Keeping it a secert

Re: Keeping it a secert

• tawillers member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  Is the ink on his divorce papers dry yet?

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• hmonkey member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  what?  how old are you and how long have you been together?  does his family even know you're dating?

  

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  You should run far and fast in the other direction from him. 

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• baconsmom member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  A secret engagement? Really? Because he can't stand up to his family? 

  
  

  Kick him to the curb. Yesterday. 

  

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• baconsmom member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_keeping-secert?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:fa3a4617-b1bc-435f-a81e-7f257d6fd915Post:c6b60280-45d6-4d0f-8e19-809f4f4eea2c">Keeping it a secert</a>:
  [QUOTE]My FI and I are recently engaged and we are both very excited. We've done a small bit of planning but the problem is that I can't discuss ideas with anyone except for him because he wants to keep it a secret for a while. His reasoning for this is because he was married once before and because his ex was very pushy about it they went through with it fairly quickly. He doesn't want his family to get upset and freak out because he's engaged again but I want to tell the world! How should I handle this? Thanks girls!
  Posted by redtalent[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>Also, I'm a woman, not a girl. (Man, I am really cranky this morning. Usually I let that one slide.)
  
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• **O-Face** member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  That's just weird and I give this two thumbs down, a side-eye AND raised eyebrows.

  

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• redtalent

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  I'm 24 and he's 25, I've met his whole family and we get on great. His dad even makes comments about visiting America (he's British) to see his future grandchildren.  He's not doing it because he doesn't want them to know I think he's just afraid that they won't support our decision and he doesn't want to upset his family. Also, he's been divorced for about  2 years now so yes, the ink is stone dry.

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• arbolita

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_keeping-secert?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:fa3a4617-b1bc-435f-a81e-7f257d6fd915Post:b3fa65b8-4910-43e9-9c50-5be0720d1db9">Re: Keeping it a secert</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm 24 and he's 25, I've met his whole family and we get on great. His dad even makes comments about visiting America (he's British) to see his future grandchildren.  He's not doing it because he doesn't want them to know<strong> I think he's just afraid that they won't support our decision and he doesn't want to upset his family</strong>. Also, he's been divorced for about  2 years now so yes, the ink is stone dry.
  Posted by redtalent[/QUOTE]
  
  
  Re-read this statement.  Be prepared for it to become a recurring theme with every single life decision the two of you are going to make in the future.

  

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• GBCK member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  Being afraid they won't support / be upset = not wanting them to know because they won't support/be upset.
  
  Nothing good can come of being in a relationship w/ someone who needs it to be 'secret'.

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• baconsmom member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_keeping-secert?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:fa3a4617-b1bc-435f-a81e-7f257d6fd915Post:b3fa65b8-4910-43e9-9c50-5be0720d1db9">Re: Keeping it a secert</a>:
  [QUOTE]I'm 24 and he's 25, I've met his whole family and we get on great. His dad even makes comments about visiting America (he's British) to see his future grandchildren.  He's not doing it because he doesn't want them to know I think he's just afraid that they won't support our decision and he doesn't want to upset his family. Also, he's been divorced for about  2 years now so yes, the ink is stone dry.
  Posted by redtalent[/QUOTE]
  OK then, enjoy your closet, because you're never getting out of there. 

  

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• Butter Cookie member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  If he isn't old enough to tell his family it isn't up for discussion or old enough to know how to argue his point about the engagement he's certainly not ready for marriage. Run fast in the opposite direction to someone who isn't consumed with their family's opinions.

  

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