3 weeks ago my FI called it all off. I'm heartbroken. We had some bumps in the road we are working on. But basically my family and there demands were to much for him. I wanted to call it off because it was to much for me and they're my family. So finally he said enough it was done, were not getting married. He wants to marry me because he loves me, not because of this or that just simply because he loves me and it felt like my family was turing thing into something else.
I think the last straw was we really wanted a small ice cream cake then under that all the cupcakes. And my family said no. We offered to pay but were told to get it on our own time. Plus he already didn't want him family driving 8+ hours or more in some cases 12+ hours to our wedding but gave in.
I think the wedding box set him off too. We made it ourselves something we finally did together for the wedding and we loved it. (We made it a tack trunk with a race horse on it) and my family just put us down. Said it wasn't good enough.
He really now wants to just go to the justice of the peace. Like we WANTED to orginally do. Just a small simple thing. I really want to. But I know my family would hate me. Now they tell me because we called it off we had better not get married. And even after we called it off my aunts were still asking me are we getting together 11.11? Basically it seemed they just want a family gathering. They all live 10mins maybe apart I live 3 hours away.
But now I don't know what to do. Get married how we wanted with our money do it our way and have my family hate me and pretend i'm not married, or just deal with it and never get married?