Is this Rude?

danieliza1127 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Is this Rude? : Can you even read? 90% of the posters in this thread are saying that nobody will notice.
Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

I think she was talking to Alexia.

sarabellam · April 2010

Yep, I sure would have.

mwhitson14 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]When my H and I got back to our hotel after the reception, at almost 1:00 in the morning, the LAST thing we wanted to do was crack open a bottle of champagne. We were freakin exhausted.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Ditto, all we cared about was sleep! I sure as heck wasn't going to deal with going to get some ice, icing the bottle, letting it chill, cracking it open, and drinking some.

I don't think this is a big deal. But then again, this is what we did. The toast was done with the drinks everyone had, and we had some sparking red wine.

kate51485 · April 2010

I'm just curious then...at what point in the thread is it unacceptable for someone to also express their opinion?

sophistryliz · April 2010

Thanks Kate.

sarabellam · April 2010

At no point is it unacceptable for someone else to express their opinion. Apparently I am the one with reading comprehension difficulties this morning. I misread what sophistry was saying. My mistake. Thanks for pointing it out, Dani.

kate51485 · April 2010

Ah ok. Disregard!

sophistryliz · April 2010

Ok

[Deleted User] · April 2010

I wouldn't care. Anyone who has a hissy fit over the bride and groom having champagne at their table and not their own is ridiculous and needs to get over themselves. You're having an open bar with champagne available there, so I think you're fine.

We're not even having champagne or alcohol because we can't afford it, but we did get some sparkling cider for FI and me (I don't drink and he has no interest in champagne, so it works for us). If people aren't happy with their own drinks, oh well.

SummerBoston10 · April 2010

Wow I didn't know this would cause so many responses! If we end up doing this, I think that I will make sure that it wouldn't even be noticed by our guests....i.e. the bottle would not be on display and would just be behind the bar where our attendant would know about it and could pour our glasses from there.

And to answer a few questions...yes, the bar will be open throughout dinner. It is a full bar with many wine choices, champagne and top shelf liquor like Grey Goose. We don't want to reserve the bottle of champagne for after the wedding when we are alone because we are hosting an afterparty that will likely go until the morning (we have a young partying type crowd) so "alone" time will likely not come until we are in Italy for our honeymoon the next day!

TheSaltyPeanut · April 2010

I agree with the majority - I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. OP your wedding sounds really nice from the little you said about it (full open bar, signature drink, etc.). If I saw or heard another guest get up in arms and/or snickering over champagne for the B&G regardless of where the bottle was on the table or what brand it was, I would judge said guest and snicker to MY friends about what a self entitled brat they were being.

... wow, nice run on sentence, huh?

BecW2be · April 2010

You have GG on your open bar? You can do whatever thefuck you want to do with your champagne, as far as I'm concerned. Anyone who judges you for your bottle at your table should have another GG rocks with a STFU chaser!

We had a champagne toast at the reception, then DH brought our bottle of champagne from our suite to the afterparty a few hours later, after he checked us in. I don't recall anyone handing me a glass to use at the afterparty, and the photos suggest I didn't need one. I'm klassy like that. The best part was we got back to our suite at 2am, and they'd replaced the bottle while we were out!

janedoe1113a · April 2010

I don't see a problem with it.

saxy414 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_this-rude-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:31fc463a-4934-4573-a939-26472d011d1bPost:d1bc5c73-bf7f-413f-9f39-07623508f6a8">Re: Is this Rude?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't recall anyone handing me a glass to use at the afterparty, and the photos suggest I didn't need one. I'm klassy like that. The best part was we got back to our suite at 2am, and they'd replaced the bottle while we were out!
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

I love it, Bec. :-)

And OP, I don't see anything wrong with it. You seem to be providing more than enough for your guests, and I think your solution of having someone pour the drinks for you from behind the bar sounds just fine, just in case there is someone who might fuss about it.

MeaghanandMichael · April 2010

As long as every one is getting champange I sincerely doubt any one will notice your bottle service. I also don't think people will care if the B&G spoil themselves a bit. It is one thing to pop champagne for your wedding party in a frenzy and watch the rest of your guests looking on longingly, but if you are providing all around why not spoil yourself a bit?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

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[QUOTE]I don't have a problem with the B&G having champagne at their table. I see the issue with them having BETTER champagne at their table. It's like having Kettle One for the B&G and then Stoli for everyone else. It's just tiered and seems really arrogant. Yeah, it's your wedding reception, but save it for later.
Posted by AlexiaANDRobert[/QUOTE]

I really wouldn't have a problem with that. I mean, it's their wedding. I wouldn't get pissy about them celebrating their marriage with something nice and I wouldn't think twice about them having an ice bucket with champagne at their table. I think it's kind of petty to complain that they aren't splurging on Dom Perignon for their guests. I mean, they have a premium bar. I assume I can have a Ketel One martini for the toast if I want, which is good enough for me.

MissMandey · April 2010

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[QUOTE]As long as everyone has some sort of champagne, I think it's okay. I went to a wedding over the summer where only the bridal party got champagne - not cool. But if everyone is getting champagne and you guys just have a nicer version, eh - I wouldn't care.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

I was totally in a WP where only we got champagne. I felt so rude.

liziebennet · April 2010

I don't think it rude, and would not care. You are the bride and groom, yours should be a extra special anyway! Anywho! people who care about that sort of stuff will not be happy with whatever you do.
Enjoy, Toast, and darnit! Be Merry! Congrats!

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