I didn't want to threadjack, but had a question: do you think it's bad if you DON'T really fight with your SO?
Me and my BF have never really had a fight. Like never ever. We disagree on things, but it never gets to the point of our voices being raised more than a little bit (never any yelling or screaming or name calling or anything). Usually if it starts to get to the point where one or both of us starts slightly increasing our tone of voice one of us will be like "Clearly we're getting upset about this, we need to calm down and talk about it later". But even that doesn't happen often (maybe less than once every few months). It seems like most people I know have fights and get really pissed off with their SO.
I think part of it at least with us is neither of us like confrontation so we try to avoid it. I worry sometimes that my BF just keeps things bottled up and one day it will just explode.
I should note, there have been a few instances where I've had mini-meltdowns and told BF I want to break up and said other things that I wish I hadn't said but not because I'm upset with him about anything. And we didn't fight about it. It's more me feeling I'm not good enough and worrying that one day he'll think the same and dump me. I know THAT isn't good and am going to be starting therapy soon to deal with my self esteem issues. I think I'm also depressed and/or possibly developing an anxiety problem, which has caused the meltdowns, so I'll be working through that in therapy.
So is it a bad thing if you don't fight? Or does that just mean that you communicate well enough that it doesn't get to the fighting point?