Three of my bridesmaids are my future sister in laws... and two of them are nothing but trouble. My sisters and girlfriends have bent over backwards for us planning our jack and jill... and bachelorette party. If I need help they are there.... My FSILs are complete opposite....
They are critical of everything I do and cause drama whenever possible. One of them got mad at me because she thought I should have thanked her for my engagement ring since my fiance (her brother asked for their help)... then they didn't think I should be going bridesmaid dress shopping when I planned for.... It took two months to find a date that worked for everyone and then they tried to can it with ridiculous excuses. Ironically I had picked out a couple of dresses at the dress shop we were going to but said nothing to them because I knew they would put up a fight whether they liked them or not. Well joke is on you guys because they picked out the dress I wanted without even knowing.... Anyways... when my sisters asked for help with the Jack and Jill they ignored them... But then criticized my sister because she hadnt sent an email specifically to their husbands. Then one of them didn't come because she was going shopping instead. (she has attacked me every opportunity whether wedding or otherwise...one incident because we couldn't attend one of her parties because we had plans already) Anyways...
now two of these sisters were grilling my fiance when i wasn't around... saying we never should have registered for gifts because what we need is money for a house. (this coming from someone who registers for her birthday and christmas). And they want to know when I am going to host my bridal shower. excuse me?! And if I wasn't going to have a shower then we defnitely should not have registered. We don't need anything because we already live together. I was like what?! I was so mad when my fiance told me this.
I said to him well... they are bridesmaids and my experience as a bridesmaid usually they host the shower or a family member or friend does... not the bride. Seeing that my sisters and family put on the jack and jill maybe your sisters can host a shower for your family so that I can meet these people before our wedding. If they don't that's fine... I am not going to tell them what to do and I expect the same in return. But I will not be hosting my own shower. Apparently when one of the sisters got married she hosted her own bridal shower. (Which resulted in quite a bit of family drama with who she invited and didn't) And it's our business to register or not.... At no point did we say we wanted only money. We discussed that if we were to get money as a gift we are putting it into savings for a house. When we moved in together we came with what we each had.. mismatched dishes, sheets and towels not that i have explain myelf to these girls. I am sorry if I would like to have matching sets not a college mish mash. I said my family does not typically give money they give gifts so I am not getting rid of our registry.
Bottom line is I am really getting sick and tired of these girls.... for now I keep my mouth shut... but I hate the feeling of my back going up everytime my fiance mentions their name. He knows where I stand and he feels the same way as I do but feels its his family so what can he do. Now I understand why people elope.