Post Dress Buying Nerves

suwannee79 · July 2010

Just bought my dress yesterday and now I'm starting to get nervous - I only tried on 12 dresses before deciding, what if there was one I would have liked more but didn't try on? Could I have gotten it cheaper somewhere else? Is it too simple? Will I like it as much as I did when I initially tried it on? Did I make the right choice? Did anybody else have these internal debates after they bought their dress? I keep staring at the pictures of me in the dress and I know I liked it when it was on, and I know it's a beautiful dress, but I'm just freaking out a little

mysticl · July 2010

Breathe.
I only tried on 3 dresses and the one I picked was dress number 2. I had the same feelings about did I pick the right one, is there a better one out there for me. Dang you Say Yes to The Dress for making me want that experience. I've moved beyond that and now am just excited for my dress to come in. And the other night on SYTTD i saw a girl pay over $3000 for a dress that looks kinda like mine and I paid less than $400 for mine. One thing that helped me was that one of my friends who went shopping with me took a pic of me in the dress. I sent it to my mom (she lives in another state) and she loved it, she showed my step-sis who has a degree in fashion merchandising and has amazing taste and step-sis loved it. Also, showed my FMIL and FSIL and they all liked it too. So I know I made the right choice.

hlmiller13 · July 2010

I tried on maybe 10 and picked # 3, but I bought the dress 6 DAYS after I got the ring. I say if you loved it enough to buy it and were happy about it.... then dont worry about it!! Alway follow you 1st instinct b/c it is almost always right!

I sent my dress to my mom's house (out of state) to keep it safe and so I wouldn't keep trying it on and obsessing over it.... but you know, I keep looking at everyone's wedding pictures, and I am truly happy with my choice!!

Follow your heart! I sure you will be gorgeous no matter what you wear!!

best wishes!!

KlassyWithaK · July 2010

I bought a dress and then made the mistake of trying on more dresses with the FI (see my post below). I'm completely regretting going out again because now I'm torn between two dresses and can't decide.
If you loved it on and you love pictures of you in it then you have the right dress. If your family has seen it and they loved it then its definitely the right dress.

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cschuma2 · July 2010

I bought dress #7 of the 8 that I tried on. You buy your dress and then you have to stop looking. It's been said before, you found your groom and you don't keep looking right? Well a dress is the same way. If you fell in love with it when you tried it on, you made the right choice.

Knittibell · July 2010

I get irritated by a lot of the stuff they say on "Say Yes to the Dress"- but one thing they said was that finding the dress is not unlike finding the guy- when you've found one you really love, that compliments you nicely, stop looking!

There are a million dresses out there, and a lot of women start second guessing once they've decided on one. But I am certain the dress you got is gorgeous, and the right dress for you, so just relax!

caseyandlizzie · July 2010

I only tried on maybe 10 dresses total and fell in love with my dress and ordered it. The next day, I called the bridal shop and asked them if it was too late to change my order. I definitely got the buyers remorse and started thinking that there may be something better out there. After I hung up with them I thought about it for a couple hours and realized I was being ridiculous and I was extrememly excited about that dress and called them back to order it again. I think its normal once you have selected your dress to have second thoughts, just remember why you selected your dress and stop looking at others. Surely there may be something more fabulous at a better price out there somewhere, but you're going to drive yourself crazy doing this.

opalsky007 · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_post-dress-buying-nerves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:15Discussion:8a4e5bba-c745-42de-b728-db6ea72df442Post:b25e76d3-3506-46c8-8a15-ce4efbbd344f">Re: Post Dress Buying Nerves</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I get irritated by a lot of the stuff they say on "Say Yes to the Dress"- but one thing they said was that finding the dress is not unlike finding the guy- when you've found one you really love, that compliments you nicely, stop looking!</strong> There are a million dresses out there, and a lot of women start second guessing once they've decided on one. But I am certain the dress you got is gorgeous, and the right dress for you, so just relax! :)
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

This, exactly. That said, it's natural to have some doubts--I think we all have at one point or another. It's a big decision after all.

Do you have any pics of you in the dress? I know I got a hge confidence boost after sharing my own pics here.

jenzibaba · July 2010

I only went shopping one day and I think I had only tried on 4 and found "the dress". The day I went dress shopping, I set out looking for a certain dress, but no one had it in stock as a sample so I couldn't see it. So I started looking for other dresses and went with a completely different style than the other one I wanted to see. I tried on a few after I made my mind up about 4th one I tried on just to make sure that was the one and I just knew it was. I haven't looked for a dress since. You just know when you have bought the right dress. No other dress will make you as happy as "the one" and I knew I had found it.

kd.joseph · July 2010

I drove 2 1/2 hours away to try on my dress. But I made sure to try on a few more styles just to be sure. So after 5 more dresses I put mine on again, and knew.

Move on to the next thing on your list. Focus elsewhere and when your dress comes in I guarantee you'll remember why you bought it.

Good Luck.

eawhit7 · July 2010

I tried on dresses at four or five different stores over several months before I found the one I chose, and I'm not sure if it's the one. It compliments my body and makes me feel pretty, but there were others that I loved too. My advice, from personal experience: save yourself from trying on tons of dresses, it will only frustrate you more. Try on enough to get an idea of what looks good on your body type, and go from there.

I honestly remember other dresses more than the one I picked. Sometimes I freak out. I forget the feeling I had when I picked the one, but remember others vividly. I know I will look great on my wedding day, but I don't want to be thinking about how I could look in other dresses.

KoalaLuv · July 2010

hlmiller13 I'm having my mom hold onto my dress too! I know with my luck I'll wear it for 2 seconds and the cat will scratch it or something! Oy ve... Keeping it safe with mama is the best choice!

Spangs · July 2010

Before I even tried on dresses (in december) I looked online and fell in love with a dress from Sottero and Midgley 2010 line. It was not in stores yet but I went shopping anyway and tried on 20 dresses, none of them were quite right and I kept comparing them to the one I saw online. So after calling dress stores for 3 months waiting to find a sample dress I finally found one 8 hours away. I went and tried it on.. I really LOVED it but it was a pettite (and I am 5'8") and a different color than I wanted. So I was so nervous that the dress I ordered would not be long enough or that I would regret the color (blush underneath diamond white appliques with blush satin ribbon on the bottom) BUT once it came in and I tried it on I knew I made the right decision and everyone in the bridal store loved it! So go with your gut and know you made the right decision!!

amianne420 · July 2010

I get those feelings too sometimes...I think it's natural because it is such a big decision to make...My mom has my dress in her closet 4 hours away from me and when I go home to see her, I always get it out and look at it and fall in love with it all over again...you picked it that day because you knew it was the one. You'll be fine.

kellyandtim1 · July 2010

I'm having the same feelings. I found a dress at my 2nd time trying some on. My MOH and mom fell in love with it and gushed over it. I liked it, felt good in it and enjoyed it - but I still didn't KNOW. I had to buy it that day because it was on clearance sale, last one in the store and discontinued. The minute I paid for it, I got nauseous. I do love the dress. But I'm so scared, what if it isn't THE ONE. It's very nerve racking.

amandajenea · July 2010

I'm sure it's beautiful. I tried on 5 dresses and bought dress #1. Spent 1 hour in the bridal shop w/ mom (didn't want too many opinions!). In that hour, I'd purchased my dress as well as tried on and picked out dresses for my maid-of-honor and bridesmaids.

melmhill · July 2010

Honey - I experienced the exact same thing! Part of what makes us have doubts is that there are so many dang choices available! I really think this is what leads to doubts, buyers remorse, etc. And I'll have to say - I bought a Galina dress at David's that was just an off-the-rack size and wasn't even a Petite, so of course when I put it on I didn't love it because it was ill-fitting. I started fretting and even bought and returned 2 other J.Crew dresses!!

But just last week, when my excellent seamstress did all the pinning, tucking, etc - I fell in love with the dress completely all over again.

It also helps when you put the dress on with hair, accessories, the whole shebang. It really puts it all together.

You will look fabulous - trust your instincts and work it, girl!!!

nen_bananie · July 2010

Yes. I have wondered many times whether I picked the right dress. I've thought maybe I should have spent more money, I should have gotten a different style, that maybe the dress wont look nice on me...
But its almost 2 weeks before my wedding and I think that as long as I am happy on my wedding day (which I know I will be) the dress will shine. The dress shouldn't make me look good, I'll make the dress look good.

Ckirwin · July 2010

i tried on 6 dresses and bought #4. i knew the second i put it on that it was the one, and so did my BM who was with me!! but i wanted to make sure it was the one, so i didn't purchase it then. i scheduled a follow-up appointment for 2 weeks later and tried it on again. it just felt right, especially with the veil on, so i purchased it!!

well... a few months ago i started freaking out that i bought too quickly and that i should have looked more. i had done all my research online beforehand and knew the exact style/cut i wanted and this dress is it. i had the dress in my closet but hadn't looked at it since i brought it home. i opened the bag again and had forgotten how beautiful it was. i felt SO much better and now i cannot wait to put it on again and have my fiance see me in it!! like everyone else said, you've made the right decision about your dress, start focusing on other things like cake and flowers!

SarahHenningfield · July 2010

I'm sure everyone has already told you what I will...

There is a point where you have to stop looking dear. You could try on hundreds of dresses and still not be completely sure or you could try on 12 and know it was the one. I tried on just as many. I went to my last appointment (June 14th) and said, "this is it, I have to find it today. If I don't I guess I'm going naked". The first dress I tried on was "it".

You have the right dress. Promise. There was something that made you buy THAT dress. Now, you just have to stop looking at all the others, which is the hardest part

. STOP LOOKING then there will be no doubts.

hsunij · July 2010

I had/have the same feeling. I think it will go away though

just try to embrace it

alicia1977 · July 2010

Every time I look at the lace dresses, I fall in love. I wish I had tried one, but i know they aren't right for my body. Then I look at a picture of my dress and remember how comfortable it was when i tried it on. I fall in love with it all over again.

I'm sure there will alway be the "what if's"

km31981 · July 2010

I did the same thing with mine but whenever I've put it on I just know its the one relax you chose the right one I'm sure I have friends who said the same thing happened to them.

tyra27 · July 2010

I'm going through the same thing myself. I had to stop watching my favorite wedding shows because I started looking at the dresses and wondering if I picked the right dress, and will I still love mine on the first fitting. I haven't seen my dress since April, so I've forgotten what it looks like. I too picked my dress sin one day just after four stores. I keep getting reassured by my Mom that it was gorgeous and the right selection for me. We'll see, no turning back now, but we'll all be beautiful brides regardless.

sriewaldt · July 2010

This is totally normal! I had the same turmoil and asked all my girlfriends if they felt the same...and they all did! I just got mine back (after 6 mos of the 'what ifs') and love it even more. It'll work out and you will be beautiful!

katyj25 · July 2010

I have been in that same boat as of recent. I purchased a dress back in February and when it arrived last month I went to try it on and absolutely hated the way I looked in it. The positive part is that the designer took it back for me. I was just out a portion of my deposit to cover a restocking fee. Trying on more dresses made me more aware of what I truly liked and I just purchased a different gown and for a lot cheaper than the first. My advice is to take pictures of yourself in the dresses and look at all of the picturea before you make up your mind. Had I seen myself in a photo rather than the mirror, I never would have purchased the first dress. The photos have been so incredibly helpful.

KristinC33 · July 2010

i keep looking at other dresses in magazines and i worry that i wont look good in the style dress i chose and that the other ones i see are more "sexy"...but then i have to remember i tried all those on and they looked awful! So trust your gut, you mind has to pick something to worry about before the big day...its totally normal! but i totally understand i have been worrying about mine nonstop since i got it...and no matter what you are the bride, no body is going to say "ewe look at her dress!" you can't possibly not look beautiful, your the bride1

jgilliam86 · July 2010

Oh let me tell you my dress situation:

I bought a dress in December thinking I loved it. I think I got caught up in the moment because not even a week later i was freaking. "its too dressy, its not me, its not right for my venue..." So I sold it. My aunt promises me she can make me one. I let her DISASTER!! It was awful. My grandma swears she can fix it..well its better but Im sick every time I think about it...because although its beautiful, its not THE ONE. I go and try on more and fall in love with another. I just bought it. I had to hurt my grandmas and aunts feelings,,,but I am finally at peace and LOVE my dress.

I guess what I am saying is..its a long road of doubts and stress. Just know there are millions of dresses and there will always be a better one than the next. SO if you are happy with your dress, stop looking!!

randicarla · July 2010

I'm torn, I've picked a list of top ten dresses, some of which are $$. I've found other sites offering the same dresses at ridiculously cheaper prices. Should I trust these sites that claim to be of high quality?? Or should I fork out the $$??

WhitGun10 · July 2010

I went dress shopping 12 days after getting engaged. I was caught between 2 dresses that were the same price. I bought the one that had caught my eye online and in maganize. I wonder if I should have bought the other dress but what really makes that feeling is that I am living with my fiance and his parents. The room I stay in has my dress hanging in its bag and has been there since May. I am nervous to try it on because I want it to be the dress I dreamed of. I hope I can try it on next week when his mother-in-law is off and his sister-in-law is in town.

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