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Why I do not feel bad for not going to the ceremony - f/u to my Well this sucks post

We just got a call.  They have not even started the ceremony yet.  It was to start 2 HOURS AGO.

I would have been pissed to have sat for 2 hours (really more, because I'm always 15 minutes early) and still no wedding.








What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 

Re: Why I do not feel bad for not going to the ceremony - f/u to my Well this sucks post

  • Yay, we steered you right!

    That's ridiculous.  Aren't you glad you had to wash your hair/clean the kitchen sink/alphebatize your dvd collection?
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  • Sweet! I'm glad you didn't end up feeling guilty about not going.
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  • Oh dear lord. I would be very upset if I went to a wedding and that happened.
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  • No kidding..

     DH is so happy that his #2 is keeping him in the loop so he can watch the Jets game. 






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • That is out of control!

    I'm glad you didn't go.
  • Is this the islander wedding? 

    I don't know where these people are from, but I do know that in many places in the south pacific, it's common place for everything to run very late and for no one to be in a rush to do anything.

    My friend's boyfriend is from PNG. She tells me that time is a non-issue for them, and things like 'getting to the airport on time' don't have any urgency to them as it would in our cultures- thus when they're relying on his family to take them to the airport, they arrive about 15 minutes before the plane is about to take off, and even then, stop on the way to chat to friends etc. Apparently everyone does this, so everything is always running late. 

  • DH's #2 is from the islands, but lived in the states for many years.  He says "it's an island thing, you white people just do not understand, I will let you know when it's time to go the reception".  He agrees that it is ridiculous, but knows there is no changing island people.








    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • I. hate. the.knot. 
    I'm impressed you got through my post Lynda!  I re-read it and holy crap I obviously cant type fast and make sense!
    Hope you all hd  good time at the wedding/reception :)
  • Glad you didn't go!  I had originally said you should go, but that was before I read that it might start really really late.  Terrible way to treat guests!
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