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Can't Not Knot

LadyFace1021LadyFace1021 member
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Hi Everyone,

I'm 24 years old and just about to be divorced from from the biggest mistake ever. I eloped in 2007 just to be "dumped" a few months later. It has taken this long (3 years) to finally get a divorce finalized. It will be done in a few weeks! Hurray!

I've been dating my best friend for a year and a half now. We live together and everything is fantastic :)

I re-instated my Knot recently after a slew of family weddings and engagements because its so much fun, and I love reading and replying to other girls' posts (as well as dress/ring/stuff "shopping")

Since I know I'm not getting engaged anytime soon.. do you think its silly or wrong to be searching for the perfect wedding I never got the first time??

Its so hard cause I Can't Not Knot!

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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:7a46d3f8-3f4c-43b5-af35-796849283d46">Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi Everyone, I'm 24 years old and just about to be divorced from from the biggest mistake ever. I eloped in 2007 just to be "dumped" a few months later. It has taken this long (3 years) to finally get a divorce finalized. It will be done in a few weeks! Hurray! I've been dating my best friend for a year and a half now. We live together and everything is fantastic :) I re-instated my Knot recently after a slew of family weddings and engagements because its so much fun, and I love reading and replying to other girls' posts (as well as dress/ring/stuff "shopping") Since I know I'm not getting engaged anytime soon.. do you think its silly or wrong to be searching for the perfect wedding I never got the first time?? Its so hard cause I Can't Not Knot!
    Posted by LadyFace1021[/QUOTE]

    I don't think it's crazy to come on here for the community.

    I do think it's crazy, silly AND wrong to be searching for the perfect wedding - at least NOW. You aren't getting engaged anytime soon, as you said.

    I would stick around and stay away from the wedding searching. And if you can't, I would stay away from TK all together.
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    edited December 2011
    It's a message board, not crack cocaine.
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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  • LadyFace1021LadyFace1021 member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe saying "searching for the perfect wedding" was too strong a phrase.. although Thats pretty much what this whole site is about: learning about what other people are going through looking at different styles to see what may or may not be your style. I've gotten plenty of ideas for our home (color schemes, DIY projects, etc) as well as general advice from this site.. so it not all necessarilly matrimonial but it does add value to my relationship.

    I understand its not crack - that'd be whack..
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  • sapphirebaby926sapphirebaby926
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:7a46d3f8-3f4c-43b5-af35-796849283d46">Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi Everyone, I'm 24 years old and just about to be divorced from from the biggest mistake ever. I eloped in 2007 just to be "dumped" a few months later. It has taken this long (3 years) to finally get a divorce finalized. It will be done in a few weeks! Hurray!

    I've been dating my best friend for a year and a half now. We live together and everything is fantastic :) I re-instated my Knot recently after a slew of family weddings and engagements because its so much fun, and I love reading and replying to other girls' posts (as well as dress/ring/stuff "shopping")

    Since I know I'm not getting engaged anytime soon.. do you think its silly or wrong to be searching for the perfect wedding I never got the first time?? Its so hard cause I Can't Not Knot!
    Posted by LadyFace1021[/QUOTE]

    Yes I do think it's silly to start looking for stuff for your 'perfect wedding' when you know you aren't going to be getting engaged for a long time. Just enjoy being in a relationship now without worrying about wedding things - you don't want to burn yourself out on it before you even get to that stage in your relationship.

    Besides when the time does come your BF may have ideas or want some input since it will be his wedding too so it's not fair to him to have it all planned in advance.
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  • LadyFace1021LadyFace1021 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:713a9e7d-c8ee-4835-ac45-c752f2443f14">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE] Besides when the time does come your BF may have ideas or want some input since it will be his wedding too so it's not fair to him to have it all planned in advance.
    Posted by sapphirebaby926[/QUOTE]

    No one is planning anything... I am enjoying this site... thats it...

    And BF and I talk about his wedding ideas all the time.. just because there is no ring doesnt mean we dont talk about being married and spending the rest of our lives together... which is more important than "wedding ideas"

    Maybe I should not have said anything......
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:fc92ca8b-792f-43f7-bcbe-0bdc80720914">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]Maybe saying "searching for the perfect wedding" was too strong a phrase.. although Thats pretty much what this whole site is about: learning about what other people are going through looking at different styles to see what may or may not be your style. I've gotten plenty of ideas for our home (color schemes, DIY projects, etc) as well as general advice from this site.. so it not all necessarilly matrimonial but it does add value to my relationship. I understand its not crack - that'd be whack..
    Posted by LadyFace1021[/QUOTE]


    <a href="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/9/12/99d92f69-f51b-4e6c-9cd7-1a4c891eece8.large.gif" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', '99d92f69-f51b-4e6c-9cd7-1a4c891eece8', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));" class="PhotoLink"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/9/12/99d92f69-f51b-4e6c-9cd7-1a4c891eece8.medium.gif" alt="" /></a> Seriously?

    YOU are the one who said you are not going to be engaged any time soon.  YOU are the one who said that you love the ring, dress, etc. shopping. 

    You do not need to be looking at different wedding styles.  It is that simple.  There is no point to start a look book for a wedding that is not on the horizon. 
    One would think that having to go through a divorce, you would understand that the wedding is not the most important part.

    Enjoy your current relationship.  Work on THAT, not some hypothetical wedding that is off in the distant future.  There are plenty of other message boards that focus on homes, DIY, etc.  You do not need to be on TK for that. 
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:017e4586-2f46-4815-b003-c5ef3d745d34">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can't Not Knot :

    No one is planning anything... I am enjoying this site... thats it...

    And BF and I talk about his wedding ideas all the time.. just because there is no ring doesnt mean we dont talk about being married and spending the rest of our lives together... which is more important than "wedding ideas"

    Maybe I should not have said anything......
    Posted by LadyFace1021[/QUOTE]

    When your entire first post is about finding ideas for your "perfect wedding" that you never got during round 1, I have no idea why people would get the wrong idea. 

    And sorry, maybe I am more of a traditionalist, but why the eff are talking marriage with someone else when you are technically still married? 

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  • LadyFace1021LadyFace1021 member
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    edited December 2011
    wow ...ok... done attacking me yet?

    one would think everyone would want everyone to love the knot... i know I do.

    I suppose some people just like drama.

    I'm just going to keep doing what I want to do.. because its a free world and I like looking at pretty things..

    my apologies if i offended you by posting on the NOT ENGAGED YET blog.. when I'm.... NOT ENGAGED YET!
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    "You're all uppity bitches" in 10, 9, 8...
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:6c516c8d-abdb-4ed1-9ddb-ac4890b41eea">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]wow ...ok... done attacking me yet?

    one would think everyone would want everyone to love the knot... i know I do.

    I suppose some people just like drama.

    I'm just going to keep doing what I want to do.. because its a free world and I like looking at pretty things..

    my apologies if i offended you by posting on the NOT ENGAGED YET blog.. when I'm.... NOT ENGAGED YET!
    Posted by LadyFace1021[/QUOTE]

    Why would one think that?

    Some people just don't like stupid.

    Yes, keep on keeping on.  I will continue to think that you are a bit <a href="#" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', '97d72fc7-ae0e-4425-b0cc-f2ebf9429c46', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));"> <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/7/0/97d72fc7-ae0e-4425-b0cc-f2ebf9429c46.medium.gif" alt="" /></a>, since it is a free world and all.


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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    LadyFace, you have 2 options:

    1. Get over it, Stay. Hang out. Chat. You are welcome. We talk about lots of NWR things.

    2. GBCK
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  • AnneAndJJAnneAndJJ
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Gosh girls (mostly Mutley...sheesh!)! Stop being such a crew of uppity, married old hags and be nice to the poor thing. She deserves the dream wedding she never got the first time, and obviously for that to happen, she needs to start planning years in advance - it would be irresponsible of her not to. 

    [/sarcasm]
    He pretty much had me at "hello".
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  • wpensinger00wpensinger00 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not engaged either but I'm still looking for good wedding ideas for the fun of it.  Besides, I bet that this ladyface1021 is a beautiful, smart, successful woman with a wonderful boyfriend who will at some point propose and look to her due to her flawless style sense for wedding ideas.  Just sayin...
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  • dwest2201dwest2201
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:bbc90cdd-af8f-4e4c-bb6e-5157026b48b9">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not engaged either but I'm still looking for good wedding ideas for the fun of it.  Besides, I bet that this ladyface1021 is a beautiful, smart, successful woman with a wonderful boyfriend who will at some point propose and look to her due to her flawless style sense for wedding ideas.  Just sayin...
    Posted by wpensinger00[/QUOTE]

    Ummm, wtf?!  Is this her other personality posting? 
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  • ekathleen684ekathleen684
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    edited December 2011



    I have a feeling this is the same person...
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  • LadyFace1021LadyFace1021 member
    Sixth Anniversary 10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Well... as a first time poster.. that went pretty poorly..

    I guess I was just looking for a "hey I know isnt this site fun!" seeing as how this is the board for people who are not engaged yet and they would be on the same page as me sharing my excitement about this site...

    I'm not sure what GBCK stands for but I also don't know what I need to get over to stay here. But I'm still going to chat and look at all the things I chatted and looked at prior to my posting disaster.

    I was merely trying to share my excitement - Thanks to those who share it with me!

    Thanks!!
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:bbc90cdd-af8f-4e4c-bb6e-5157026b48b9">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not engaged either but I'm still looking for good wedding ideas for the fun of it.  Besides, I bet that this ladyface1021 is a beautiful, smart, successful woman with a wonderful boyfriend who will at some point propose and look to her due to her flawless style sense for wedding ideas.  Just sayin...
    Posted by wpensinger00[/QUOTE]


    ROFL.
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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    *headdesk*

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  • LadyFace1021LadyFace1021 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:c61f5f8b-e906-456b-a1bd-02468d693d8b">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have a feeling this is the same person...
    Posted by ekathleen684[/QUOTE]

    wrong answer - thanks for playing though
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  • GreenPepperBurgerGreenPepperBurger
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    edited December 2011
    OP, by all means, continue to look at ideas for a wedding when you're not even thinking about getting engaged yet. It would be much more beneficial for you than say, focusing on your current relationship and getting your life back on track after a divorce.
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  • wpensinger00wpensinger00 member
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    edited December 2011
    Your right, we are the same person, because there's no possible way that two friends sat there and said "Hey this site looks fun" and joined on the same day so that they could pass ideas back and forth and ooh and aah at the pretty things.  No way...we MUST be the same person. 

    People are smart...
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  • wpensinger00wpensinger00 member
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    edited December 2011
    HAHAHA and who ever took the time to post our juxtaposed  "Date Joined" you must be some kind of detective, so if you could, kindly tell me where Carmen Sandiego is.
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  • dwest2201dwest2201
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    edited December 2011
    LadyFace:

    My Shortcuts:

    Massachusetts - Boston/Other, Ivory, Orange, Offbeat, Green, Vintage, Brown, Outdoor, Fall

    Wpinsinger:

    My Shortcuts:

    Vintage, Outdoor, Massachusetts - Boston/Other, DIY, Spring, Offbeat



    I still vote for multiple personalities of the OP... she did not deny that one! :)


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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:3171d34c-1765-48f6-b9a5-8c6aa7a77fb1">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well... as a first time poster.. that went pretty poorly..

    I guess I was just looking for a "hey I know isnt this site fun!" seeing as how this is the board for people who are not engaged yet and they would be on the same page as me sharing my excitement about this site...

    <strong>Thanks for playing but most of the posters here are actually engaged or married.  And your OP actually asked if what you are doing is silly or wrong.  </strong>

    I'm not sure what GBCK stands for but I also don't know what I need to get over to stay here. But I'm still going to chat and look at all the things I chatted and looked at prior to my posting disaster.

    <strong>Look at the things you chatted?  What does that even mean?  </strong>

    I was merely trying to share my excitement - Thanks to those who share it with me!

    <strong>What is this excitement that you keep talking about?  If you are loooking for puppies, rainbows, kittens and unicorns, you should check out weddingwire or brides.com.  </strong>

    Thanks!!
    Posted by LadyFace1021[/QUOTE]
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  • LadyFace1021LadyFace1021 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:1faa6e3c-f20c-4c7a-aa90-7ab385bfc927">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]OP, by all means, continue to look at ideas for a wedding when you're not even thinking about getting engaged yet. It would be much more beneficial for you than say, focusing on your current relationship and getting your life back on track after a divorce.
    Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]

    Current relationship = awesome, healthy, and focused on
    Life = on track

    I decided to pick myself up and pull myself together three years ago when this all went down.. so... the "divorce" is a paper signing
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  • ekathleen684ekathleen684
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:553688ed-cd9c-426f-8b2f-467ba545405c">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]HAHAHA and who ever took the time to post our juxtaposed  "Date Joined" you must be some kind of detective, so if you could, kindly tell me where Carmen Sandiego is.
    Posted by wpensinger00[/QUOTE]

    Sorry, I'm not that good. Ask Dective Mutley.
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:7f454023-e42a-4182-9e61-f04d6773864f">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]Your right, we are the same person, because there's no possible way that two friends sat there and said "Hey this site looks fun" and joined on the same day so that they could pass ideas back and forth and ooh and aah at the pretty things.  No way...we MUST be the same person.  People are smart...
    Posted by wpensinger00[/QUOTE]

    Well, I am glad they make your kind in pairs.
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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
    5000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_cant-not-knot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:18feb03b-7069-49d8-913e-85240f81c74fPost:574fa78e-2a48-4969-a8b3-516ce3bc3bf3">Re: Can't Not Knot</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can't Not Knot : Well, I am glad they make your kind in pairs.
    Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]

    <div>That makes one of us.</div>

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  • wpensinger00wpensinger00 member
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    edited December 2011
    Remind me to never post on here...you people are brutal and SOOOO not invited to my imaginary wedding.  Except Ladyface of course, being my alter ego and all, it would be weird if she wasn't there.
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