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Bridesmaid Contact Info
Now that I've asked all of my bridesmaids (and they have all accepted) I wanted to share each of their contact info with the others in a cute way. When I asked them to be my bridesmaid (officially) I mailed them each the book "You can wear it again" with a note inside. I'd like to do something similar for the contact info - an email or typed letter just seems so impersonal - but can't come up with anything. Does anyone have any ideas?
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Re: Bridesmaid Contact Info
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Do what you want, but don't get pissy if everyone doesn't agree with your idea. When you put an idea on a public message board, not everyone is going to agree with it. Doesn't make them mean people. It means that some people would not find a unique/special/whatever contact card to be cute or even necessary.
In all honesty, I have no idea how you would make a contact card "cute." Stickers and construction paper and glitter come to mind, but that's probably not what you're asking for. Make a sticker and ahere it to a bottle of wine, maybe?
Edit: I didn't suggest they friend each other, they just did it on their own.
[QUOTE]ps. this is "cute" <a href="http://www.oncewed.com/16446/wedding-blog/diy-wedding/diy-bridesmaids-cards/" rel="nofollow">http://www.oncewed.com/16446/wedding-blog/diy-wedding/diy-bridesmaids-cards/</a>
Posted by blegare[/QUOTE]
Well if you think that's so flippin' cute then what are you asking us for? Just do that. Write their names on the front and contact info on the back. Pretend problem solved.
And buckle up sweetie. This isn't the first time in your life that you have gotten unsolicited advice and it won't be the last.
But, again, if you post something on a public message board, then it's open for comment. You can't just post something and then demand that people only give you certain kinds of answers.
The more details there are, the more people will comment. So if you feel that something isn't up for discussion, fine, just don't include it then.
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I would throw away a piece of paper with your friends' contact info on it because I don't want random papers cluttering up my house (even if they're cute papers), and then I'd just send an e-mail if it turned out I needed any of that information down the line.
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The first is burnout. No one will be as excited about your wedding as you are, and so sending off later information and items for BMs in a cutesy way may end up seeming more and more corny and overdone to them, increasing the chance that they'll become burned out on your wedding. And then you may end up like many other brides here who later complain that their BMs aren't "interested" in their wedding.
The second, more practical issue is that depending on how you do it, that information may be easier to misplace. If I get sent a bunch of paper items, I tend to lose them, not because I'm disorganized, but because I am a busy person and paper is not the best medium to keep track of (at least when we're talking about something with contact info). I may throw things away by accident, file it somewhere and then forget later, etc.
I also have a similar situation to you in the sense that all my BMs are OOT and spread out in different cities/states. I lucked out and was able to ask two of them in person, and my MOH I asked over the phone (I wanted to be able to hear her reaction). When I sent out contact information, I asked each BM's permission individually, and then I FB email messaged them with the info. That way, they would have at least two different ways of contacting each other, and also, nothing can get "lost" in the mail or kicked to the corner while they live their busy lives.
If you are just wanting DIY ideas, then there is a DIY board on TK. If you insist on doing this, it might be best to ask there (or try the magnet idea like PP said). But you asked on a discussion board...people aren't all going to like your ideas and you can't dictate responses. The best thing to do is to not take it personally, and at least consider what others are saying before making your own decision. Believe it or not, we are here to help each other.
[QUOTE]That's nice that they did that - I don't even think some of mine know who the others are besides in conversations they've had with me.
Posted by blegare[/QUOTE]
Why does it matter exactly? If you're bridesmaids want to do anything that requires them knowing each other outside the wedding date, they're big people and they'll figure it out or ask you for what they need. Since parties, showers, etc. are all optional, I don't think it's necessary for you to worry yourself about this. Think about other things.
Suz, geeze woman! You need to just chill out =P
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*facepalm*
Again - PUBLIC MESSAGE BOARD.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaid Contact Info :
And buckle up sweetie. This isn't the first time in your life that you have gotten unsolicited advice and it won't be the last.
Posted by suz62984[/QUOTE]
OH yeah. Very good point ... if you're getting this upset over message board posts, OP, then be prepared to flip out on absolutely every single person you come in contact with (friends, family, coworkers, vendors, message board posters, your great uncle twice removed) between now and your wedding day.
If you hate unsolicited advice, then you're going to<strong> hate</strong> being engaged. I'd suggest eloping right this second in that case.
I just sent my girls a couple of group emails, so they had each other's email addresses if they wished. They weren't all in the same room together until the day of the wedding, which was fine. They're not a new social group, and they don't have to be. They're friends with YOU, not necessarily with each other. I ditto Emily that something like that would probably just get thrown away. I MIGHT enter their contact info into my address book first, but I probably wouldn't feel the need.
If you want to send them something cutesy, go right ahead, it's your time and money. But don't be surprised if it doesn't have quite the effect you're hoping for.
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Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
If you want a cute DIY project, why not put their contact info on a tree graphic.
Make it look like a cute "phone tree."
Personally, I think one group email works just as well as cutesy, and saves your WP time. If you send something "cute" then they have to transfer the info to their own computer. A group email, and voila! They have the contact info without having to physically transfer the info. From there they can get phone numbers, etc. if they care to.
And I do want to second aerin. The one thing that everyone has in common is you. They don't have to be, nor will they likely become a new social group.
I've had one son and one DD married now. Everyone in both WP's was cordial to each other, and even had fun at the respective weddings. But once the weddings were over, I know that my DD's haven't ever talked again with my DIL's friends. And I know that my DIL and younger DD haven't talked with older DD's (bride's) college friends.
Don't read too much into your WP becoming bffs. And don't get upset when they don't.
If I'm sent a piece of paper, it goes in the trash, if I get info in an email it's saved and I can find it later and get that info. Logistically, in this day and age I'm sure most people would prefer an email.
I literally just put:
Hey guys!
FYI...
Girl 1 : 555-5555 something@something.com
Girl 2: 000-0000 somethingelse@something.com
and so on......
They have it if they need it. If they don't need it then I only wasted 30 seconds of my life typing it out. I just don't think this type of thing would be appreciated in a "cute" form.
That said, I think sending the info electronically as a back up is a good idea.
Do what you want with getting the contact info out - you're not hurting anyone so if you want to make this into a "cutesy" and fun project I say go for it!