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May 2012 Weddings

NWR- Kids?

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Re: NWR- Kids?

  • I am 28 right now and he is 27 - we both want kids eventually but have no plans to start right away especially since his job is kind of unstable at the moment.  I want to enjoy our time being married before we have kids.
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  • I just turned 27 last month and FI is 29.

    I am so glad to see that we are the not the only ones on the fence about having kids!  Like I said, we're pretty undecided at this point.  We were both in school for 8 years, and had to make a lot of sacrifices during that time (while we watched all our friends move on & enjoy their "adult" lives!).  It's been almost 2 years now, we bought a house last year, and have steady dependable jobs.  I always said if we decided to have kids that we'd start by age 30 at the latest and be done by 35 - the risk for birth defects and other problems skyrockets exponentially after this age, so that's mostly the reason.  Plus, we wouldn't want to be really old parents.

    We are planning on attending a destination wedding in Hawaii in May 2013, so if we did decide to go for it it wouldn't be until after then!
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  • Haha, I'm not much help in this conversation because FI and I already have 2 kids... We like to be a little backwards, lol. We have a 10 year old son and a 3 year old daughter. I'm 30 and he's 33. Of course I wouldn't lie and say our son was planned, but I'm glad it happened. He made us who we are today and I don't know where things would have gone if he wasn't born... I guess my only advice would be, do what you feel is right, even if the "numbers" (age, money, etc) don't seem right. It always has a way of working out :) AND it's way easier to raise kids when you have all the energy of your youth! 
    Oh, and BTW we're not having anymore kids, got the boy and the girl and we're looking forward to our "empty nest" eventually! 
  • My college friends all have had their kids and are counting down the days to their 'empty nest.'  We joke that I had my youth now, and they will be able to enjoy their youth once the kids are out of the house. 

    The interesting thing is that out of my friends here (except for a couple of FIs friends) we'll be the first to get married, even, never mind the kids!

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  • so far the plan is wait a year and then go off BC. We want kids by the time I am 30 (I am 25.) but I do kind of want to finish my schooling (about 3 more years if I go full time). We also want to adopt, FI and I are both adopted and I desperately want to adopt children out of the foster care system and since the children who are available for adoption tend to be older, and we want to have at least 1 biological child, we do feel some pressure to get on it right away so that we can maintain birth order when we do apply to adopt. (which again, I would like to start the process in early 30's...I dont want to be a 'old mom; - no offense to anyone who is waiting!) Part of me would love to make a HM baby since a lot of my friends are having babies and my nephews are  1 year and the other is 3 weeks, it would be fun to have kids in the same agegroup. But realistically I think I want to live with FI for at least a year first (due to my parents religious convictions I am not living with FI until the wedding out of respect)

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  • Heck no!!!!  Not right away.  I want to enjoy some of married life before the little sweet timesuckers come along.  We do not live together and I could not imagine not having time to get to know him more intimately in that type of private setting before having kids. 
  • I am 31 and FI is 32.  We got pregnant back in October but misscarried.  We are going to start trying come wedding night lol.  We both want 4-5 kids and we aren't getting any younger so....

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  • I just turned 30 and FI is 32. We won't be trying right away. In my 20's I had baby fever, but the older I get the more I feel not ready and want to wait. It's kind of nuts to think that in just a few months we could try though.
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