I have what seems, even to me, to be a silly question. Our wedding party consists only of my two MOHs. There is no Best Man. I had imagined (and asked) one MOH to hold my bouquet when it comes time to do the rings and the other to hold the rings. One of my MOHs (I'll call her Ann) e-mailed me today and said that if she has to carry her own bouquet and perhaps adjust my train, she really didn't see how she could hold the rings since her dress does not have a pocket.
She then asked whether her 14-year-old son could be an "adult" ring bearer/carrier. As much as I like her son, I do not want to add a person to the WP three weeks before the wedding. I especially don't want to add someone who is the son of one of my friends when my fiance has none of his friends/family standing beside him (the person who would have been his Best Man is actually now our officiant!).
I don't see what the big deal is for Ann to hold her bouquet and rings. Any adjusting of the train will be momentary. I think she could just lay her bouquet on the floor for a moment if need be. But maybe I'm not seeing this clearly. I suppose we could always ask the officiant to hold the rings: would that be acceptable? I think Ann is just creating drama and trying to get her son into the WP. My other MOH said, "Tell her to put the ring on her thumb," but Ann will actually have two rings, mine and the groom's, as there is no Best Man.
Ann is a smart, capable, professional woman. I find it hard to believe that she can't cope with holding two things at once, but maybe I'm wrong. Yes, she may not have a pocket in her dress, but, if I were her, I would hold the small ring box in my hand right along with my bouquet. I'm trying not to sweat the small stuff, but she needs a reply. Your thoughts?