S/O If you could change anything...

erollis · June 2012

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[QUOTE] I wanted carnations for my bouquet, but got talked out of it because "carnations are for funerals."
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]
I had carnation bouquets. No one told me they were for funerals but I probably wouldn't of cared. Carnations are so pretty.<div>
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Natrasha · June 2012

I would have told our officiant not to talk about lovemaking during the ceremony. I also would have told him to go with "you may now kiss the bride" instead of "you may now kiss the groom." It never crossed my mind that I might have to state these things in our conversations.

I would have had a signature drink.

I would have had a different DJ. He sucked. It's too bad though because the company gets rave reviews. We just had a dud guy on an off day.

I would have dictated the speeches and toasts. We had 4 BMs and 4 GMs speak. And my dad gave a speech. And my mom gave a little speech before her slideshow. I knew the parents, but the wedding party just started lining up for the microphone. It was all very sweet but I still feel bad for our guests who had to sit through all of that talking!

I would have had a longer reception and changed into a party dress and jumped into the pool with the other dozen people!

brandichamberlain · June 2012

Our wedding is in a few weeks but I have serious dress regret. I'm getting less sad about it as the day gets closer, but overall, I wish I would have picked the one everyone said was too plain. I loved that dress. Also- I wish we wouldn't have had to move from Sept to July since it's outdoors. I guess we didn't have to, but it would have been so much harder to do it in Sept with how everything worked out.

Meegles4 · June 2012

I would've asked our venue manager to box up our dinners so we could take them back to the hotel after. We only ate a few bites so we could visit tables, and at the time I wasn't very hungry anyway. But I was hungry later!

I would've drank during dinner -- H and I decided to "take a break" from drinking to pace ourselves. But, once the reception really kicked off, I was so busy I didn't drink the rest of the night. No need to pace myself, after all.

I would've had my BMs loosen the corset of my dress sometime before dinner. That shiz was tight and along about 9 p.m. I wanted to die and had to make a break for the powder room where I wasted 40 minutes sitting there with my dress half off trying to breathe while everyone else was enjoying the reception.

I would've hired a different and cheaper DJ. One who got our married name right and played the right "first dance" song. Because, well, ours did neither of those things. Who knew I'd spend the rest of my life being jealous when couples dance to their preferred first song?

ski2play · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : Yeah I wish I hadn't invited one of cousins, she was high on pain pills and in the middle of the ceremony yelled at the top of her lungs, "Don't marry her just fuuuck her!" Looking back it's pretty funny though!
Posted by mari0225[/QUOTE]

There are no words Mari.

mari0225 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]It makes me sad that so many people regret their wedding dress.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

I think for me it's not so much the dress I regret it's the "not sticking to my WW diet better and losing the weight". I didn't have any regrets until I saw some of the professional pics.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2012

I think I also would have taken home more wedding cake...

mari0225 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : There are no words Mari.
Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]

Yeah I am kind of glad the video camera batteries died and couldn't video tape the ceremony in that instance.

brandichamberlain · June 2012

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[QUOTE]It makes me sad that so many people regret their wedding dress.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

I'm moping now that I've thought about it again. haha

baystateapple · June 2012

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[QUOTE]It makes me sad that so many people regret their wedding dress.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]
Yeah...

I had a bad experience at my first bridal salon -- the woman made comments about me being "plus-size" and how their samples wouldn't fit me. So I just went to DB and figured...at least they had samples that fit me and I wouldn't be spending an arm and a leg. But I had dress regret immediately, and although it fit perfectly and (at least I think) it looked good the day of, I do wish I'd really loved it instead of just thinking "well, this is fine."

erollis · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I regretted my dress too. Oh and I would have made sure that people actually ate the wedding cake. We got it for a super cheap price, but it still annoys me we threw away 99% of the cake.
Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]
One of my favorite parts of a wedding is eating the cake.

eorea · June 2012

I regret not having my hair done professionally. I had my make up done but skipped the hair. Big mistake. I looked liked a poodle by the end of the day. I wouldn't have wore my stupid veil either. I'm okay with our wedding pics but they are all the same. It bums me out a little but I'm happy overall.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2012

I don't regret my dress at all, I think it was the most gorgeous thing everrrrrr. I think I would have had it a size smaller though because the corset back was pretty much closed the whole way and I couldn't get it as tight as I wanted it around my hip area. But it looked gorgeous and no one probably notices the size thing except me.

It makes me sad that people regret their dresses too. I mean... it's so cliche and fucking annoying to hear, but weddings really are that one time when you're supposed to feel perfect and beautiful. And you shouldn't feel bad about it.

mari0225 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : Yeah... I had a bad experience at my first bridal salon -- the woman made comments about me being "plus-size" and how their samples wouldn't fit me. So I just went to DB and figured...at least they had samples that fit me and I wouldn't be spending an arm and a leg. But I had dress regret immediately, and although it fit perfectly and (at least I think) it looked good the day of, I do wish I'd really loved it instead of just thinking "well, this is fine."
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

My MOH who is plus size like me told me horror stories about going dress shopping and so I was terrified of going, so when the running of the brides came I went there and found my dress and was happy that it was too big...not the best idea.

strlzfan11 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]IWho knew I'd spend the rest of my life being jealous when couples dance to their preferred first song?
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

My sister & BIL didn't get theirs either. They sent the DJ the playlist the week of the wedding, and apparently he didn't get it until the day before and didn't think to call them to say he didn't have their first dance song. They were both pretty disappointed.

Habs2Hart · June 2012

Bay - You looked gorgeous though, if that helps.

[Deleted User] · June 2012

Had real flowers instead of silk
Walked down the aisle by myself (my dad had passed away, and my mom insisted my brother do it)
Skipped the father daughter dance for above reason

full disclosure....this was 1985!

eorea · June 2012

Bay, I loved your dress so much. I'm sorry you had a bad experience. I don't regret my dress. I think it was too much for my small beach wedding but I loved it. I do regret not getting alterations though. I think it could have fit better.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : Holyfuck whattacunt. And I actually even hate using that word. I also hate that most bridal salons carry only small sizes. I don't get it. <strong>The average size woman is like a 12 or 14 or something like that so having only size 6 & 8 (or smaller) samples makes zero sense.</strong>
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

This is my thought.

Meegles4 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : My sister & BIL didn't get theirs either. They sent the DJ the playlist the week of the wedding, and apparently he didn't get it until the day before and didn't think to call them to say he didn't have their first dance song. They were both pretty disappointed.
Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]

That is suuper lame that he didn't tell them he didn't have it...or didn't just go and download it, how hard is that?!?

Our DJ says it was a technical issue, but my beef was that he didn't tell us. We got out on the dance floor and another song started up. We sorta tried to stop dancing and flag him down, but it just kept going -- so we kept going -- and then when we were done he told us he couldn't get it to play so he just slotted something else in.

Whatevs.

I agree on the dress regret front. I was afraid I'd regret mine. I certainly didn't have a Say Yes to the Dress moment, and my love of it sort of waned after I picked it, but on the day? I loved the hell outta that thing.

RupertPenny · June 2012

I should have worn a tin foil hat like Eagles suggested in the other thread.

For real though, um, I don't know. I wish I hadn't gotten married in August, but we ended up with that date for many reasons, many of which we couldn't change. I wish that Hurricane Irene hadn't fuuucked up the entire east coast the week of my wedding, preventing several guests from coming at the last minute.

brandichamberlain · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : . I certainly didn't have a Say Yes to the Dress moment, and my love of it sort of waned after I picked it, but on the day? I loved the hell outta that thing.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

I'm hoping putting it on with my hair/makeup and how functional it will be on the day of (it's a two in one dress) that I'll end up being happy about it.

ski2play · June 2012

I had the same experience at one dress shop. As if it wasn't bad enough that I was all by myself in a new town when I went to the first shop. They only had dresses in tiny sizes so a few I had to hold up to myself to see if I liked it.

I love my dress. I am so siked to pick it up this weekend and wear it in two plus weeks!

erollis · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : Holyfuck whattacunt. And I actually even hate using that word. I also hate that most bridal salons carry only small sizes. I don't get it. The average size woman is like a 12 or 14 or something like that so having only size 6 & 8 (or smaller) samples makes zero sense.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]
I agree. <div>
</div><div>Sorry they were so awful to you Bay. Shopping for a dress should be a good experience. That is truely horrible what they did.</div>

whitsy · June 2012

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[QUOTE]It makes me sad that so many people regret their wedding dress.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

<div>I wanted a dress with an empire waist, which everyone said made me look pregnant. And maybe it did, but it was prettier and I was a lot more comfortable in it than I was in the dress I picked. I felt super unconformtable with the sleevless, the tight waist. It was pretty much opposite of what I wanted.</div>

strlzfan11 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: S/O If you could change anything... : That is suuper lame that he didn't tell them he didn't have it...or didn't just go and download it, how hard is that?!? Our DJ says it was a technical issue, but my beef was that he didn't tell us. We got out on the dance floor and another song started up. We sorta tried to stop dancing and flag him down, but it just kept going -- so we kept going -- and then when we were done he told us he couldn't get it to play so he just slotted something else in.Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

This was 10 years ago, so not as easy to download as it is now, but yeah they were both pretty upset about it. He came up to the head table just before dinner and told them, so it's not like they even had time to send someone to go pick up the cd (or even add it to the cd they had made with the BP entrance music).

MyUserName1 · June 2012

I had biiiitchy people in the first couple of salons I went to. I turned around and walked back out immediately.

The salon I ended up at had samples in sizes 0-24. And they weren't judgmental heifers about the fact that I wanted a short dress.

adamar15 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I think I also would have taken home more wedding cake...
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

This reminds me, I would have packed up our cake at the end of the night. It sat out on the table outside all night so we ended up throwing it away. The only bite I got was the bite H fed me. My mom had a really cute mini one made for our anniversary, though.

Habs2Hart · June 2012

my mom hated my dress until I put it on, then she came around. It was a bit trendy and not very typical, but I wanted something bridal, that was a bit off beat.

adamar15 · June 2012

Sometimes when I see a pretty dress I wish I'd gotten a fancier one, but it was a lot of fun making mine with my mom and H's grandma and it was so comfortable. Plus I will tie-dye eventually, and I'm pretty excited about that.

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