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MOH is Underage
I really want to include my little sister in all of my bridal activities including my bachelorette party. The thing is-- I (and my other BMs) would like to go "out" and my little sister will be just under 18. She is also my MOH so I can't NOT have her at my BP. Is it okay to have 2 BPs? Maybe one out and one say-- at a friend's house? I haven't talked to her about this, but she has mentioned to me that she'll be ALMOST 18 and she's wondering how it's going to work out. (Frankly it would bug me if I were so close to being 18.) If I could break the rules for her I would get her into a club, but clearly that's impossible. What to do?
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Re: MOH is Underage
If someone other than your sister asks what you want to do for a bachelorette, then mention that you want your sister included. And they will arrange something around that.
ETA: As far as ideas on what to do, my bachelorette was dinner and then a comedy club, and some of us went to a bar afterward.
also you can plan a girls night out after the wedding where she can be involved, maybe throw an awesome 18th bday party for her as a thank you for being my MOH kind of thing.
But, anyway, I think you should do what HisCB said. Try to work around her, if you want her to be a part of it so badly (which is completely understandable). Try to do something at home rather than go out where she is legally unable to go. Make her a big part of the shower. Or, if you insist on going out, throw her a big 18 bash. There are a lot of ways to deal with this. And you have quite some time to figure it out.
It'll all work out in the end.
Good luck!
If they ask for ideas, things that could include your sister include wine tasting (unless liquor licenses in your area don't allow under 21 on the property, our underage siblings have been given crackers, pretzels and water at wine tastings), spa day, dinner at a restaurant that has a bar, party at someone's home.
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[QUOTE]I'm aware I have over a year before the wedding... I can't think about it now? She has... I don't think that makes a difference. I have a question, I post it, no big deal.
Posted by BDoug713[/QUOTE]
<div>Wow. Calm down, there. I was only asking because a lot of ladies plan their bach. party for well before the wedding. And I thought maybe yours was like that. No need to jump to conclusions. </div>
[QUOTE]My FI is having my younger brother in his wedding party. My brother will be 18 as well (but I am in Canada so 19 is the legal age) so by FI has mentioned to his BM that if there is to be a BP then he would at least like to go out to dinner or boweling or something so my brother can join in with that and then they can go out or whatever they want. (the BM already brought this up to my FI when he found out my brother would be under age at the wedding) I think that this is a reasonable option and so did my brother.
Posted by awick14[/QUOTE]
<div>Ummm...I don't <em>usually</em> don't point out spelling, usage, and grammar mistakes, but I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that you meant "bowling" and not "boweling." There is a BIG difference.</div>
A b-party doesn't have to be a booze fest. Go to a concert. Go to an amusement park. Go to a sporting event. Have an in home slumber party and watch chick flicks and eat junk food. Go to a spa for a day of pampering. My DD went to Medieval Times follow by Dave and Busters.
There are plenty of ways to have a great party that includes your sister. Only you can decide if a bar crawl is worth excluding your sister.
[QUOTE]Let the BMs work this out amongst themselves. It's not up to you how many bachelorettes you will have. If someone other than your sister asks what you want to do for a bachelorette, then mention that you want your sister included. And they will arrange something around that.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
This.
And if they do ask you for potential ideas, you can mention any that Trix mentioned. I personally love the idea of a spa day. There the focus isn't on ages or who can or can't get into what - everyone goes for a day of pampering and enjoy a nice lunch and the TIME together. <strong>But</strong> it's ultimately up to your BMs what kind of Bach Event they are willing and able to put on for you, if they do one at all so it's really up to them to figure it out. But since your wedding isn't for quite awhile you probably won't have to really worry about this for another year or so.
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[QUOTE]I'm aware I have over a year before the wedding... I can't think about it now? She has... I don't think that makes a difference. I have a question, I post it, no big deal.
Posted by BDoug713[/QUOTE]
Well technically you shouldn't be thinking about it ever because it's up to your BMs to plan.
And you would not be the first person to come to this board and say "I just got engaged, so now I want to let my BMs know about my bachelorette party," which is in appropriate and over-eager of the bride, so it's a legitimate question so that we can know whether it might be helpful to suggest you slow down a little.
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my cousins did, even before i picked a wp, they insisted on planning it and asked me what i wanted. then i got pregnant, so we are changing the plans, because i wont be drinking, and 2 of my bms are underaged, so we will have a fun shower with everyone, a spa day for just the wp and a party for the of age ladies.
When I was 16 my sisters and I were in a wedding for the girl who babysat us growing up. She was like our big sister. Because we were all in the wedding party but unable to go out with the rest of the girls we hosted a BBQ dinner at our dads house and then they all went out on the town for the night. it was like 2 BP in one night!
I know that the bride should be hands off on these types of things but she wasn't sure how to give me the bachelorette party she thought I might want.
I also have to agree with some of the pervious post....it is far to early to be worrying about this.