Confessions?

SarahPLiz · May 2011

I want to fire one of my staff members because she is too stupid for her position, but I can't bring myself to do it, because she's a crier, and I don't have anyone to do her job in the interim. She can't handle change, problem solve or use simple logic and its driving me favucking nuts. I literally want to strangle her today.

She used to work at a bank (albeit before the dawn of ACH because she's pushing 65) but can't read and reconcile daily ACH activity reports from our bank. They changed format over 2 weeks ago and I still have to go over them with her every goddamned morning. I have a feeling I am going to blow up soon, and it is not going to be pretty.

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

Sarah that sucks! Can you write it out for her so she'll leave you alone?

SarahPLiz · May 2011

Oh, I have. She has lists and lists of what to do with routine items because her logic doesn't work. I swear she has notebooks full. It takes her so long to do what she does because she always has to look up what to do with stuff she handles every day.

She'll be gone soon, but I don't have time to replace her inbetween now and maternity leave. When I'm gone, my boss might fire her for me, for asking too many dumb questions. That would be nice.

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

Let's hope your boss can do it instead of you. At least you won't have to see her during your maternity leave.

K&J64 · May 2011

I really really want to buy front row tickets to 311/Sublime with Rome, but it's now going to happen and it makes me sad. I'm debating if I should even get tickets at all. The prospect of not seeing 311 this summer makes me even more sad, it would be the first summer since 1999.

Nebb · May 2011

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[QUOTE]I want to fire one of my staff members because she is too stupid for her position, but I can't bring myself to do it, because she's a crier, and I don't have anyone to do her job in the interim. She can't handle change, problem solve or use simple logic and its driving me favucking nuts. I literally want to strangle her today. She used to work at a bank (albeit before the dawn of ACH because she's pushing 65) but can't read and reconcile daily ACH activity reports from our bank. They changed format over 2 weeks ago and I still have to go over them with her every goddamned morning. I have a feeling I am going to blow up soon, and it is not going to be pretty.
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]
I had to train an older lady at this impossibly easy job I had once and she just didnt get it, so slow. I incidentally made her cry once and I got sat down in an office with the owner, supervisor and her while she bawled her eyes out because of how mean I was.

All I did was get frustrated that it took her ALL MORNING to count a till, but I got in a ton of crap for it.

I feel your pain.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · May 2011

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[QUOTE]AATB, I can totally relate with H being sleepy all the time. He wakes up in the morning and the first thing he says half the time is, "It's an early bedtime for me tonight." Drives. Me. Crazy. We're usually in bed by 9:30 blah. BUT since Ben took such a long nap today you should just tell him he should be well rested for when you get home!
Posted by shaydenise[/QUOTE]

I texted him a while ago and basically ordered him to do me.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

I'm late but I have a confession...I confess that I will always be nice to FBIL's face because FI adores him so much but that I will probably never like him or forget how shiity he treated me last weekend.

cardmonsta · May 2011

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[QUOTE]I'm late but I have a confession...I confess that I will always be nice to FBIL's face because FI adores him so much but that I will probably never like him or forget how shiity he treated me last weekend.
Posted by sherrbearr22[/QUOTE]

<div>:( I'm sorry, Sherr.</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: Do you need to talk? PM me if you do. Any time you need meeee.</div>

TheCranberry · May 2011

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[QUOTE]I really really want to buy front row tickets to 311/Sublime with Rome, but it's now going to happen and it makes me sad. I'm debating if I should even get tickets at all. The prospect of not seeing 311 this summer makes me even more sad, it would be the first summer since 1999.
Posted by kcullen37[/QUOTE]

Why can't you get front row tix? Cost I assume? I think you should still go even if it's not front row. Sounds like you are a huge fan.

cdavislynn · May 2011

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[QUOTE]AATB, it's not so much miserable as just really emotional. I'd like to hope it's impending wedding emotions. But my parents are REALLY good at pushing my buttons. Love them, but sometimes...sigh. I am feeling better now that I finally had lunch, so maybe I was just exceptionally hungry earlier ;) That is QUITE possible.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

When my blood sugar is low and I am hungry, I act Bipolar. It's ok J&K. Just have lots of non-salty snacks on hand on your big day!

DodgersBride · May 2011

I just got my BM dress for my sister's wedding and I don't feel beautiful in it. It's a great dress and I adore it I just don't like the way I look in it. I also hate that clothing designers think bigger size=bigger boobs.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : :( I'm sorry, Sherr. ETA: Do you need to talk? PM me if you do. Any time you need meeee.
Posted by cardmonsta[/QUOTE]

Thanks, darlin! You're so sweet :)

TheCranberry · May 2011

DB, can you get it altered?

alyssag721 · May 2011

I confess that I am a Beezy. I need to be nicer/less honest sometimes.

I also confess that I have so much on my plate right now that all I want to do is ignore it and pretend it's not there. In fact I am procrastinating going to the library at this very second.

Lastly I confess that I hate pickles. They are cucumbers that sold their souls to the devil.

SarahPLiz · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : I had to train an older lady at this impossibly easy job I had once and she just didnt get it, so slow. I incidentally made her cry once and I got sat down in an office with the owner, supervisor and her while she bawled her eyes out because of how mean I was. All I did was get frustrated that it took her ALL MORNING to count a till, but I got in a ton of crap for it. I feel your pain.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
Thnaks for the commiseration. Its not so much that she's older, she just doesn't think. If she asks me one more question today, i am seriously going to tell her that she needs to go sit down and think about it because I don't have time to be her brain AND mine. She just listened to me get chewed out by my boss and I told her I'd be here until midnight trying to finish work that has been piling up because miss boss keeps throwing projects at me every 5 minutes for no apparent reason. <div>
</div><div>If she comes in here again it is not going to be pretty. </div>

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]<strong>I confess that I am a Beezy. I need to be nicer/less honest sometimes.</strong> I also confess that I have so much on my plate right now that all I want to do is ignore it and pretend it's not there. In fact I am procrastinating going to the library at this very second. Lastly I confess that I hate pickles. They are cucumbers that sold their souls to the devil.
Posted by alyssag721[/QUOTE]

samesies!!

DodgersBride · May 2011

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[QUOTE]DB, can you get it altered?
Posted by TheCranberry[/QUOTE]

It's not that big in the chest area. I think I could use that tape stuff to keep it in place. I think I am just bummed that the dress is not the size I would like to be.

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

Sherr, what happened? Who needs to get beat up? I am so in the mood to beat someone up.

TheCranberry · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions? : It's not that big in the chest area. I think I could use that tape stuff to keep it in place. I think I am just bummed that the dress is not the size I would like to be.
Posted by DodgersBride[/QUOTE]

If it will make you feel better in the dress, it's worth it. If you find a dry cleaner's or get a rec from someone it shouldn't be that bad. The store is usually more expensive. I get all of my suit pants altered, and it makes a huge difference. I may even start getting dresses altered because I'm small up top and big on the bottom.

[Deleted User] · May 2011

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[QUOTE]Lastly I confess that I hate pickles. They are cucumbers that sold their souls to the devil.
Posted by alyssag721[/QUOTE]

This made me laugh. Because it's so true.

I confess that I'm seriously questioning my job. I feel so unvalued there (nonvalued? disvalued? I don't know the right word). And it's pretty much tainting everything else. I just argued with my mom saying that she doesn't give a damn and it's not true at all. We're good now, I just realized that I'm looking at everything that way. H, family, work, TK, no one gives a flying fvck. I need to find a way to get over my pity party before it consumes me moreso than it already has.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

Well on Friday night FBIL was being irritating but he always is so I just tend to dish out whatever he's serving right back at him. He was saying how he's getting Jered a lapdance at his bach party because "Jered really wants one but only said he didn't because of you." And I was like 'hmm interesting because I never said anything about it. So if he told you he doesn't want one then maybe, just maybe he doesn't want one?..." I guess the fact that I don't care about it made him want to bring it up 15 more times.

Then on Saturday night we went to an annual brewfest but when we arrived I realized I did not have cell phone reception and I was on call with a client in the ER so I needed to be somewhere where I got service. I asked Jered if I left if he could catch a ride home with FBIL the next day. When I was getting ready to leave I asked Jered if he wanted to go home and he said he was soooo tired, all he wanted to do was go to bed. So we were leaving and FBIL grabs him and tells me "Jered is staying with me. He only wants to leave because you're making him." And I said that it was totally fine if he stayed. This went back and forth about 4 times of me saying, literally nothing, and him saying how controlling I was. Then he pushes me and tells me to get away from him and leave him alone. After he pushed me I was like "fuuck that" and found Jered and left.

I'm sorry I don't care how drunk anyone gets that crosses the line. I guess after I left he was saying to everyone who would listen that his brother is marrying the most controlling woman. If I was actually telling Jered what to do, I'd own it but for him to be an asshoole for no reason I'm just done with him.

cardmonsta · May 2011

Sherri, I don't blame you at all. He's acting really childish. And to push you? Way over the line. I'm sorry he acted that way.

Does FI know that happened? What does he think?

jasmineh7777 · May 2011

Sherr, if that bastard put his hands on you, you need to tell your FI. I don't care if he was drunk. That fucker best not be pushing you. Seriously. That boundary needs to be established right now. What a bastard.

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

FI was not there when it happened and the next day I asked him if he remembered anything and he said no so I didn't bring it up. Everytime I thought about it I thought I'd cry (I cry when I'm really mad).

I am also PMSing and wanted to talk to my sis before I said anything because I tend to get overly emotionally in the heat of the moment. Also, FMIL was so pissed at how FBIL was treating me that she called him a piece of shiit and it was all so Jerry Springer-ish that I was almost glad FI didn't remember anything so I didn't have to tell him how aweful that night was for me.

cardmonsta · May 2011

Sherr, you really need to tell your FI that he pushed you. That's outrageous. I know you don't want to start anything, but it's really important that your FI knows his brother did that.

cardmonsta · May 2011

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[QUOTE]I confess every time that I see monsta' siggy pic I think the name 'Beyonce' as actually a fart cloud. Why else would she be bending over?
Posted by kodakitty[/QUOTE]

<div>hahahahahahahahahaha!!! Thanks for giving me that image now. Forever.</div>

sherrbearr22 · May 2011

I know that you're right. And also, I'm sure that night will end up being brought up down the line. It just sucks because Jered looks up to FBIL so much and I just don't get it. He's such a biitch and I really don't like him. And I usually like everyone!

cardmonsta · May 2011

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[QUOTE]I know that you're right. And also, I'm sure that night will end up being brought up down the line. It just sucks because Jered looks up to FBIL so much and I just don't get it. He's such a biitch and I really don't like him. And I usually like everyone!
Posted by sherrbearr22[/QUOTE]

<div>:( You poor thing. It won't be easy, but he really needs to know that this happened.</div><div>
</div><div>Another thing I can't stand from the story is the whole, "OOOOH We're getting him a lapdance!!!" thing. Some of H's friends did that to me, too. I legitimately DID NOT CARE. At all. I don't understand why people were trying to get a rise out of me for that one.</div>

TheCranberry · May 2011

I agree with CM. He would probably be pissed if he knew FBIL pushed you, and he should lay down the law. Why is his brother so hostile? Can FI tell him to cool it?

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