose, do what feels natural to you, and avoid the wedding peer pressure!
I've seen a few pictures done in corsets with nice underwear and stockings, so the model is covered yet able to show her "sexy" side. I think it really is just for your fiance, because he really should be the only one looking at you like that anyway. Having your "stuff" showing to everyone on line is bad regardless of who you are, you kids, future employers, parents can see that. I agree with most of the post that say its the situation, not the pictures themselves that make them trashy.
I have actually had photos like these done. I suggested it to a friend of mine who was getting married as a bachelorette party deal. The company I looked at offered services for everyone and had photos of both the super sexy vibe and the fun pin up style.
Essentially what it comes down to, is you! I suggested it to the friend because she was having issues with her soon to be husbands bachelor party. She hasn't been known for her raving self confidence and to get yourself dolled up and then have great photos taken of you, no matter what you will feel so sexy and super hot. Not to mention that when you do it with a group its that much more fun!
This was the company I went with and I even have some of my own photos in their gallery. I would do it again any day for any reason. The important thing is to NEVER do something outside of your comfort zone.
FYI both her fiancée and my boyfriend Love!!! their calendars. And my friend, had no more worries about her Fiancées party. Mission accomplished.
Go to captuingyou.net!! Jennifer does a GREAT job of making everything romantic and classy!!! Shes located there in Houston! She is our photographer for our wedding and I am getting them done! Im not a size 2, so i was a little nervous, but she had some beautiful boudoir pictures of NOT size 2 women that are SOO tasteful, sexy, and beautiful! Check her out!!...Jennifer's website i mean!
I've definitely seen some that are too racy for me but I think that as long as you choose a photographer that you're comfortable with and define what kind of vibe you're going for, they can turn out really well. If you aren't comfortable with them then don't do them, because you don't need to and it will totally show in your pictures. As for the girls who say they aren't camera ready (i.e. too fat, etc.) no matter what you look like now, the man you love would/ or should appreciate and love your body. When you're both old, wrinkly and veiny you can look back and appreciate how young and beautiful you were at this time in your life. With all that said, I do think it's a touch trashy to show them to everyone. I might show a few to my closest friends and I'm not showing any bits.
they can be sometimes trashy but i haven't seen much of that. i love them and am definitely doing them!! it's really not that new of an idea. i've done it before just not in a bridal way it's a lot of fun. i think it depends on the person and their confidence, comfort, modesty levels etc. if they're tastefully done i wouldn't mind showing people on the net but that's just me.
This concept is only starting to catch on here in New Zealand. I'm thinking of it but not the kind of pictures you're mentioning. We have a company who does 40's/50's pinup style or burlesque style pictures but they would never do something like just a tie, its always done in costume.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_boudoir-photos-classy-trashy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:377be6be-1252-41d2-8ee5-ef21785f99d3Post:343573bf-ba97-41a8-886a-57dd46ffe4e7">Re: Boudoir Photos - Classy or Trashy?</a>: [QUOTE]I'm with Sadie. It totally depends on the photographer and the model. I've seen really classy ones and really trashy ones. I like the pinup type, too. A good example is this place: <a href="http://www.hollywoodcalling.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hollywoodcalling.com/</a> I would do some if I wasn't such a fatass. Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
I'm not sure who told you that big girls can't do beautiful pinup pics, but they lied. Some of the most beautiful ones I've seen came from a friend of mine who is about 5'9" and about 300 lbs. They were done very tastefully and were drop-dead gorgeous.
I say go fo it to anyone, as long as you sign an agreement with the photographer first to have them release all copyrights and slides of negatives to you, and as long as your significant other is the only one seeing them. I plan on doing a spread for my husband, and at 5'4" tall and 200 lbs, I am not one bit ashamed of my body or doing the spread. Obviously my husband is attracted to me, otherwise we wouldn't be entering a lifetime partnership....
I had them done and mine are very classy. I gave it to my FH as a valentine's day gift and I have some more with my veil on and bride underwear for the wedding day. Of course there are trashy looking ones...it's what you want done and the photographer you choose. Here is my photographer's link...she is amazing to say the least! I also showed my mother and 2 best friends and even my mom thought they were very classy!! m http://www.abrilliantphoto.com/boudoirblog/
It's all about how you do them. Trashy would be porn like poses posted up all over your reception venue. b-pics can be absolutely wonderful, go for it!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_boudoir-photos-classy-trashy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:377be6be-1252-41d2-8ee5-ef21785f99d3Post:d7aa652f-b208-4f5d-aa92-76eb8ebe2042">Re: Boudoir Photos - Classy or Trashy?</a>: [QUOTE]I'm not a fan. When I think boudoir photos, I think "klassy". I always wonder how I would feel if my kids found them. EWWW. Every person to his/her own though. If it makes you feel, well, beautiful, then go for it. Having said that, I've not seen alot of boudoir photography. Posted by deepcovejackie[/QUOTE]
I think if your kids find them, it's okay. Nudity is not "dirty". Would it be ideal for your kids to find them, no. Would it be terrible, no. I just don't get the whole American way of looking at nudity.
I agree that boudior photos have been around for a long time. About 10 years ago I had some done. In some I was fully covered and others I had varying degrees of undress. My favorite was where I was nude. I layed back over a box covered and I was facing away from the camera with my arm kind of up and around my head. The shot went from my arm to just below my belly button and was done in sepia. I found it to be a beautiful portrayal of my curves without being "trashy". I did them for myself. They made me feel beautiful and sexy. A woman's body is truly a beautiful thing no matter your size or shape. That's one of the reasons that men love us. My man would love something like that. I may do it for a 1 year gift. On the other hand, my MOH, who is my FI's sister has had some done recently. She had them done for her husband of almost 20 years which I think is great but... she has them displayed in their bedroom. No problem yet but... she has an 19 year old son and an 8 year old son who have of course seen them. She is also the type of person who will say "can you grab ----? its just in my room." She will do this to my FI, who is her brother. To me that is kind of creepy. I would NOT want my brother seeing me like that, no matter how pretty they are. I figure that if that is what you both think you can enjoy, then do it. Whatever style you want to do. Just if you have kids, family, or friends coming by, put them in an album. I love my MOH and would not change a thing about her. Just not my style.
Actually, the idea of boudoir photos has been around for DECADES. They even did a Golden Girls episode about it. Their popularity as a wedding gift has increased recently, and they have now been included in a lot of high end photog packages, but the wedding industry did NOT invent the idea and there are a lot of photographers who make their living doing just these types of photos.
Yep. The episode came on recently and I still cracked up. I would love to do some photos, but it's not in the budget.
I do not thik that it is trashy at all! Im sure he will love it! A few years ago I had a friend that was best friends with a female photographer and she wanted to take some "sexy" pictures for experience. I always wanted to model so I thought sure it will be fun why not? I had a blast and I will say I love my pictures! We went out to the beach (it was winter so no one was out there) and I did some with a white buttom up shirt and a brown bathing suit bottom, and we did some on the rocks with my shirt off, but you couldn't see anything. All of them were very artistic and pretty. Maybe go with the "classy" style your naked but your whole boob isnt hanging out. And I personally do not think that it is trashy to share with your close friends. Depending on how your FI feels about it... I shared mine because it was art and Im not a wild or cocky girl but they were beautiful and I was proud! You should do something that makes you feel beautiful! Every women needs to feel that way about themselves!
And to the girl who said she would if she wasnt a fatass... You are beautiful too!!!
So, idk if people are still reading this but here are my two cents. I got b-pics done in January, but I think they were more on the side of a head-shot photo shoot than sexy/nude pictures. Most were of my face. I was wearing a black lingerie babydoll that completely covered my boobs and ended with a bit of my butt hanging out. The other pictures were me in a sweater and boyshort underwear. I never really get pictures taken, especially because of my lack of confidence. But, I love my pictures! I gave my FI the album but I have shown many people the individual photos. They are in no way raunchy (and the only pose that shows my butt is for only him) besides a tiny amount of cleavage in the sweater shots. I think they are great because I can use the pictures that are of my shoulders and up for other purposes. I feel like people should do them for themselves and not just their FI since they made me feel a lot better about myself. I was shocked at how great they came out. GL deciding and my vote is for classy, depending on how you do them.
I have a photographer I really trust, and have hatched a great plan with him. After I have my hair and makeup done and all my underthings are on, we are kicking everyone out of the dressing room at the venue and he's taking pics of me in my day-of lingeree. Then, he's going to keep them out of the proofs and off the main CD so I can hold them for a year to give to my FH as out 1st anniversary gift!
The key to this plan is to trust the person you're working with and be clear on what style photos you want to do and how far you're willing to go.
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[QUOTE]I don't think it's fair to judge someone's boudoir photos as classy or trashy. Because, personally, I wouldn't consider my own "classy", but then again, classy is something I want to be when I'm at a fundraiser or a guest at a wedding. In the privacy of my own bedroom, I prefer other adjectives to describe me. And that's the point. These aren't MEANT for random people on the interwebz. They are meant for the lover of the person who took them.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
<div>Well said! Whatever you and your FI are comfortable with is what you go with. </div>
[QUOTE]I'm not a fan. When I think boudoir photos, I think "klassy". I always wonder how I would feel if my kids found them. EWWW. Every person to his/her own though. If it makes you feel, well, beautiful, then go for it. Having said that, I've not seen alot of boudoir photography.
Posted by deepcovejackie[/QUOTE]
EXACTLY. I think if my mom had done it and I had found the pics, I would have been traumatized, lol. I would be very embarassed at the least if my future children found pictures of me wearing nothing but a sheet.
I personally think that if you stick to the, as you said, cutesy end of things it could probably be a really great idea.
In any event, I just always think "what would I do if one day I have children and they see this". If the answer is "freak out and sign them up for therapy" then you probably shouldn't do it...
1) photographers shouldnt be displaying boudoir photos on their websites...PERIOD.
2) If these are supposed to be special intimate pictures for your MAN, why do some women feel the need to show it to EVERYONE?????
**disclaimer, I am not conservative by ANY means, but I think with such a sensitive thing (your body) you need to have class and tact.
I am thinking (since my FI loves taking pictures and has a really great eye for the camera) that once we get our super duper cool expensive professional camera in a year or two, I will let him take some sexy photos of me! I think that will be a fun, intimate experience for the both of us!
Personally, I feel it's a bit frivolous- in my case, anyway. There isn't much money to be had for our wedding as it is and I certainly don't need the extra expense. Not to be crass, but if my husband-to-be wanted to see me in my underwear, he could just ask and have it IRL.
That's the only hang up I really have with boudoir photos- cute, but what's the purpose here really?
I think it really is just for your fiance, because he really should be the only one looking at you like that anyway. Having your "stuff" showing to everyone on line is bad regardless of who you are, you kids, future employers, parents can see that. I agree with most of the post that say its the situation, not the pictures themselves that make them trashy.
We have a company who does 40's/50's pinup style or burlesque style pictures but they would never do something like just a tie, its always done in costume.
[QUOTE]I'm with Sadie. It totally depends on the photographer and the model. I've seen really classy ones and really trashy ones. I like the pinup type, too. A good example is this place: <a href="http://www.hollywoodcalling.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hollywoodcalling.com/</a> I would do some if I wasn't such a fatass.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]
I'm not sure who told you that big girls can't do beautiful pinup pics, but they lied. Some of the most beautiful ones I've seen came from a friend of mine who is about 5'9" and about 300 lbs. They were done very tastefully and were drop-dead gorgeous.
I say go fo it to anyone, as long as you sign an agreement with the photographer first to have them release all copyrights and slides of negatives to you, and as long as your significant other is the only one seeing them. I plan on doing a spread for my husband, and at 5'4" tall and 200 lbs, I am not one bit ashamed of my body or doing the spread. Obviously my husband is attracted to me, otherwise we wouldn't be entering a lifetime partnership....
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[QUOTE]I'm not a fan. When I think boudoir photos, I think "klassy". I always wonder how I would feel if my kids found them. EWWW. Every person to his/her own though. If it makes you feel, well, beautiful, then go for it. Having said that, I've not seen alot of boudoir photography.
Posted by deepcovejackie[/QUOTE]
I think if your kids find them, it's okay. Nudity is not "dirty". Would it be ideal for your kids to find them, no. Would it be terrible, no. I just don't get the whole American way of looking at nudity.
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I did them for myself. They made me feel beautiful and sexy. A woman's body is truly a beautiful thing no matter your size or shape. That's one of the reasons that men love us. My man would love something like that. I may do it for a 1 year gift.
On the other hand, my MOH, who is my FI's sister has had some done recently.
She had them done for her husband of almost 20 years which I think is great but...
she has them displayed in their bedroom. No problem yet but... she has an 19 year old son and an 8 year old son who have of course seen them.
She is also the type of person who will say "can you grab ----? its just in my room." She will do this to my FI, who is her brother.
To me that is kind of creepy. I would NOT want my brother seeing me like that, no matter how pretty they are.
I figure that if that is what you both think you can enjoy, then do it. Whatever style you want to do. Just if you have kids, family, or friends coming by, put them in an album. I love my MOH and would not change a thing about her. Just not my style.
Yep. The episode came on recently and I still cracked up. I would love to do some photos, but it's not in the budget.
And to the girl who said she would if she wasnt a fatass... You are beautiful too!!!
The key to this plan is to trust the person you're working with and be clear on what style photos you want to do and how far you're willing to go.