What do you think of breaking this tradition?

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The Mel and Todd Show · December 2011

I can't figure this thread out. Freebread, I like your story. This statement should in no way be construed as racist. Jill. I MET you. Nice job keeping all of your cybery bits covered. I had NO IDEA. Eta - is that Shia Lebouf?

kimheartsscott · December 2011

Damn, daff. You sexy.

[Deleted User] · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_think-of-breaking-this-tradition?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec909c57-2359-4d2c-b805-70ada83da61cPost:4e85b6f0-857d-4f14-8741-4fcefac13826">Re: What do you think of breaking this tradition?</a>:
[QUOTE]I can't figure this thread out.
Posted by The Mel and Todd Show[/QUOTE]
i feel like we were about to have some fun razzing freebread, and then edie messed it up. Funblocker.

freebread03 · December 2011

It's ok, you can start again. I'm still here. And very bored as I try to finish up something for work

cebrady89 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_think-of-breaking-this-tradition?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec909c57-2359-4d2c-b805-70ada83da61cPost:ac4cbad1-be15-4db8-acce-d31efd20621f">Re: What do you think of breaking this tradition?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What do you think of breaking this tradition? : Parents didn't want to tell me when I was a kid--my mom was a teacher and hated it when she'd hear parents say "You know so and so was adopted?!" to explain behavioral problems. They didn't want to tell me when I was a teenager, since I was a PITA teenager as it already was. I moved across the country for college, so also not a good time to tell me. My mom read somewhere that the human brain is done developing at 27 and best able to cope with big news at that age...so she wanted to tell me at 27. (If you knew my mom, that explanation would totally make sense). I guess she was right, since it didn't seem like a big deal. <strong>I'm not at all uncomfortable talking about it--I think its a great story and I wish that more people would adopt. I'm a big believer in nurture over nature.</strong>
Posted by freebread03[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Totally agree! I'm adopted also (though I've known since I was about 4). I love when people ask me about it because it gives me a chance to talk up adoption. I get annoyed, too, when people will use "well, he's adopted" or whatever as a way to explain some problem or when I hear people say "I don't believe in adoption" - as if it doesn't exist, I guess. I never had a problem with being adopted, and I don't consider my parents to be anything but my parents. Nurture > nature is what I believe for the most part.

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chattychiqa · December 2011

Totally up to you. It's even better if you organize seating in a way that doesn't imply guests need to take sides.

rebarobert2012 · December 2011

You don't need to do sides. I'm sure that most people wouldn't even notice/care.

freebread03 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_think-of-breaking-this-tradition?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ec909c57-2359-4d2c-b805-70ada83da61cPost:f7d0f5d7-0b31-479c-a569-d4a5f6d1896d">Re: What do you think of breaking this tradition?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What do you think of breaking this tradition? : Totally agree! I'm adopted also (though I've known since I was about 4). I love when people ask me about it because it gives me a chance to talk up adoption. I get annoyed, too, when people will use "well, he's adopted" or whatever as a way to explain some problem or when I hear people say <strong><em>"I don't believe in adoption" </em></strong>- as if it doesn't exist, I guess. I never had a problem with being adopted, and I don't consider my parents to be anything but my parents. Nurture > nature is what I believe for the most part.
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]

<div>Not sure how I'd respond to this if someone said this to me...I'd probably side eye them and try to think of something witty to say and fail.</div>

daveANDkristen · December 2011

OP, you don't have to assign sides or put up signs, but your guests will probably sit by the people they know. Don't stress about it, it's really no big deal. Everyone will sit wherever they want - if that is with the rest of their family, so be it. But I don't think anyone is looking at it like a competition. There's nothing wrong with having a large family, and there's nothing wrong with having a small family.

StephBeanWed61502 · December 2011

At the last wedding I went to, the bride had a really large extended family, the groom had a very small family.... so we, as the bride's friends, let the families sit first and then filled in the empty chairs. We were totally sitting on the "groom's side." No one cared, least of all the bride and groom. I guarantee you my friend and her husband have no idea at all who sat where, because they were, you know, busy getting married and not really looking at us.

Your post makes it sound like there is a deeper issue going on here - you're obviously upset that your FI has more "people" than you do. It's really not a big deal. No one at the wedding is going to be running around taking a headcount. No one is going to notice or care that he has more "people" than you do. You're being ridiculous.

Kellykins12 · January 2012

We're having family sit on our side and asking the ushers to distribute friends we have in common on the side that needs filling out.

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