Hello, my fiance and I pretty much agree on everything for the wedding but having an adult only reception. I want it adults only, he doesn't but here is the back story:
We're getting married in Washington, DC, most of his family lives in Memphis, TN and other areas where they will have to fly to get to the wedding (which is going to be early 2014). He is the youngest of seven kids and he has 13 nieces and nephews the majority who are under the age of 10. He feels that I am being unreasonable and selfish to want to have an adult only reception because it will be a hassle for them to find child care for a weekend, while the parents come to the wedding. I feel that they have plently of time to find accomodations for the kids and most hotels provide babysitters for an evening (I plan on having the reception at a hotel so we can just go upstairs after the reception to avoid having to drive after an open bar). I also have three nieces under the age of four and other famliy and friends with children who it will affect so I'm not singling out his family at all. I find that it is more pleasent for everyone to just to be able to relax for the evening instead of having kids to tend to and cost does come into play as well, kids don't get discounts they are counted as a head also. They are welcome to the wedding but nothing beyond that.
Is that unreasonable? Any feedback or suggestions are welcome.