First- It's 4:10 AM and I can't sleep. ::sigh:: Boo. Andrew came to bed at 2:30 AM- accidentally woke me up- and I've been wide awake ever since.
So a couple days ago, Andrew and I were discussing Colorado. It came to our attention, that our intentions for moving were completely different. Whoops. Kind of a big deal, right?
Andrew was thinking that as soon as either one of us got a decent job- we were going to be leaving his parents house. So in theory, his parents were doing us a favor for letting us stay under their roof.
I, on the other hand, was planning on staying at his parents' until his mother was done with radiation treatments and feeling better, regardless of job status. I want to be able to help her as much as possible with cooking, cleaning, and any other items that she needs assistance with. In my eyes- we were moving to do his parents a favor.
Initially, I was defensive- "Well, Andrew- if your parents think that in any way we are a burden- I would have preferred to have moved out later. I could have waited until we got jobs and wouldn't have had to move into their place at all." But that was a stupid thing to say- because I know full well that my heart was screaming for me to move to Colorado now.
I'm going to do everything I can to help Andrew's mom until she asks me not to. She has already said that she views me as a "daughter." And that's what daughters do, IMO.
Once we get settled, Andrew's mom wants to have a talk about expectations and "ground rules." I'll have to ask what their opinions are in regards to how long they see us living there. She also needs to know my reasoning for moving. I'll let you all know how it goes...
So- Have you ever had a pretty big communication fail like this one? What did you learn from it? And what is the most helpful advice that you have ever received about communication?