Therapy Thursday

midgetthemighty · March 2012

Vents, gripes, WTFs - Get them out here!

midgetthemighty · March 2012

So you remember the bride who wrote "Jess and brother can bring guests if they want" on the invitation to her at home reception? Well her brother is getting married in May and the invitations are already out (B-list anyone? ARGH).

Anyway, the invitation that came to our house was only addressed to my parents with no inner envelope indicating the specific people invited. The RSVP card has "___ out of 3 will be attending". Problem is that there are four of us in that household and Matt didn't get one at the apartment.

Aren't I surrounded by classy people?

So in my mind, one of these things happened:

1) They're sending them out as they address them and they don't have Matt's address.
2) They have a B-list and somehow the rest of my family is on the A-list and we're on the B-list...
3) They had the wrong address/it got lost in the mail

I'm upset about it but at the same time, I'm just done dealing with people being rude. I hope that it clears itself up before the RSVP date, but if it doesn't, I don't know what we're going to do. I'm tempted to write "5" on the RSVP card. As I said, I'm just DONE.

Zimsgirl · March 2012

Wow classy Midge. I couldn't imagine doing a B list. I either want these people there or not My vent is I hate cold sores. I get them when I'm stressed or from heat. Well I've been super stressed and got a huge one on the middle of my bottom lip. It's not noticeable but I can feel it and it hurts. It's day 3 of it and I've been keeping abreva on it Oh and it's March not June :P

Megbo2012 · March 2012

Midge, that sucks. In my opinion this is one of the worst things (B list). I would seriously be considering cutting this family out of my life...they seem pretty shitty.

My vent is I feel sick and crappy and my massage went well but now I'm super sore. Anyways I'm staying home and I hate doing it but it felt necessary. Blah.

sleblanc72 · March 2012

That's really sucky, I'm sorry Jess. I'd be pretty done with all of that as well.

I seriously need a swift kick in the butt for motivation. I have zero drive to do anything and it's causing me to be so anxious about everything from the wedding to our tiny place being so cluttered. I honestly cannot wait to get back from the honeymoon because then we can dig in to start looking for a house and once we get said house I'll be able to look for a new job. I haven't been keeping any kind of schedule with anything and I think it's really starting to have a negative effect; I'm hoping this weekend to really sit myself down to plan things out and then find some motivation to really get myself organized and going again.

HarperBargo · March 2012

I just got in from being OOT for work. Always hectic and stressful to play catch up. Well FI was OOT for work last week and just got notified yesterday that he has to go back out to California next week for a full week. This is really frustrating because we have plans for next week and a lot of wedding stuff that needs to be getting done which all has to change and be rescheduled. Super annoying!!!

chelseakopperud · March 2012

Tomorrow is a big day for our family. I am stressed to the max and just want mediation to go smoothly and be done and over with so we can move forward. *sigh*

midgetthemighty · March 2012

Shan, I totally understand the lack of motivation. I started going through all the stuff in my room months ago but my mom, I realized recently, killed the motivation I had for that when she got upset that I was moving some of my stuff to the apartment already. I need to get it back.

Oh, and I can't, and don't really want to cut them out of my life. They're part of "the group". My parents have been hanging out with this same group of people forEVER. They go on a trip together every year, in the summer we have cornhole parties with the same group of people every other week, the couples shower I'm having is specifically for this group of people, etc. Essentially they're like another family.

Zimsgirl · March 2012

Hugs Chelsea!

chelseamb11 · March 2012

If I have to hear the word "abandon" one more time, I might punch someone in the face. Just sayin'.

G2SoccerTaz · March 2012

Midge - I woul definately put 5 on the RSVP card even though we would hate receiving an RSVP like that, but what they did is wrong.

Meg - I hope you feel better soon.

I so want a new job. Those out of the office for a conference today are supposed to be taking phone calls and making phone calls refuse to do anything related to work, but would rather take private phone calls on their cells. I feel like I do all their work while they do nothing. It gets annoying. At least it is Thursday.

G2SoccerTaz · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Tomorrow is a big day for our family. I am stressed to the max and just want mediation to go smoothly and be done and over with so we can move forward. *sigh*
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

T&P's coming your way!!!!

Kfudge0714 · March 2012

I am sick of bailing my brother out of his money problems!! He is two years older than me and keeps having to come to his little sister for money. This time he needed $350 or his car insurance would be cancelled. Its always something. He works 6 days a week and lives with his GF's mother. He is making sh*t pay and could EASILY go somewhere and make AT LEAST $10 more an hour and yet he refuses to do it because he is comfortable where he is. My Dad has used his resources and found my brother other jobs where all he had to do was show up and he didn't! I just don't get it. Its getting really old.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Tomorrow is a big day for our family. I am stressed to the max and just want mediation to go smoothly and be done and over with so we can move forward. *sigh*
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

I've been thinking and praying for you guys a lot this week.

chelseakopperud · March 2012

Jess- I am so sorry that they are being like that. It is totally ridiculous.

Megbo2012 · March 2012

Midge, I get that. Is it the parents that you are close with? If these were my friends and they kept doing this to me though I'd be super pissed, so maybe that's the difference, if that makes sense.

Megbo2012 · March 2012

Chels, good luck!

midgetthemighty · March 2012

Chels, why the hate for the word "abandon"? *please don't hit me*

Kfudge, that's frustrating. My brother is the same way about his job but thankfully is really tight with his money. For some reason, we can't convince him that being a custodian for the rest of his life isn't going to pay the bills. He gets upset when anyone suggests going back to school or trying to get another PT job since he works whatever hours he wants at the church.

chelseakopperud · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Chels, good luck!
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Thank you!

sleblanc72 · March 2012

Oh Chels, I've been thinking about you; you and Carter will definitely be in my thoughts tomorrow. *hugs*

midgetthemighty · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Midge, I get that. Is it the parents that you are close with? If these were my friends and they kept doing this to me though I'd be super pissed, so maybe that's the difference, if that makes sense.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

All of them are equally close. All of the kids have always hung out together since the parents always do and the oldest 5 of us are all the same age, graduated the same year and everything. I actually expected way better out of the brother than the rest of them and I'm kinda holding my breath for it to work itself out because of that. Trust me, I'm pretty mad about it still.

chelseakopperud · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh Chels, I've been thinking about you; you and Carter will definitely be in my thoughts tomorrow. *hugs*
Posted by sleblanc72[/QUOTE]

Thanks dear. I will make sure to post an update in the FB group tomorrow.

KrisKenny · March 2012

Aughghhhg!!!!

1) FI's son (who is only 9) got sent home from school yesterday because of his behavior. Instead of a punishment that fits the "crime," FI picked the kids up yesterday and he had a scratch on his face. When asked about it, he said his mom tried to slap him but missed and scratched him instead. Now, instead of him missing the rest of the basketball season (which in my mind is a fair punishment - only 2 weeks left anyway), FI had him miss yesterday's game and that's it. FI & my parenting skills are very different. He feels that he son is dealing with enough with his mom that punishing him any more would be detremental to him. NOT!!! Anyway, I know I'm not going to win on this one, but I had to vent about it.

2) Work sucks!!! I'm still getting jobs that are due Monday & Tuesday handed to me today. WTF. I also almost flipped out on our sales rep yesterday. I can't stand him and if he would of kept pestering me about crap, I seriously think I would of punched him in the face. Luckily I walked away from him and the situation.

I usually really like my job but lately it's really been sucking! I've been here for almost 14 years & wouldn't be able to go to another place making the same money that I do here.

chelseamb11 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Chels, why the hate for the word "abandon"? *please don't hit me* ;) Kfudge, that's frustrating. My brother is the same way about his job but thankfully is really tight with his money. For some reason, we can't convince him that being a custodian for the rest of his life isn't going to pay the bills. He gets upset when anyone suggests going back to school or trying to get another PT job since he works whatever hours he wants at the church.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

Because all I hear from J and her assistant to anyone who will listen (parents, students, the news) is how these teachers abandoned these kids and don't care about the kids.
EHGEWHOGEHOGEHOGEHOI <----- that's how I feel about it.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : Because all I hear from J and her assistant to anyone who will listen (parents, students, the news) is how these teachers abandoned these kids and don't care about the kids. EHGEWHOGEHOGEHOGEHOI <----- that's how I feel about it.
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

Gotcha, I'd be sick of it too. I'm sure it was not an easy decision for those teachers to make, but sometimes you just can't afford not to have money coming in. People have to understand that.

Megbo2012 · March 2012

Chels, I'm behind. If it's not too annoying, can you clue me in? Or post a link to the thread where you talked about this?

chelseamb11 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : Gotcha, I'd be sick of it too. I'm sure it was not an easy decision for those teachers to make, but sometimes you just can't afford not to have money coming in. People have to understand that.
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]

Oh and they do. The teachers that left have spoken out (J did some news interviews Tues so they gave one big one yesterday) and most of the community backs up their side. It's so hard still being in this school. It's driving me insane.

chelseamb11 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]Chels, I'm behind. If it's not too annoying, can you clue me in? Or post a link to the thread where you talked about this?
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

This is C&P'd from Tuesday's morning thread:
I'm giong to give cliff notes of the story.

Thurs/Fri: Most teachers were talked to and advised that the school couldn't make payroll. According to 14 teachers, J (head of school and owner) said they wouldn't get paid till May <u>if</u> they got paid. According to J, she said worst case scenario they would have to wait until May but would be fully compensated.

Fri: Teachers contacted lawyer. Lawyer says when J said they couldn't pay the teachers, by WI law, she was terminating their employment. They were advised to seek unemployment.

Sat: All un-contracted teachers (so not myself) cleaned out their classrooms of their belongings and let J know what they were legally advised and that they wouldn't be in school on Monday.

Sun: J emails all parents to let them know that due to a minor payroll glitch the 14 teachers resigned in haste despite her promises that they would be paid as soon as possible.

Mon: School is in session. J has a meeting with parents and paints all the teachers to be liars and abandoners. Teachers hold meeting with parents in the evening to tell their side of the story. All parents want teachres back, J refuses to pay for it and says they can come back if the parents pay for it (aka more money). J denies ever telling the staff that they might be paid in May if they got paid. She's going to fight their unemployment claim (which means this could all go to court)

Basically it's a huge mess. I still have a job here (I'm one of the like 4 teachrs who stayed because our contracts protect us) but these poor kids are so upset and feel so abandoned. I am in such a horrible position right now.

Since then, both sides have spoken to the media.. more than one news station has picked it up the past two nights. J is lying through her teeth to make the school look good and the other woman who helped start the school had her daughter give two on-camera interviews about how "abandoned" she and the other students feel. She's 14. Who the eff does that to their kid?

Rejufsovelem · March 2012

I offered to take care of getting my girls shoes. I found the perfect pair for only $25 (yellow peep toe pumps) but now they wont work because I can only have like a 1 inch heel. I don't want them towering over me. I don't know where to find shorter yellow shoes for around the same price. GAH!

Oh and my FI great aunt is on her death bed, dr.s only gave her 2 weeks. Hes going out to see her this weekend, I will probably just go out for the funeral as we don't have the money for us both to go both times.

chelseakopperud · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Therapy Thursday : This is C&P'd from Tuesday's morning thread: I'm giong to give cliff notes of the story. Thurs/Fri: Most teachers were talked to and advised that the school couldn't make payroll. According to 14 teachers, J (head of school and owner) said they wouldn't get paid till May if they got paid. According to J, she said worst case scenario they would have to wait until May but would be fully compensated. Fri: Teachers contacted lawyer. Lawyer says when J said they couldn't pay the teachers, by WI law, she was terminating their employment. They were advised to seek unemployment. Sat: All un-contracted teachers (so not myself) cleaned out their classrooms of their belongings and let J know what they were legally advised and that they wouldn't be in school on Monday. Sun: J emails all parents to let them know that due to a minor payroll glitch the 14 teachers resigned in haste despite her promises that they would be paid as soon as possible. Mon: School is in session. J has a meeting with parents and paints all the teachers to be liars and abandoners. Teachers hold meeting with parents in the evening to tell their side of the story. All parents want teachres back, J refuses to pay for it and says they can come back if the parents pay for it (aka more money). J denies ever telling the staff that they might be paid in May if they got paid. She's going to fight their unemployment claim (which means this could all go to court) Basically it's a huge mess. I still have a job here (I'm one of the like 4 teachrs who stayed because our contracts protect us) but these poor kids are so upset and feel so abandoned. I am in such a horrible position right now. Since then, both sides have spoken to the media.. more than one news station has picked it up the past two nights. J is lying through her teeth to make the school look good and the other woman who helped start the school had her daughter give two on-camera interviews about how "abandoned" she and the other students feel. She's 14. Who the eff does that to their kid?
Posted by chelseamb11[/QUOTE]

WOW!!! I missed this too... that is insane!!

Ash61612 · March 2012

My BC was one of the brands that was recalled a couple months ago. My lot # was not one that was affected with the mis-disage. The company is not filling generic prescriptions, only the brand name. This is my first month on the brand name and my TOM is all wacking. Reallly hoping I get back on schedule next month. My OB thinks everything will calm down and doesn't want to get me on a new one because the time frame is so close to the HM.

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