How to tell people that you invited that you didn't give them a plus one?

Re: How to tell people that you invited that you didn't give them a plus one?

• Kristin789 member

  

  July 2010

  Call and say:
  "Look Kristin, my parents are hosting the wedding and they're holding fast to the traditional rule of married and engaged couples only.  We can't have singles with a guest or a date."

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• mwhitson14 member

  

  July 2010

  They should be invited with a plus one if they are married, engaged, living together, in a long term relationship.
  
  Otherwise, call them and say budget constraints/venue limits/whatever that they can't accomodate plus ones.

  
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• rknox88

  

  July 2010

  Just let them know that due to budget or space constraints that you are unable to accommodate extra guests.  However, if you didn't extend an invitation to someone's significant other, fiance, or Bf/Gf that they have been in a long term relationship with that is a faux pax on your part.

  

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• Lisa8888

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-people-invited-didnt-give-plus-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4aa9c161-362e-41e5-833d-170878027023Post:df83e5a5-88ae-4af9-bde1-242922074f59">Re: How to tell people that you invited that you didn't give them a plus one?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Call and say: "Look Kristin, my parents are hosting the wedding and they're holding fast to the traditional rule of married and engaged couples only.  We can't have singles with a guest or a date."
  Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
  
  I never heard of that traditional rule. Doesn't sound credible. I can't believe a good friend or relative could not bring their SO simply because they were not engaged or married.

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• Lisa8888

  

  July 2010

  How many extra people would this entail? If it isn't a lot of extra people, I would go with it. These guests will wonder why they were not allowed to bring a guest and other people were allowed to bring a guest.

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• tidetravel member

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-people-invited-didnt-give-plus-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4aa9c161-362e-41e5-833d-170878027023Post:df83e5a5-88ae-4af9-bde1-242922074f59">Re: How to tell people that you invited that you didn't give them a plus one?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Call and say: "Look Kristin, my parents are hosting the wedding and they're holding fast to the traditional rule of married and engaged couples only.  We can't have singles with a guest or a date."
  Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
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  As long as you didn't break up social units (couples that are married, engaged, living together or dating long term) by excluding +1s, then you'll have to call the guests and explain that due to capacity/budget constraints, you cannot accomodate extra guests.

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• Lenore2010 member

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-people-invited-didnt-give-plus-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4aa9c161-362e-41e5-833d-170878027023Post:4800eb7d-a831-4ef4-8867-d17dd700c8aa">Re: How to tell people that you invited that you didn't give them a plus one?</a>:
  [QUOTE]They should be invited with a plus one if they are married, engaged, living together, in a long term relationship. Otherwise, call them and say budget constraints/venue limits/whatever that they can't accomodate plus ones.
  Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]
  
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• ashleighm9

  

  July 2010

  I'll explain the situation a little.  My fiance lives in Toronto and I'm from Seattle.  I picked up and moved the first of the year, so I've been gone for about 7 months.  I invited friends that didn't have long term gf's when I left. 
  
  If they do have long term girlfriends, I wish that they would have just called or emailed me and asked me if it was ok, but they didn't and that's ok either.  I just need to call and talk to both of them about it.  I'm just overwhelmed with the wedding being less than a month away and so this stresses me out a bit because I want to get the guest count figured out so I can move on to other details and happier parts of planning.
  
  I guess I'll just call them and say something along the lines of I didn't know you were with someone, what is her name...and then if they say oh well, I'm not...then that is another story and I'll need to explain the budget/plus one issue.
  
  Is anyone else frustrated with guests saying to me (after our RSVP date).."well I should be there".  Should isn't good enough!  If we are going to pay for you to be there, we need an answer!  Frustrating!
  

  

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