How are you breaking the "rules"?

adrianzbride · May 2010

I just thought it would be fun to share how we're doing things a little differently from the typical. I'm still at the beginning stages of my wedding, but here is mine so far...

First, I'm forgoing a typical engagement ring for a diamond eternity band, and I'm planning to wear it before the wedding as my engagement ring and afterwards as my wedding band. I can't wait.

I guess I'm also breaking with tradition by setting the date and venue before getting the ring.

I'm also not planning to spend a lot on invitations and I'm so not overly concerned about them. I want them to be pretty, but I want them to be super cheap as well. I'm going to probably go with a kit from Michael's and print them myself.

I thought I had another one but it has slipped my mind. If I remember I'll post it later.

So what about you?

daynalyntroy · May 2010

Congrats to you both! Here are some of mine:

-Instead of limiting our color palate to 2 colors, we're going to have white with an array of jewel-tone accents (ie, each attendant in her favorite color dress, carrying a white parasol, multi-hued bouquet for me, paper lanterns in all different colors, with white linens, white cake, etc)

-We also got simple, pretty invitations online, but didn't splurge on those, either.

- Forgoing floral centerpieces in favor of Morrocan lanterns and candles

-We're spending the night before the wedding together

- We're skipping the dj in favor of an ipod, but our musician friends are going to each play a song after the toasts

-My dad's performing the ceremony, but I'm walking down the aisle by myself (he gave me away once, I can present myself this time

).

deepcovejackie · May 2010

I'm not even sure how many I'm actually following... ; ) We're having a DW in Mexico, with a Mexican buffet dinner. My kids will be the attendants. No formal WP, no-one giving me away, we'll walk out together. Umm, mariachi band for entertainment...there's more I just can't think of them all.

2dBride · May 2010

1. We started with a nontraditional number of brides (2) and grooms (0).

2. We did not have engagement rings.

3. We had DIY invitations, the design of which was taken from the artwork on our ketubah (formal Jewish wedding contract).

4. We rented a big old Victorian house for all the guests to stay in. Instead of a "rehearsal dinner," we just ordered in pizza the night before.

5. Even though it was my second wedding, I wore a long ivory wedding dress with a train and a veil with a blusher.

6. Our wedding was on a Tuesday.

7. We have no idea what our "colors" were. The ketubah had a lot of bright primary colors in it. The reception decor was mostly ivory and gold, but with pink and brown lighting from paper lanterns, uplighting, etc.

8. My wife and I walked down the aisle together.

9. Our chuppah (wedding canopy) was built on the frame of a portable popup gazebo.

10. We had two attendants, a maid of honor and a dude of honor. However, neither one of them was assigned specifically to either one of us.

11. Instead of having the usual two witnesses to the ketubah, we had all of our guests sign as witnesses.

12. My ex-husband gave the blessing over bread after the ceremony.

13. We had no bouquet or garter toss. We gave one of our bouquets to my former sister-in-law, the only local guest. We gave the other to the staff of the synagogue where we were married.

14. There was a whipped cream fight at the luncheon after the wedding. (This was not planned, but my 51-year-old sister started it with my 28-year-old son/dude of honor.)

15. The reception was held at a club that was a converted warehouse, which we decorated ourselves.

16. We had an accoustic guitarist as our reception musician, instead of having a band or a DJ.

17. Our first dance was a swing dance.

18. A friend's dog attended the reception.

That's all I can think of right now. However, if I'd paid more attention to what the traditions were, maybe I'd remember more!

daynalyntroy · May 2010

2dBride, I also took a look at your pics, and I more than love, I LURVE everything you did for your wedding! While our bride to groom ratio differs, you may just be my married knottie hero

Marrin713 · May 2010

I also am having a diamond anniv band as the wedding band.

No attendants

Getting JOP'ed two days before reception. Logistics

And only immed family to witness.

Having the heavy app reception more or less at dinner time (again logistics) - 7 PM but it's a small reception and everyone knows so no one is going to come ravenous.

I'm sure there's more but it's early and I have to get ready for work

Sue-n-Kevin · May 2010

2ndbride, I also love your input on all the threads here. You are wise & funny, and I love all the "non-traditional" aspects to your wedding.

Here's mine:

- Have 2 kids out of wedlock, never been married, wearing white
- marrying a man who's been married twice before, having a formal wedding (see above for reason........it's what I WANT, and he's more than accomodating)
- Wearing white formal gown as a 50-something bride when I marry in August 2011 cuz I want to
- Would love to have my dad, who will be 85 then, walk me down the aisle. I doubt he will, because he hates "monkey suits" and being the center of attention.
- Budget/DIY everything! It will be classy & elegant, and more than "semi-homemade". Got invites on sale table at Michael's for $5 per box of 50
- no garter toss or bouquet toss, because due to our ages, all the guests are married or teens (our kids)
-not registering for any gifts, not having any showers, because we have too much already, and will be having garage sales to "pare down" before the wedding so we can combine 2 households
- he is selling his house and moving into MINE because it's nicer and larger
- getting a bargain wedding cake from son's friend's bakery, then buying a couple of all white sheet cakes from Costco & having those cut & served from the kitchen of our venue

msblumoo · May 2010

Wearing Ivory wedding gown with veil because never did for first.
No attendants.
Walking down aisle by myself. Groom will walk down aisle before me.
Having heavy app's cocktail reception at 630 after ceremony in a lounge like setting (should be cool, small family reception only so guest should be ok w/time)
Would like to do a bouquet toss for all the ladies(most married) just because never did for first and seems like a good way to end the celebration.
Having kids (adults) stay at the same hotel we are though in different rooms after the wedding.(used to take all the kids to this hotel when younger just to get away and swim in pool). Thought it would be good for old times sake and they can swim or whatever after the wedding and we can all have breakfast next morning before we leave on our honeymoon.

AdelphiTN · May 2010

Hmm I am trying to decide if its shorter to list the rules i AM following. lol. I read a thread the other day on how wrong it is to use a monogram before the ceremony (or something like that, i didn't even want to understand). Rules. Pfffsh.

No wedding party
No rehearsal dinner (will have some other events though)
Sister is doing all invitations and such (she is a graphic designer, i am so lucky)
We are encouraging casual dress:
I am wearing a short white wedding-ish dress and maybe flip flops!
Fi will be wearing khaki's and a white shirt
My 4 boys will be in shorts and polos - i mean come on, we're at the beach
We are having a cocktail hour before the ceremony, and FI and I will be there together
Walking down the "aisle" on the beach together
i refuse to decorate the beach at all. The beach needs no improvement IMO
Super short ceremony
No bouquet or garter toss
Sparing no expense on food and bar, spending very little on anything else!
None of those trendy things (like a candy bar)
Don't want any gifts
Other sister is making the cake - tiers are on different height cake stands (casual and beautiful)
Sending the family home after the wedding weekend, but we and our close friends are staying at the beach for another week.

melio0617 · May 2010

I love hearing all these rule breaking ideas

I think weddings have become too formulaic regardless if it's your first or second or third, and I think it's so cool that people are stepping out of the box and having fun! We haven't even decided on a date yet, but we already know we want to do things differently and just have a great party for all our friends and families. I've already been married once and did all the tradiitonal stuff and while it was nice, I want to do a lot of things differently this time. Thanks for the inspiration!

lisa71010 · May 2010

2nd marriage for us both. He, however, never had a "wedding" so we're doing it up! He is having his close (female) friend as his "best man", all 6 of our kids are in the wedding, both my sisters are my maid/matron of honors, then my 3 besties are bridesmaids. My Dad LOVES to dance, so we are doing a Country line dance called the Mc Graw stroll down the aisle to the song "Why don't we just dance". The kids are handing out noisemakers for the exit of the wedding instead of traditional bubbles. We are having Strawberry Shortcake, as dessert first at the reception - because life's short so eat dessert first as my Dad has always said! The dinner is a summer barbecue theme, we are toasting with Margaritas instead of champagne.. My ex-sister-in-law is our photographer. I made the wedding invites on boxed invites that I found in the clearance section at Party City for 50 cents per box of 50 - in the perfect pattern & color to match our Watermelon, Black & White colors!!! & The list goes on of non-traditional things we are doing :-)

handfast4me · May 2010

Ok, for those of you are Christians, we broke all the rules.

But for us Pagans, we followed a fairly traditional path (which is older than Christianity, actually). While we couldn't go skyclad at the ceremony because it's illegal at Smathers beach in Key West, we made up for it later on.

Our non-traditional stuff actually started long before the wedding. For our engagement pictures, we dressed in our Scottish attire (me in 18th century Scottish Country, and he in US Army tartan kilt) and were photographed in Oakland Cemetery, a historic cemetery here in Atlanta.

We had a handfasting on Yule in 2006. Handfastings are trial marriages for a year and one day. But we changed the wording on ours a little because we knew might not have the legal wedding until after one year later. It was performed by a distand cousin of mine, who is a high priest, so his wife, the High Priestess, officiated along with my cousin.

We had our legal wedding, incorporating the Pagan Cakes and Ale ritual, on the beach with no guests and no attendants. We went on a wedding "moon" so he helped me get dressed, etc. The officiant was also our photographer.

He actually helped me pick out my dress, my jewelry, etc. We went out to dinner at a nice restaurant in Key West that evening, and then went to a clothing optional bar for a couple of hours after that.

We still have one more ceremony to do, as most Pagans do, but there's no time factor on this one, so we're just taking it slow.

MikesAngie · May 2010

Congratulations to all the ladies and their originality!! Rules? There Rules - darn I knew I was bypassing something here. Huh?

Well for one we are getting married in the early evening because we want to on a Sunday the date is super special and important to us.

Our wedding "style" as it were is formal to semi-formal, and yes I will be wearing white, works better for my coloring. The theme is candle light and romance.

We do not intend on having an aisle weather permiting we will be getting married on the patio. We will be entering into the ceremony from the left and right walk way in front of where the guests will be seated in a semi-circle, negating the groom and bride sides and forcing family to mingle.

The start of our ceremony will have a meet and greet where guests will be encouraged to meet and greet those seated around them.

My FI and his daughter will be escorted in by his Mom, and I will be escorted in by my Mom - we all will be presented into the union.

We are having a totally secular ceremony with a Cheorkee reading, and are exchanging rings between all three of us to signify the committment to the new family as well as each other. We are also having a sand ceremony, the Moms will be busy.

We are NOT having a cake but truffles instead, with petit fours for those who insist there must be cake. The FI, daughter and I do not like cake.

We bought all our stationary at Micheal's and will be doing our own printing.

Our florals are silk and already completed and boxed for the big day (I did them, we have pictures if you are curious contact me). Our centerpieces have the flowers inside the vase with LED candles lighting underneath.

We are not doing the bouquet and garter toss - no one at our age wants to be singled out for being unmarried.

We also contemplating sitting at a sweetheart table instead of a head table so that we can mix and mingle without leaving our bridal party alone.

So far that is what I know that we're doing our own twist to... Haven't decided about the something borrowed, blue etc... Our colors are navy and white and our flowers are blue and white hydrangeas.

msblumoo · May 2010

Oh yeah! We are also having a piano player. Never heard him or met him but he comes with referral from our venue. Our venue has 3-4 big reception rooms but we just want a party so we are having our cocktail reception in what is called the Martini Lounge. The venue uses this room usually for rehearsal dinners, engagement parties ect., They also have fun nites there and they have this piano player for entertainment so we thought why not, goes along with the whole lounge type of feel. Also no formal seating we will just be mingling with guests.

mma3 · May 2010

We are breaking a few of them:

My dress is black and I love it that way!
I refuse to walk down the aisle to the wedding march
I omitted the phrase "Who gives this woman to be wed" I figure I am doing this of my own free will
There is no white in my decor, and I am also going with an array of colors
I did register
I did my own invitations (courtesy of Michael's) and favors

arv266 · May 2010

It is a second marriage for both of us and we are breaking the rules by;

-I am wearing a strapless ivory wedding gown with a small train WITH a blusher veil.
- My brother will officiate (he went online to become a minister just for the occasion). I know some will find this shocking, but who better to marry me then the person who has known me ALL my life?
- Our matching rings are made of titanium and mother of pearl. As an engagement ring I have a posey ring with the inscription "you and no other" on it. I love diamonds as much as the next girl, but my true gem is my FI.
-My son, who is 10, will walk me down the aisle. My family was shocked at this one, but this is what feels right to me. At this point in my life, I am a mom first, and then a daughter
- We are having our reception in a semi-private venue. It will be on a Sunday lunch cruise which circles NYC. We really couldnt afford a private cruise, and our venue has completely bent over backwards to accomodate us. We'll have a limited bar, buffet, cake and a DJ. We think its a hoot to celebrate with a boat load of people - even if they happen to be strangers!
- My daugher, who is 12 will be my maid of honor, along with my future step daugher, and ALL of my nieces. I was going to keep it small but my 4 nieces wanted to be a part of it. And so I thought, why not? If they want to share this special day with me, why not have an entourage? I love how excited they all and love sharing this experience with them.
- even though its a daytime event, the BM will wear gowns because its COLD in NY in November!
- I also made all the bouquets myself from silk flowers. I love the way they look and would love to have a board on this one! I am now working on the table centerpieces.
- We are not doing a garter toss, but I did make a throw-bouquet. The ship has a balcony and I am going to invite ANYONE from the ship to join in, as the DJ plays Beyonces "Put a Ring on It".
- Our tables will be the names of romantic movies that we have watched together and really enjoyed.

When I first started planning I was thinking -- how the heck can I be a bride again? And a bride at 44? I realize that there are no constraints. This day is about celebrating our love and I cant wait!

cwcottage · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_breaking-rules?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:861c5963-96b8-41b7-be4e-808c9daf631dPost:0f9f8ce3-b172-4150-a3b3-84bec823a492">Re: How are you breaking the "rules"?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not even sure how many I'm actually following... ; ) We're having a DW in Mexico, with a Mexican buffet dinner. My kids will be the attendants. No formal WP, no-one giving me away, we'll walk out together. Umm, mariachi band for entertainment...there's more I just can't think of them all.
Posted by deepcovejackie[/QUOTE]

I love Mexico! Your wedding sounds awesome!

Our honeymoon is a 10 cruise to Mexico. It will be my 6th and his first. I can't wait to share the experience and culture with him!

cwcottage · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_breaking-rules?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:861c5963-96b8-41b7-be4e-808c9daf631dPost:2ae36b4e-2570-4ec8-9ab3-8b9673c141ce">Re: How are you breaking the "rules"?</a>:
[QUOTE]1. We started with a nontraditional number of brides (2) and grooms (0). 2. We did not have engagement rings. 3. We had DIY invitations, the design of which was taken from the artwork on our ketubah (formal Jewish wedding contract). 4. We rented a big old Victorian house for all the guests to stay in. Instead of a "rehearsal dinner," we just ordered in pizza the night before. 5. Even though it was my second wedding, I wore a long ivory wedding dress with a train and a veil with a blusher. 6. Our wedding was on a Tuesday. 7. We have no idea what our "colors" were. The ketubah had a lot of bright primary colors in it. The reception decor was mostly ivory and gold, but with pink and brown lighting from paper lanterns, uplighting, etc. 8. My wife and I walked down the aisle together. 9. Our chuppah (wedding canopy) was built on the frame of a portable popup gazebo. 10. We had two attendants, a maid of honor and a dude of honor. However, neither one of them was assigned specifically to either one of us. 11. Instead of having the usual two witnesses to the ketubah, we had all of our guests sign as witnesses. 12. My ex-husband gave the blessing over bread after the ceremony. 13. We had no bouquet or garter toss. We gave one of our bouquets to my former sister-in-law, the only local guest. We gave the other to the staff of the synagogue where we were married. 14. There was a whipped cream fight at the luncheon after the wedding. (This was not planned, but my 51-year-old sister started it with my 28-year-old son/dude of honor.) 15. The reception was held at a club that was a converted warehouse, which we decorated ourselves. 16. We had an accoustic guitarist as our reception musician, instead of having a band or a DJ. 17. Our first dance was a swing dance. 18. A friend's dog attended the reception. That's all I can think of right now. However, if I'd paid more attention to what the traditions were , maybe I'd remember more!
Posted by 2dBride[/QUOTE]

Sounds like a blast! Wish I were there! lol

thealphabride · May 2010

Chiming in late here... great post!
Fiance and I are seeing each other before the ceremony. I might spend the night with him before the wedding because I sleep way better with him.
We are having our children in the wedding party, not having flower girl or ring bearer. Only having 2 attendants on each side.
Like danyla I am having the Jewel Tone colors, alll of them incorporated into the wedding....
Not doing any garter or bouquet toss, ILIKE SUE as a 53 year old I'll be getting married in a long lace gown with a train and a veil. Having a mother/son dance, no father daughter, my father is deceased and if he wasn't he still wouldn't be invited. We are having a pizza party for the rehersal dinner. I refused to spend big money on favors so we are having Jordon Almonds in tulle.
We aren't having a limo or formal transportation.
We are not having a string quartet playing in our ceremony!!! I'm having our friend sing with his guitar. The ceremony will be very different in that the whole wedding party will face the guests and the officient will be half way down the isle. He wont be in any of the ceremony pictures at all, just us and our wedding party.

Marrin713 · May 2010

Pizza for wedding rehearsal dinner <making googly eyes>

Seriously, I love these ideas! Dogs, eating dessert first, Mexico, dinner cruises to name a few!

I had to get ready for work this AM so didn't really have time to make any more of a list than I already did.

No rehearsal dinner for us - we'll be on airport duty on Thurs night.

No garters or bouquets

First dance - eh! if he's had a Corona or two

No favors - we're just going to donate to the American Lung Assoc. and an Alzheimer's charity in the name of our two dads

I'm wearing a green dress - it's long like a sundress but its a tad dressier. I had bought a dress at Nordstroms but then I went to FL to visit mom 2 weeks ago and found something I liked better. Then FI tells me that he's glad because he felt Nordy dress was too fancy. Reception is golf clubhouse casual - men in dockers and collared shirts; the wimmin in sundresses or nice capris.

deepcovejackie · May 2010

Adelphi, you sound like my wedding! You`re wearing a short dress....what kind, I`m doing a Dolly Couture one, I think.

My guy is wearing a Mexican wedding shirt in Navy, and tan pants. My son is in the same outfit. My daugher will be in a dress that she likes, in whatever colour. My Mom is dressing up my pink surfboard with flowers for decorations. We`re having Mexican 3 milk cake for dessert. No real wedding cake.

Yeah. Not exactly traditional. But so suited to our family and so fun for us. There are already 40 guests joining us (and counting).

Oh yeah, and the wedding wont be legal. The state in Mexico that we`re getting married in requires chest xrays for licensing. I won`t be doing that. We`re doing the legal paperwork when we get home. Our guests will be well aware of that though. : )

I think that`s almost it for rule breaking. For now, theres more to come I`m sure....

deepcovejackie · May 2010

cw cottage--Mexico is awesome! My fiance lived there for several months of the year for alot of years as a surfer. He speaks fluent spanish, and knows both the area and the culture. I`ve become Mexican in my heart since. Soy Mexicana! Have a great time on your trip.

littlepumpkin · May 2010

I am wearing an ivory gown with a veil, but it is informal and made for a garden ceremony.

Getting married outside by a lake, not a church.

No bridesmaides. We have five boys together, so his three are best men, my two year old will walk with my flower girl and my five year old will give me away.

His friend will marry us. We have no clue what we will do about vows...but not traditional ones.

Dulcimer hammer and violin for music.....may walk in to a smashing pumpkins song....

no garger or bouquet toss....all our friends are hitched

reception at a bar with munchies....we can't pay for people's drinks, but thought they should have the option to drink if they want to.

We are having a cake, but the cake topper is our family in stick figures...similar to what you see on the back window of cards....FI and me, with five boys! I love it...afterwards it will be a Christmas ornament.

melissamc2 · May 2010

-It's my third wedding, and also my biggest (which is no small feat - the first two weren't small) - and we're making a huge deal out of it.

-I'm nearly a decade older than my fiance, which is still scandalous by some standards.

-I have four children, a couple of marriages behind me, and am going to walk solo down the aisle in a white gown with lots of black detailing.

-No "real" rehearsal dinner. In my opinion, they are a waste of time and money and we're just not doing it.

-The reception is a full served meal, but only wine, the signature punch, and two cocktails are included. After that, they are paying for their own. I'm not here to get our friends and family trashed, and I won't pretend that I am.

-We registered and people know it!

-We had a well known comic book artist (from Archie Comics) do our wedding invitation artwork and we are having a full comic book done for our program.

-I am putting designer vibrators in my bridesmaids' gift baskets.

-The live music being played as our guests are being seated at the ceremony are piano versions of popular horror movie themes.

-Once everyone is seated, the lights are going out, the Twilight Zone music is being played, and a friend is coming out to give a Rod Serling style monologue to start the processional, which is set to a Lifehouse song, not anything "traditional."

-My fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves.

I actually expect a few gifts, just like everyone else does - I just don't mind admitting that I have a gift table set up for that reason.

Oh, and I've recently found out TWO showers are being thrown for me (one by his family, one by mine - with friends from both countries attending each) AND a bachelorette party. I'm also going to really enjoy them ALL!

dwashco · May 2010

It's both of our's second marriage. Our officiate is a friend of FI's from back in Jr High and also took me to my Jr Prom in HS (FI and I never met when we were in school, we met later through our now officiate and another long time friend.)

Venue is at a friends ranch in the mountains with forest and medow areas. Most of the "vendors" are friends or related to friends - giving us good deals or doing it for free.

I am having my three (aged 18-23) boys each walk me 1/3 of the way down the aisle oldest to youngest. No one but me and my kids are walking down the aisle - to the chagrin of some family members...... Had to do something to differentiate family from others to smooth these feathers. (They will all wear boutineers/corsages.)

I'm having a Manof Honor and my FI a Best Man.

I am wearing a lovely ivory halter dress with deep purple (almost burgundy) accents under my breasts, around the bottom and sweeping down the back to the end of the train.

Reception is an excuse for a huge party with all of our friends and loved ones - no dances, no bouquet/garter toss, only cutting a small cake (the bulk of the cake will be homemade cupcakes) - because we want to.

No favors - decided that it was too expensive for something many guests wouldn't remember to take home anyway.

pamila51510 · May 2010

The only thing I would say that we are doing different really is instead of having my mother say we do to the question who gives this bride to be with this man My daughters asked if they could say we do and i said sure why not! They are part of my wedding party I can't wait

Oh and the father daughter dance my soon to be is dancing with my daughters as my father isn't coming (thank goodness)

Marrin713 · May 2010

Designer vibrators yay!! Melissa - I think I'd like to be a spider on the wall at your wedding!

Actually, I'd love to be a spider on the wall at everyone's!

Pumpkin - which SP song are you walking into? I'll be having a few on our playlist: 1979, Ava Adore, and other one escapes me.

mswood1977 · May 2010

I guess I am breaking the second time bride rules by doing all the traditional stuff. Fi and I have both been married before, but I got married in a courthouse the first time and I was very young. We didn't register or have a shower or any of the other stuff people usually do when they get married. So this time I decided to do it up like it is the first time. I registered, I had a bridal shower, my dad is walking me down the aisle and giving me away, I am wearing a traiditional gown with a semi-cathedral train and a veil. If it is traditional we are doing it.

Amomtomanyluvs · May 2010

1. i opted out of traditional wedding invites. bought mine at walmart and did them myself

2. i am not having any real flowers at the wedding (minus what the flower girls will toss) my bouquet is silk

3. my centerpieces will be sparkling cider (no alchohol at my wedding...another fo paux) instead they will be a can in the center, with tissue and paper flowers.

4. i am still contemplating white dress, even though its mys econd wedding

5. i will not be having any formal attendants. instead opted out for the flower girls and ring bearers. the "maid of honor" knows who she is, but has very little to do

6. we are non spending more then $1000 on the entire wedding!

7. we are involving the kids in the vows exchange

there is more i cant remember

sweetie0228 · May 2010

Did the invites our selves (SO is a graphic designer)

ipod for the music

Short dress

"Theme" is Bollywood inspired only b/c the movies always have a dancing and nightclub party atmosphere.

We aren't Indian

My girls and I are going to have our Mendhi done (henna on hands)

Colors are Hot Pink and Tangerine

SO and my son are wearing matching Converse one star sneakers.
no tuxes

Linen pants, white shirts, Vest for the groom black suspenders for the guys and fedoras.

Food was important so the restaurant we are having it at is amazing.

making pillows for a lounge area the fabric looks like Saris

Only having beer and wine for the alcohol and a champange toast...most of his family doesn't drink but my side is Italian and Irish it would be rude not to have any drinks.
And we are having all the RSVP's on the wedding website

Where my registry is...hmmm I want new sheets and I registered for the wine of the month club.

Oh and doing it all for under $5000!

rapunnzzll · May 2010

This sounds like a great discussion to introduce myself and join you ladies.

Our wedding is the second for both of us. My first was ok, he hated his. We are just in the beginning stages of planning, but here are a few of our plans.

Much to his mother's dismay, I will be wearing an ivory gown, with a train and a veil. Our wedding party consists our my three children and his two. I will be walking down the aisle by myself or FI will meet me halfway and walk the remainder together. In Colorado an officiant is not needed to be married, we are toying around with that idea of doing it all ourselves, but not sure if we could make it through the ceremony. Either way, the ceremony will be short.

We both feel that the second time around for us is much more special and reason to celebrate so we are having a cocktail hour and then a plated dinner with dancing until the wee hours. Throwing around the idea of having a family brunch the following day as we can't travel at that time due to his job.

Not doing the bouquet toss, going to have a bouquet made to split in to two and give my mother and his each one.

Lots of DIY plans, included are making our chuppah which will later be displayed somehow in our home. I love to sew/quilt and all other kinds of crafts so way too many ideas at the moment, so who knows what we will end up with. Will do the invites and all our paper stuff ourselves.

Have to say, I love all your ideas. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to getting to know everyone.

How are you breaking the "rules"?

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