Not engaged, already freaking out about venue

paintgirl · October 2011

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[QUOTE]Now, pre-planning of cake I could get behind. Anyone? I call dibs on the top pumpkin.
Posted by noelle24[/QUOTE]

I'm totally in it for the cake.

lunarsongbird · October 2011

AudgiePodge · October 2011

Oh, I have missed Paint.

Yes I have.

paintgirl · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:aeda7e79-16a5-4aba-9081-ac3cb3f9a3d0">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh, I have missed Paint. Yes I have.
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

What? I love me some cake <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Missed you too Audgie! You funny girl.

AudgiePodge · October 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue : What? I love me some cake Missed you too Audgie! You funny girl.
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]
CAEK!<div>
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lunarsongbird · October 2011

zipis1 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:cbcf58ce-1563-4491-9785-495834561b29">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]If any one of you girls can say you did not give serious thought to major details before you got a ring on your finger, then I will stand corrected.
Posted by swigdor[/QUOTE]

I didn't. The most thought I put into it was, "I hope we can have a short engagement" and, "I sure do like the idea of a winter wedding."

[QUOTE]Fine. All of you engaged/married women can have your NYE board back. I think something had to be said about jumping down the poor posters throat. I'm it made me fully aware of what the tone of this community is. I came here because I was hoping to find people like me. What I've found is a judgmental clique. I, plain and simple, do not have the patience for this. Thanks for turning me off from forum boards for good.
Posted by swigdor[/QUOTE]

If THIS turned you off forum posts, you'd better stay off the internet then. The internet is full of people who will make this look like a puppy snuggle party.

leia1979 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:cbcf58ce-1563-4491-9785-495834561b29">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE] If any one of you girls can say you did not give serious thought to major details before you got a ring on your finger, then I will stand corrected.
Posted by swigdor[/QUOTE]

I can easily say that before I was engaged, I had no idea where our wedding would be or what it would be like. Yes, we took a whole year to plan, but there was a four month stretch in the middle where we did absolutely nothing related to the wedding. It's really not that hard to plan one.

Jeana! Noelle! Paint! All in one thread...my head is about to asplode.

leia1979 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:143e7183-a3db-43b3-92c8-5030a3307418">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue : If THIS turned you off forum posts, you'd better stay off the internet then. The internet is full of people who will make this look like a puppy snuggle party.
Posted by zipis1[/QUOTE]

Your response. It is full of WIN.

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csousa1 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:f32c1332-3cd5-4fb3-81ad-b7fca5d49478">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue : Get ready to stand then. I didn't think about the wedding at all before I got engaged. I cared more about figuring big relationship/life things. <strong>Let me explain... no, there is too much... let me sum up:</strong> If these things are starting to stress you out before you're engaged, then you've got problems. PLENTY of women have planned weddings in under six months. Yes, even in June. Plus, there are plenty of people's opinons that you need to take into account when considering location (like your FI's, your family's, etc.). Even if you're the only one paying, I can guarantee your family will still have an opinion that you need to consider.
Posted by noelle24[/QUOTE]

YES. Princess Bride FTW.

oceana919 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:a1e8982a-df6e-4195-9ae2-926e5231b44f">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]Fine. All of you engaged/married women can have your NYE board back. I think something had to be said about jumping down the poor posters throat. I'm it made me fully aware of what the tone of this community is. I came here because I was hoping to find people like me. What I've found is a judgmental clique. I, plain and simple, do not have the patience for this. Thanks for turning me off from forum boards for good.
Posted by swigdor[/QUOTE]

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Peace out, homey.

csousa1 · October 2011

Ladies, LADIES!

She could have really been the one to get through to our level-headed, non pre-planning icy hearts.

No really. I've seen a unicorn fart rainbows, so it could happen.

kellyt89 · October 2011

I literally LOLed at whoever said, "guess what? there's a June EVERY YEAR!"

OP, if you're still here and haven't GBCKed, I think you're stressing about this thing that you feel you can control (venue) because you don't feel in control of when your engagement will be. I get it, but I think you need to take a deep breath and concentrate on the positive stuff in your life - you have someone in your life who you love and who loves you. You seem like you're headed in the direction of marriage. Just do your best to be patient, count your blessings and not go a mile when your BF is giving you an inch.

The girls on here really are nice if you stick around and prove you're not a wedding-crazed cyborg.

becunning2 · October 2011

I have finite resources of niceness and none of which is allotted to BSC--but a whole grip of it is for the gals on this forum. And Latin.

peekaboo2011 · October 2011

My abs. They ache. Omg I just died.

Also:

oceana919 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:2d0f7a6f-1b24-4651-8748-c072a965bfa8">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]Ladies, LADIES! She could have really been the one to get through to our level-headed, non pre-planning icy hearts. <strong>No really. I've seen a unicorn fart rainbows, so it could happen.</strong>
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

I.
Just.
Died.

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zipis1 · October 2011

Good job breaking the page, Oceana. Gawd.

miamary · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:cbcf58ce-1563-4491-9785-495834561b29">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]You know I was reading on another board where someone was complaining about how mean the NYE board is. I hate to say it ladies but you guys are living up to your reputations. I'm not yet engaged, hence why I am on this board. Have I been bookmarking places and ideas? Absolutely. Have I thrown money down on anything yet? No. When I get my ring, which will be soon based on my insider knowledge, I want to be able to hit the ground running and have a short engagement. With that knowledge, I am already stressing and overthinking how things are going to work.
Posted by swigdor[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I'm so with you on this one. I've read on another thread "I wouldn't do what to do without my lovely NYE ladies sometimes" and I couldn't help but wondering who the poster might have been referring to. </div><div>It seems it is super acceptable to be proud that you're part of the engaged/ married group, but it's not ok to wish to become part of that group. </div><div>
</div><div>I was wondering if all knot boards are like this. Honestly, posting on here does not make me want to come back when it happens and to post "I'm engaaaaged! Yay!" just to hear another mean comment. </div><div>
</div><div>Correct me if I'm wrong, but I get the feeling that's just what everyone is going for, not to have new posters come into their group.</div><div>
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miamary · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:a1e8982a-df6e-4195-9ae2-926e5231b44f">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]Fine. All of you engaged/married women can have your NYE board back. I think something had to be said about jumping down the poor posters throat. I'm it made me fully aware of what the tone of this community is. I came here because I was hoping to find people like me. What I've found is a judgmental clique. I, plain and simple, do not have the patience for this. Thanks for turning me off from forum boards for good.
Posted by swigdor[/QUOTE]

<div>This. </div><div>
</div><div>I was wondering too what all those judgemental married /engaged ladies are actually looking for on the NYE board. Yes, judgemental. And rude. </div><div>I thought an NYE board would be for people who are Not Engaged Yet. Also, I thought it would be natural to dream about weddings in advance and to feel the slightest jealousy, especially when all the ladies that made it to the circle shamelessly show off their pride to be part of it. </div><div>
</div><div>Was wondering if other wedding boards are like this? I kinda feel like the whole wedding board experience that I hoped to have one day is already ruined. </div><div>
</div><div>I'm active on a couple of other boards, some are snarky and very honest and straightforward. But NONE has a tone like this. </div>

Swazzle · October 2011

GO AWAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

alyaki · October 2011

Haven't read through all of the posts yet, but I have managed to skim through some.

Like many others have said, don't try to start planning before you're engaged. Prices are depressing at times (I admit to being BSC every once in a while, looking at prices on venues - it gets rid of BSC fast since I hate the idea of eventually spending money a lot of money on one event) and there's really no reason to try and figure out all of the details before - you'll have plenty of time for that when you actually are engaged. Also, like at least one other has said, you're SO gets a say in this as well and once you are engaged, you need to discuss the issue and decide together what you would like to do.

swigdor (I think that was who it was), in that post that mutley quoted.... well, you come off sounding a little insane and overbearing. Stop pressuring and relax and enjoy your relationship as is - it'll happen when you're both ready. Also, this started out as a fairly tame thread with people just saying to not plan before you're engaged and enjoy the relationship as it is - there really isn't anything harsh about that in my books, just honest.

Edit: Fixed second paragraph

paintgirl · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:c80bf563-cfaf-4cca-b8fb-3daeafd63c80">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue : I thought an NYE board would be for people who are Not Engaged Yet. Posted by miamary[/QUOTE]

HOLY CRAP!! At least half of NEY is NEY. I'm not engaged yet. Lots of other girls aren't. And ALL of the engaged or married girls on the board started here when they were NOT ENGAGED!! They stay on here because they like the other ladies and have good advice to offer since they've been in our shoes.

I've told you this in at least two other posts. Do you not understand that half of us are NEY, do you not believe me, or do you just want it your way so badly that you can't accept the truth?

insert movie wave file here: YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!

miamary · October 2011

Well to me it seems some ladies are NEY here but of course do NOT do any pre-planning or hope to get engaged soon. Nope. Funny coincidence this is a wedding board. WHY the heck would you post on here if you do not hope to get engaged soon???

The other ladies seem to consist of already married ladies who want to save that privilege for themselves. And their only joy in life seems to be to tell others they're not able to join their group. What about enjoying life with your new husband, ladies? No? Too busy telling others you have it all and they won't?

Why in the world is the NEY board for you?

Good job ruining the experience for some.

I'm done dealing with you guys. My boyfriend comes back from training today and he's the one whose opinions should be important to me, not the ones of a board full of bitchy ladies.

Btw paintgirl- I do count you as one of the few nice ones.

Swazzle · October 2011

WAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

oceana919 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:18e56e2f-64e1-4093-ab79-6340492b74af">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]Well to me it seems some ladies are NEY here but of course do NOT do any pre-planning or hope to get engaged soon. Nope. Funny coincidence this is a wedding board. WHY the heck would you post on here if you do not hope to get engaged soon??? The other ladies seem to consist of already married ladies who want to save that privilege for themselves. And their only joy in life seems to be to tell others they're not able to join their group. What about enjoying life with your new husband, ladies? No? Too busy telling others you have it all and they won't? Why in the world is the NEY board for you? Good job ruining the experience for some. I'm done dealing with you guys. My boyfriend comes back from training today and he's the one whose opinions should be important to me, not the ones of a board full of bitchy ladies. Btw paintgirl- I do count you as one of the few nice ones.
Posted by miamary[/QUOTE]

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Seriously, go away. If we are that horrible and that big of meanyheads, then <em>go away</em>. You're taking up our board space.

No one around here said that happiness is only reserved for those that are engaged or married. Quite the contrary. There are plenty of non-engaged ladies on this board who recognize that they are, in fact, not engaged yet, and have chosen to consciously appreciate and enjoy the <em>current</em> stage of their relationship, but are still looking forward to being engaged someday. That would be the mature, healthy outlook when it comes to relationships. I would personally hand out rainbows and margaritas to these ladies if I could.

There is a vast difference between looking forward to being engaged (while still appreciating the current stage in your life and your relationship), and pre-planning a wedding. We are going to try and talk people down that are doing the latter, because the latter is a one way street to unhappiness and unnecessary stress and strain on your relationship. It also encourages more suseptible girls to follow in your BSC footsteps.

Seriously, read the friggin stickie at the top of the board - we flat out WARN you that that is going to be the case. If you actually read that <em>before</em> posting here (rather than rush in with the ZOMG I'M PRE-ENGAGED AND SOOOOOOOOOOO HAPPIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ!!!!!! RAINBOWS AND PUPPIES AND UNICORNS!!!!!", you would see that.

If we're so damn exclusive, then that must mean that we've all been around here for the same amount of time. Because <em>god knows</em> we're not letting <em>anyone</em> new in around here. Because we're a friggin clique. ::eyeroll::

The married ladies are on here because most of them started out on here <em>before</em> they were married. I was unaware there was a bouncer at the door and I wasn't permitted in once my ID got stamped "old married hag".

And, just so you are aware, I enjoy my life with my husband. Same as I enjoyed my life with my boyfriend, and enjoyed life with my fiance. And I'm not hearing any complaints from him, either.

Go, please, by all means, get off the friggin internet, write your friggin thesis paper, and enjoy your relationship for all it is and all it isn't. You're wasting our time and board space.

paintgirl · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:18e56e2f-64e1-4093-ab79-6340492b74af">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]Well to me it seems some ladies are NEY here but of course do NOT do any pre-planning or hope to get engaged soon. Nope. Funny coincidence this is a wedding board. WHY the heck would you post on here if you do not hope to get engaged soon???
Btw paintgirl- I do count you as one of the few nice ones.
Posted by miamary[/QUOTE]

I do look forward to getting engaged. In fact, in the old days, I used to freak every now and then about the wedding itself. My family is a little crazy and I would worry about how to pull a wedding off with them, so I've been on here asking about eloping, destination weddings, etc. The answer was always, "Enjoy where you are now. Don't worry about something that hasn't come up yet. You and your bf will come up with a reasonable solution when the time comes." And they're right. By not worryng about when he'll propose, I'm able to enjoy our relationship as it is. No wondering at every fancy restaurant or vacation if "this is it", then being disappointed when it isn't. Just enjoying the nice night out or trip.

Someone please remember to quote this one day. I was one of the "nice ones". Y'all must be major beotches.

oceana919 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:3570a204-1a3f-4f12-8863-e677576b193d">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue : I do look forward to getting engaged. In fact, in the old days, I used to freak every now and then about the wedding itself. My family is a little crazy and I would worry about how to pull a wedding off with them, so I've been on here asking about eloping, destination weddings, etc. The answer was always, "Enjoy where you are now. Don't worry about something that hasn't come up yet. You and your bf will come up with a reasonable solution when the time comes." And they're right. By not worryng about when he'll propose, I'm able to enjoy our relationship as it is. No wondering at every fancy restaurant or vacation if "this is it", then being disappointed when it isn't. Just enjoying the nice night out or trip. <strong>Someone please remember to quote this one day. I was one of the "nice ones". Y'all must be major beotches.</strong>
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

I know...I kinda giggled when I saw that. You're one of the nice ones...we must be demon b*tches from the seventh layer of hell :P

Ps. I still love ya...even if you are a softie. :P

lam2014 · October 2011

Wow...I feel like everyday that I come on here, there is someone new doing the whole pre-planning thing and NOT liking what they hear despite it being good freaking advice. People amuse me lol

dwest2201 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:2d0f7a6f-1b24-4651-8748-c072a965bfa8">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]Ladies, LADIES! She could have really been the one to get through to our level-headed, non pre-planning icy hearts. <strong>No really. I've seen a unicorn fart rainbows, so it could happen.
</strong>Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

LOVE. THIS.

Did you happen to get a picture of this phenomenon? I'd sure love to see it...haha.

oceana919 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_not-engaged-already-freaking-out-venue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:53da6af2-a8eb-4519-bc73-e495294ff898Post:c0c0a1fc-799b-4410-b306-bf8d4bea665b">Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not engaged, already freaking out about venue : LOVE. THIS. Did you happen to get a picture of this phenomenon? I'd sure love to see it...haha.
Posted by dwest2201[/QUOTE]

Every. friggin. time. I see that quote, I bust up into giggles.

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